So, I've been eating lunch alone...

[Wonder.]

It's currently 1:10 AM Right now so I'm sorry if this gets really confusing. I blame tiredness.

In six hours and twenty minutes, I will be starting my third day of school. It's gone pretty well actually. Now, getting to the actual point of this:

The past two days I have been completely alone during lunch. I don't really mind it that much - last year it happened a couple times - but I know it's going to start getting to me. I'm one of those people who actually like being alone but a half an hour everyday surrounded by people talking with each other and having fun is going to be hell.

Last year I ate lunch every day with my best friend but over the summer she moved away. I do have friends that I talk to during class but I don't really have any want to be with them during lunch. They either have friends that I really dislike or I would just feel really awkward with them.

Like I said, I don't mind being alone. I have time to write and draw and sneak onto my phone while watching for teachers but (not to sound desperate) I NEED friends. Winter will be coming soon which means my seasonal depression will start again and I seriously won't be able to handle it while being alone. When I'm with people, I barely even feel depressed and when I do I can just stay quiet and hide it pretty well.

The biggest problem I have is that everyone already has their social groups. They have since sixth-fucking-grade. I am a rather quiet person but I can speak when I need to, shyness is not an issue. It's just that nobody wants to talk to someone new. Plus I don't really give off the "friendly" attitude with the way I look. I have dark, red tinted hair, eyebrows that point downwards, and a mouth that refuses to smile. I've even been called down to the guidance office because teachers worry about me because I don't show any emotions and I rarely speak.

So, the question I'm asking (after that long-ass randomness) is, what should I do? How can I find people to hang out with? I have read the sticky but unfortunately, that works better for middle school when there wasn't clusters of people.

Thank you in advance if you respond. Even if you just read all of this I appreciate it. I'm confused.



Also, the school food sucks so much. The first day of school, the main meal was bread saturated in butter with old, overcooked cheese on top. I just wanted to throw that out there.


UPDATE: Today during lunch I sat and talked with a girl I kinda know who was sitting alone. It didn't go too bad. I'm not sure if she was just randomly alone though or if she's usually alone. If she's alone again tomorrow I'll probably go sit with her again. If anyone wants to respond though and help me with my friend problems, I would still appreciate it.

[TigerBoy]

^ Me at junior school. I'd rather sit and read than do kid stuff and be sociable.

Nothing wrong with it but it sounds like you've got a bit of a solution coming along. That and bringing in the Foods Standards people to sort out your kitchens.

Anyways, shyness sucks. You have been stuck in a vicious cycle but you've already broken it by talking to this girl. Do that a few more times and you'll be fine.

Also, I dont know how come no one has responded before, but I think maybe its just that everyone has this problem to an extent. There are stickies about making friends in this site so worth a read probably. Like a user manual for people like us who live in our own heads too much :) Good luck!

[Nathan Numberless]

Lol, You could have aspergers syndrome: A mildish form of autism.
It's really nothing bad, just do some research on it.

[HunterSteele]

The past two days I have been completely alone during lunch. I don't really mind it that much - last year it happened a couple times - but I know it's going to start getting to me. I'm one of those people who actually like being alone but a half an hour everyday surrounded by people talking with each other and having fun is going to be hell.
I'm pretty much the same, except instead of the past two days and "a couple of times" last year, it's every day for the last 7 years. (Before grade 4 we had to stay in our seats during lunch time, so there was someone around). It only started to really bother me around two years ago.

After I finish my lunch, I listen to music and play games on my iPod to pass the time. It's not that bad if I don't think about it. Sometimes I watch the groups of people and daydream about how nice it would be to join them, but that just makes me feel worse.

What should you do? Well I don't know. If I did, I wouldn't be sitting here. I thought it might make sense to try talking to someone else who eats alone, but there aren't that many of them and if they're alone, maybe it's because they want to be and having me interrupt them will just be a nuisance. Besides, I don't know what to say to anyone.

[Steve Jobs]

You aren't alone dude. I guess it's different for me being in college, and at times I may seem sociable. Usually I'd rather be alone than to do meaningless things with people though. It depresses the shit out of me sometimes :(

[Stephan]

Yep I ride the same boat as Olly (TigerBoy) in post #2 I'm typically in the libaray reading stuff on my smart phone, not really doing anything socialable. I already stopped seeing all my friends knowing that we already don't have the same free periods and they all take higher level classes, where I'm taking all the lowest ones, meh..

[Cicero]

There is so many people like this, the best advice is to just go up and ask to sit with a group you think you'll like. If you're shy, get out of your comfort zone. If you never say hi to anyone. Just say, hey how are you?

[West Coast Sheriff]

Befriend that girl yo ate lunch wit, get 2 know her, that's my only advice for right now though

[Danny_boi 16]

Well I know this sounds hard, But I sit with whom ever i please. I'm just bubbly and jumpy a lot a people enjoy my presence. So i don't care where i sit, as long as i just sit.

[wild1]

Join some after school things and make some friends. Then you can sit with different people at lunch you know from them. Besides, you might actually have a good time too.

[May_Star]

I've eaten alone some time when I was still a sophomore. I left my circle of friends, and spent most of my time in the library. I remember eating lunch real quick or not eating lunch at all because I didn't want to be looked down upon on as the stereotypical "loner." Anyhow.

Are there any clubs at school that can help you meet new people? Maybe you can also join one of the social groups, even if you don't talk as much. If they're fine having another person on the table, then they wouldn't mind if you're not the talkative type. Best of luck with the girl you ate lunch with. :]

[Syvelocin]

Well, I was going to suggest the exact thing that happened to you, but great :P

I had the same trouble and what always helped me was eating with the people who were also eating alone. They appreciate it as much as you would have and it leads to the creation of more than that. Or at the least, you don't feel so alone for one day.

[SpasticatedPengiun]

From my past expirience, winter is a great time to make friends, go out and join a snowball fight, its actually really fun and once people realise that you're good (either as a distraction or as a actuall player) they will want to pick you constantly and you will become more popular. :D

[HunterSteele]

...go out and join a snowball fight, its actually really fun and once people realise that you're good (either as a distraction or as a actuall player) they will want to pick you constantly and you will become more popular. :D
That is, if you're actually good as a distraction or as a player.