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Blur
September 7th, 2012, 09:46 PM
I really do.
Yes, I know what it looks and sounds like.
I know people say you shouldn't "hunt" for partners (girlfriends) when meeting new people (girls) but it seems to me that's what I'd be doing if I wasn't so reserved (but I probably wouldn't be in this position if I wasn't reserved. I'm diverging, let's get back on track.).

I guess it could also be some sort of hookup (though no sex yet, I'm not a manwhore) as I just want to get my mind off of girls right now. This year will be a load of work and I also want to work on my music production.

Here's why:
(Should start off by saying I've never had a real kiss or anything further down the road. Had the chance to once, but bro code first.)

I started watching galleries of jailbait pics (don't worry, they're non-nude) and thought I could replace my regular porn with it from time to time.
Only now I do not use it as porn, instead I go through dozens of pics and check out girls essentially in a non-sexual way. Hell I've even crushed on a girl on I saw.
Saved the link and can't stop filtering porn by "ponytail brunette" with preferably light colored eyes.
Let me tell you right now, black haired girls with ponytails are hard to find or don't have the exact same hairstyle I expect.
Yup, it's gotten to this point and I don't want to be that guy.
This is more of a rant/"relate to this" story rather than an advice seeking thread, but share away any advice as you wish!

Tl;dr: I'm turning 16 in a week and I need a girlfriend or I'll be into tentacle porn.

TigerBoy
September 8th, 2012, 03:05 AM
Well done for sticking to the bro code. Honour and self integrity are reallly really commendable in my opinion.

Ok so this is really huge for you, but it sounds like you've got some good perspective on it just by writing it out here.

First off, you know very well (cos you've said it here yourself) "crushes" are basically some wierd programming in your brain, and not a 'real' relationship which is going to go anywhere. End of, we can't fix that for you.

Start....
If you want a real brunette with a ponytail you aren't going to meet her through porn. You need to talk to girls and socialise. There are forum stickies giving advice on this you could read.

Don't ...
Judge girls by their looks. Sad to say but you could find a girl who matches your current fantasy and turns out to be a total bitch who could really hurt you.

Stop...
You have some bad habits you need to get yourself out of, they are just hurting you inside. Maybe stick up a few posters but stop spending your time obsessing on the computer. Try to limit yourself - time an hour, then 45 mins, then 30 ... bring it down as far as you can.

Avoid ...
tentacles. Thats some wierd shit right there.

Blur
September 8th, 2012, 06:41 AM
Thanks for the input. I came across some of your other posts, you seem like a cool guy and by the way: welcome to VT! (kind of late but it's cool I guess).

On-topic: I know about my looks preference right now and I happen to know it'll wear out. It's just that it's hard to find a girl that meets my standards (which are probably out of my league) that actually likes me.

But that was probably me just ranting at 4am so I'm probably just being melodramatic since that happens to 99% of guys.

P.S: Tentacle porn - never seen it, never will.