What's going on?

[Keyson]

I have a girlfriend of 3 months now.

I'm 18(Almost) and she's 18 already. (A few days ago.)

Anyways we've been dating for three months. Long Distance mostly.
Over the summer I got to see her twice during the time I was staying with a friend. (She lives in another state) We seemed to connect good and like each other and continued to up until around August 29. I'm not near her anymore so we mostly speak on Skype. However it feels like she's fading away from me?
I've talked to her for the past week about it. How she doesn't seem to care anymore and everything. She takes awhile to respond to my texts(I can handle that) But she doesn't even put effort into it. It used to be we would have good long conversations, but now when I ask her how her day was, she's like 'It was okay' and then doesn't ask me back or anything. When she's talking to one of her friends or someone she seems so happy and is always asking them stuff, but with me she doesn't smile as much anymore or talk. It feels like I'm having a one sided conversation with myself! She doesn't ask me anything at all or laugh when I make jokes. When we are Skype'ing with other people she is always happy and talking to them, but when it's just us...she doesn't. I Love her. I really do. She says that I'm over thinking it. Am I? She said that she really does care and everything...but I don't know anymore. I DO NOT want to break up with her. It's just that all these feelings are beating the shit out of my emotional state of mind. I have to think about her and school and moving. (I'm moving near her this Winter)

I'm so lost. It just feels like she doesn't care at all. Like I said she's happy and laughing with others, but when it's just me and her she just seems to fade away...

[starring molly]

I have a girlfriend of 3 months now.

I'm 18(Almost) and she's 18 already. (A few days ago.)

Anyways we've been dating for three months. Long Distance mostly.
Over the summer I got to see her twice during the time I was staying with a friend. (She lives in another state) We seemed to connect good and like each other and continued to up until around August 29. I'm not near her anymore so we mostly speak on Skype. However it feels like she's fading away from me?
I've talked to her for the past week about it. How she doesn't seem to care anymore and everything. She takes awhile to respond to my texts(I can handle that) But she doesn't even put effort into it. It used to be we would have good long conversations, but now when I ask her how her day was, she's like 'It was okay' and then doesn't ask me back or anything. When she's talking to one of her friends or someone she seems so happy and is always asking them stuff, but with me she doesn't smile as much anymore or talk. It feels like I'm having a one sided conversation with myself! She doesn't ask me anything at all or laugh when I make jokes. When we are Skype'ing with other people she is always happy and talking to them, but when it's just us...she doesn't. I Love her. I really do. She says that I'm over thinking it. Am I? She said that she really does care and everything...but I don't know anymore. I DO NOT want to break up with her. It's just that all these feelings are beating the shit out of my emotional state of mind. I have to think about her and school and moving. (I'm moving near her this Winter)

I'm so lost. It just feels like she doesn't care at all. Like I said she's happy and laughing with others, but when it's just me and her she just seems to fade away...

I can be a cold heartless bitch like this girl. Here is what you do to 'reel' her back on.

1) Women do not like needy men. (Even though I am a lesbian; the same is true of needy girls.)
2) IGNORE HER for a week.
3) DO NOT TEXT DO NOT CALL FOR 1 WEEK.
4) She will get insecure and wonder what happened to you.
5) When she contacts you; you tell her of a new girlfriend. (Even if made up.)
6) Abruptly end the text/convo after you tell her of the 'new girl.' She will come chasing...

molly

[FullyAlive]

I can be a cold heartless bitch like this girl. Here is what you do to 'reel' her back on.

1) Women do not like needy men. (Even though I am a lesbian; the same is true of needy girls.)
2) IGNORE HER for a week.
3) DO NOT TEXT DO NOT CALL FOR 1 WEEK.
4) She will get insecure and wonder what happened to you.
5) When she contacts you; you tell her of a new girlfriend. (Even if made up.)
6) Abruptly end the text/convo after you tell her of the 'new girl.' She will come chasing...

molly

Don't tell her you have a new girlfriend cause that's cheating and she will break up with you.

Okay you're moving in winter so you just need to keep long distance up for what 3 months? Well don't get too clingy, don't reply to her texts instantaneously either, seem to go out a lot obviously though still make time for her. When you seem to have a life that doesn't include her she might act like she used to again. Just focus on being near and make plans for that but don't push too much.

Kind of step off a bit allow her to have a bit of breathing space. But don't ignore her all together do that and she might realise she doesn't need you after all and you don't want her to do that.

[Keyson]

You guys want me to give her space to see if she will try to 'pull me back'?

[starring molly]

Don't tell her you have a new girlfriend cause that's cheating and she will break up with you.

Okay you're moving in winter so you just need to keep long distance up for what 3 months? Well don't get too clingy, don't reply to her texts instantaneously either, seem to go out a lot obviously though still make time for her. When you seem to have a life that doesn't include her she might act like she used to again. Just focus on being near and make plans for that but don't push too much.

Kind of step off a bit allow her to have a bit of breathing space. But don't ignore her all together do that and she might realise she doesn't need you after all and you don't want her to do that.


The girl is not his girlfriend; hence she can not break up with him. Secondly, she has NO interest in him whatsoever. Are you fucking retarded???

call me bitter scorn,
molly

[StoppingTime]

Are you fucking retarded???




Let's not insult or yell at members, please.

[starring molly]

Let's not insult or yell at members, please.

I am very sorry; but I am trying to help this guy; yet no one is trying to help me. Again; I am in a very bad place; unstable with medication. please tell the moderator that I insulted that I am very sorry...

Pills........wine.........ambien......

molly

[West Coast Sheriff]

Just so some restraint and maybe she'll talk to you. If your bothering her to much shell ignore you. I've learned from experience girls want you to show some restraint.

[Keyson]

Guys? :(

[Foamy]

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but long distance relationships usually never work out. She's fading away because you guys can't be together more often.