Well that didn't go as planned...

[Green Arrow]

So plucked up the courage to tell my mum that I am gay last night, it took all day to do it and when I did tell her she said "it's just a phase" and that apparently I "don't know what" I am feeling. :l I don't know what I should do. :(

[Breakeven]

So plucked up the courage to tell my mum that I am gay last night, it took all day to do it and when I did tell her she said "it's just a phase" and that apparently I "don't know what" I am feeling. :l I don't know what I should do. :(

awww tom :hug: did u try to tell her that its who u are and its not a phase
p.s : im proud of u that u came out that takes alot of courage

[Mortal Coil]

Wow, I'm really sorry about that. It took a lot of guts to come out and that reaction must have been crushing. She's hopefully just surprised and the info hasn't sunk in yet, so she's in denial. She will come around eventually, and in the long run, an underreaction is better than an overreaction.

(By the way, how cool is it that we have the same quote in our signatures? :D)

[Cameron14]

At least it's on the table now and you have done your part. She needs to consider her reaction. Don't feel pressurized into proving anything.

[Sonic Boom]

As everyone else has said, you've done your part now. Your mum will eventually realize it's not a phase but rather a part of who you are. Just give her time.

[RCT109]

hey man
that sucks but hey u gained the courage to do it and thats all that matters

[Abyssal Echo]

congrats on comming out to your mom I know it took alot for you to do it. As Evil Angel said maybe its just not sunk in yet. it took my mom awhile too. Just be yourself give her time she will see its not a phase.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Sorry she reacted to you like that but you did your part(and be proud of that) and did nothing wrong. You don't need to talk to her about it anymore. And remember we all care for you and are here to talk

[OregonStateDude]

Why do some parents always think it's a phase? That is so frustrating. Now I'm wondering if my mom will feel the same way whenever I drum up the courage to tell her.

Maybe for some gay kids it is a phase, but you have to figure they were never really gay to begin with.

[Dimitri]

Hey dude, first off congratulations, that takes balls my friend.

And secondly, do not worry, I think it is more of a "phase" for her...my dad was somewhat that way...until I introduced him to Joshua, that completely changed his mind. It let him know I was being serious.

If you ever need to chat drop me a line...My door is always open.

[StoneColdNicky]

I guess it's not the worst reaction. She'll probably just need some time to get used to the idea, and see you in a new light in a way. I actually thought that maybe it was a phase in myself, and one day I'd just kind of be over guys, before I realised that it is kind of a forever deal.

[horizonlooker]

Aw/: No bueno. Explain to her that it's not just a phase, and if she doesn't believe you well you can keep trying or just go along like she knows. After all, you did tell her!

[RoseyCadaver]

It just takes time for parents. For a while my mum thought the same thing.
Bitch knows she's wrong now.

[Mirage]

Gah, sorry. Some people are just like that and as an above poster said an underreaction is way better than an overreaction!

[Green Arrow]

She forced me to tell my dad as well who also thinks it's a phase they think I should wait a while before I make any rash decisions. I know who I am and the feelings I am feeling, I've been "discovering" myself over the past few years and I have discovered that I've always had feelings for guys not girls. But they jus seem to think that I haven't found the right girl yet. :L

Thanks for all your support guys. :(

(By the way, how cool is it that we have the same quote in our signatures? :D)
Great minds think alike ;)

Why do some parents always think it's a phase? *That is so frustrating. *Now I'm wondering if my mom will feel the same way whenever I drum up the courage to tell her.

Maybe for some gay kids it is a phase, but you have to figure they were never really gay to begin with.
I don't know but my parents need to open their eyes and see the truth! :(

[Skyhawk]

Give it time. They will realise that it's not a phase eventually. ;)

[LoveMe_HateMe]

My parents think it's a phase.. Well, I think hope is probably a better word for it.

But I've been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half sooo... I just leave my parents to it. At the end of the day they know that I'm happy and I think they're relieved I'm not still with my ex, and they're safe in the knowledge that I wont accidently become pregnant.

Just give it some time and you're parents will (hopefully) accept it as a part of who you are, whether it's a phase or not.

And congrats on coming out! :) Wish I'd had the opportunity to do that myself, but hey ho.

[Green Arrow]

Thanks guys it just really frustrating that they're not accepting me. :(