TigerBoy
September 6th, 2012, 06:21 AM
Yeah so this is eating away at me so I'm just doing a brain dump because its not even really clear in my head ....
So this is mainly one for gay guys but all views welcome.
Ok so my boyfriend is younger. Normally I'm the one doing the talking and stuff around people although I'm naturally shy its kind of expected because I'm older I suppose.
So the thing that's really on my mind is that honestly I really like when he takes charge when we're playing around in private. I mean I guess we just keep swapping off depending on our moods, but I'm starting to think we both prefer it when he is running the show, and I keep wondering if I should bet letting him do that because I'm the oldest.
And trying to be the sensible older one is a big deal for us right now because we don't want to go too far (i.e anal sex) because this is a new relationship (friends all our lives but the going out together is new this summer) and also because we need to wait 6 months until he's 16.
So I get really tempted sometimes and I can hold myself from taking that last step. But when its more him taking charge, I feel kind of guilty somehow because if he starts going there (like to do more) I sometimes have to tell him 'no' which hurts both of us cos I really want him to do that to me too, more than the other way if I'm honest.
Should I be letting him take control?
Does that make me look crap if I want that? (I'm scared this makes me look really weak, tbh).
Is letting him be 'in charge' in private bad for our relationship?
I'm feeling really sensitive about this stuff so if you're a straight boy and just want to lay into me for being a fag and stuff, I really can live without that right now thanks. Part of me is already doing that just fine.
So this is mainly one for gay guys but all views welcome.
Ok so my boyfriend is younger. Normally I'm the one doing the talking and stuff around people although I'm naturally shy its kind of expected because I'm older I suppose.
So the thing that's really on my mind is that honestly I really like when he takes charge when we're playing around in private. I mean I guess we just keep swapping off depending on our moods, but I'm starting to think we both prefer it when he is running the show, and I keep wondering if I should bet letting him do that because I'm the oldest.
And trying to be the sensible older one is a big deal for us right now because we don't want to go too far (i.e anal sex) because this is a new relationship (friends all our lives but the going out together is new this summer) and also because we need to wait 6 months until he's 16.
So I get really tempted sometimes and I can hold myself from taking that last step. But when its more him taking charge, I feel kind of guilty somehow because if he starts going there (like to do more) I sometimes have to tell him 'no' which hurts both of us cos I really want him to do that to me too, more than the other way if I'm honest.
Should I be letting him take control?
Does that make me look crap if I want that? (I'm scared this makes me look really weak, tbh).
Is letting him be 'in charge' in private bad for our relationship?
I'm feeling really sensitive about this stuff so if you're a straight boy and just want to lay into me for being a fag and stuff, I really can live without that right now thanks. Part of me is already doing that just fine.