Advice Would Be Nice

[Dangoblin]

**I wasnt sure whether to post this in relationships or depression. Feel free to move it if its in the wrong spot**


Soo, where should i start? Well lets say, I've had a crush on this guy in school for like a year and a half now.... and i need to figure out what im doing. I want to move on since hes out of my league and i dont even talk to him. The problem though is that i just cant get over him. Today was the second day of school and i don't think I've even eaten anything for the past two days. I just get really depressed every time i see him. My best friend, who knows I'm gay, has been trying to help me get over him, but shes not the best at advice. She actually told me that I'm more likely idolizing him, and I'm starting to think shes right. I just feel like, even though i hardly know him, there's always a chance he could be interested. I don't know if hes gay or bi, but how he acts, it doesn't really seem like it. I cant get over him because if what i just said. I need him to tell me in person that hes not interested. If i knew that, then i would know i don't have a chance. But its the thought that there is a chance that he could be gay that's keeping me obsessing over him. My friend tried to tell me to "think of the bad things about him". I honestly don't know anything bad about him, but she told me that "hes a dickhead to girls and has an anger issue". I cant even imagine him having an anger issue so do you really think I'm going to believe that? I feel that i need to hear these things from him in order for me to believe it. So does anyone know how to get over someone that they "idolize"?

PS. (please please please don't tell me to talk to him because just like i said, he's out of my league and that would be really weird. Also, if i tried talking to him, ism sure i would end up slipping over all my words and make it completely obvious that i like him.

PPS. Also, please don't tell me to look for another person. I'm so in love with this guy that i actually start to compare anyone who i think is cute to him.

[dontfiguremeout]

My advice is not to think about him! But doesn't really matter if he's out of your league. (I know I'm telling you advice you don't want at all, but it might actually help you more than you think!) You really should go talk to him! But when you do, approach him like you wanna become friends, and really set your mind to that! I'm pretty sure you then won't be so trippy, and everything will turn out fine! But I honestly think you should become friends with him! You would then get to know more than you would have never known not being friends with him! Even if that means giving him a fb message to start so you don't act all trippy in the beginning! Because what I'm seeing is not really the crush part, but more of you wanna get to know him like a friend type! I mean otherwise if it was just crush and you were over him, you wouldn't be thinking about him! Usually I think about people whom don't like know me personally because I want to be their friends!

[ashdyn]

My advice is not to think about him! But doesn't really matter if he's out of your league. (I know I'm telling you advice you don't want at all, but it might actually help you more than you think!) You really should go talk to him! But when you do, approach him like you wanna become friends, and really set your mind to that! I'm pretty sure you then won't be so trippy, and everything will turn out fine! But I honestly think you should become friends with him! You would then get to know more than you would have never known not being friends with him! Even if that means giving him a fb message to start so you don't act all trippy in the beginning! Because what I'm seeing is not really the crush part, but more of you wanna get to know him like a friend type! I mean otherwise if it was just crush and you were over him, you wouldn't be thinking about him! Usually I think about people whom don't like know me personally because I want to be their friends!

Agreed. You can't ask for advice then tell us you don't want to hear what we think would be the best advice lol

I know there is such a thing as a person totally out of your league, but no one is too good to be talked to. Try finding a mutual friend that can help you get closer to him. Once you start spending some time around him (even if only as an acquaintance) you can see that he's not this super untouchable god but probably just a regular guy. You can also probably tell from being around him if he's straight or not. If you can't figure it out without him saying it to your face then you're stuck lol If that's the only way for you to get over him then become his friend, tell him your gay, wait for him to tell you if he is or not, then deal with the fallout. I think you're better of just befriending him lmao good luck!

[West Coast Sheriff]

Try your best to forget about him and maybe find anyone else. If there's any one else you might find attractive that your not afraid to talk to. Talk to this new guy and maybe you'll get over the first guy.

[Dangoblin]

Agreed. You can't ask for advice then tell us you don't want to hear what we think would be the best advice lol

I know there is such a thing as a person totally out of your league, but no one is too good to be talked to. Try finding a mutual friend that can help you get closer to him. Once you start spending some time around him (even if only as an acquaintance) you can see that he's not this super untouchable god but probably just a regular guy. You can also probably tell from being around him if he's straight or not. If you can't figure it out without him saying it to your face then you're stuck lol If that's the only way for you to get over him then become his friend, tell him your gay, wait for him to tell you if he is or not, then deal with the fallout. I think you're better of just befriending him lmao good luck!

Wouldnt you find it odd if someone randomly messaged you on facebook? I could see it if he was a girl (I mean i have girls who i dont even know messaging me) and its kinda obvious that they like me. My brother and newly adopted sister have classes with him, but i dont think theyre friends.. (Hes more of a cool kid and my brother is just weird lol).... I just dont know what to do... I made a pact that since today is friday, i can admire him from afar, but after today i have to get over him.

[dontfiguremeout]

You got to just get over that! You are the one who makes it awkward! I did that to someone because I wanted to get to know them in real life, and I did message them first (it was a guy), and he messaged back and stuff, so not awkward at all! You need to not be shy.