lost my best-friend

[oceandude33a]

so i had this friend ive known him for over 6 years, hes 2 year younger then me he was honestly my best friend and he was like that little brother i always wanted. I swam with him since i was like 9 and still do, i went on surf trips with him and we hang out all the time, but in the summer we both work so we dont see each other as much and this summer it was like never. and he wasnt really answering my texts or just saying he coulnt hang out and then i would see on instagram or facebook him chillen with other kids and it pissed me off. so i texted him a long message explaining how i fell asking if where still friends anymore and we talked a bit then he just stoped. week went by and no improvment sent some "yo what up" texts but nothing so i waited and sent another long message and he didnt respond. so then i appoligized for sending the messages and nothing, couple days later i noticed i had a blocked missed call and voicemail so on my break i listened to it and it was one of his friends mocking me about the messages i sent to him and then he blocked me from facebook and instagram.

I am really confused and wondering what i did wrong or if i am wrong, and what i should do bc where on a 2 week break from swim and start agian in a couple days and dont kno how to go about it. thanks for any help

[Nathan Numberless]

I hear stuff like this all the time= he's taken you for advantage and stopped respecting you as a friend.

[Noirtier]

I know you don't want to hear this, but it's over. He's moved on for whatever reason, he's stabbed you in the back and abandoned you, left you in the dust. It's happened to me a lot of times. People do shit like that because they're mean, cruel, and cold hearted. He's taken advantage of your friendship, tossed you to the side, and betrayed your trust. He's refuse any offers of reconciliation and attempts to further the friendship. There's nothing more you can do. I know it will be hard seeing him at swimming, and you can confront him if you want, but I think it would be best to just move on. In all honesty, I doubt if he will bother you at swimming. When it happened to me, he played soccer with me. He didn't bother me at soccer, although he did do everything he could to avoid me. Look for someone else hun. I know it hurts, I know it's hard. But it's for the best.

[West Coast Sheriff]

He's probably not ur friend anymore. Sorry but he's just a dickhead

[AppealToReason]

Sadly, this happens a bit to a lot of people. You may not want to admit it, but your friendship seems over. You've drifted apart and there's not much you can do because the problem seems to be on his end. I'll keep my advice short, move on. You can't change someone, and it seems that he is too immature to talk about the problem, so it's time to leave him in the past and fine better, more loyal friends than he.

[Abyssal Echo]

I know you don't want to hear this, but it's over. He's moved on for whatever reason, he's stabbed you in the back and abandoned you, left you in the dust. It's happened to me a lot of times. People do shit like that because they're mean, cruel, and cold hearted. He's taken advantage of your friendship, tossed you to the side, and betrayed your trust. He's refuse any offers of reconciliation and attempts to further the friendship. There's nothing more you can do. I know it will be hard seeing him at swimming, and you can confront him if you want, but I think it would be best to just move on. In all honesty, I doubt if he will bother you at swimming. When it happened to me, he played soccer with me. He didn't bother me at soccer, although he did do everything he could to avoid me. Look for someone else hun. I know it hurts, I know it's hard. But it's for the best.

I agree with Noirtier I have been there myself sadly he was not really your friend in the first place he used you and now has moved on. I know its hard but at least you know you tried to find out what happened he was the one that was ass hole not you. its best that you move on and forget him.

[Avenida105]

If you lost it then it was never a true best friend. Real friends stick with you no matter what. Sadly most of us think we have close friends, but it really sucks when you find out they aren't

[Edawg]

so i had this friend ive known him for over 6 years, hes 2 year younger then me he was honestly my best friend and he was like that little brother i always wanted. I swam with him since i was like 9 and still do, i went on surf trips with him and we hang out all the time, but in the summer we both work so we dont see each other as much and this summer it was like never. and he wasnt really answering my texts or just saying he coulnt hang out and then i would see on instagram or facebook him chillen with other kids and it pissed me off. so i texted him a long message explaining how i fell asking if where still friends anymore and we talked a bit then he just stoped. week went by and no improvment sent some "yo what up" texts but nothing so i waited and sent another long message and he didnt respond. so then i appoligized for sending the messages and nothing, couple days later i noticed i had a blocked missed call and voicemail so on my break i listened to it and it was one of his friends mocking me about the messages i sent to him and then he blocked me from facebook and instagram.

I am really confused and wondering what i did wrong or if i am wrong, and what i should do bc where on a 2 week break from swim and start agian in a couple days and dont kno how to go about it. thanks for any help

You didn't do anything wrong bro. You didn't do anything wrong. If you ever want somebody to talk to, just pm me. I'll listen and try to help you

[Pierce]

Somethign similar happened to me. I think that is unbelievably fucked up. like out of this world and im mad even though it didnt happen to me. Sorry if i curse too much here but hes such a douchebag. Wow wow okay let me put aside my anger and say just move on (unless you want to devise a plot to get back at him). But if not, then just move on he seems liek a jerk. I think he might be going through a phase or he met some other people that influenced him to think that you two having a close relationship was bad in some way. If its not any of those he is plan out a douchebag and best of luck with whatever you do.

[HunterSteele]

You're very fortunate to have had such a close friend for over 6 years. I've never had one ever.

Every time it seems like I'm making progress with someone, the same thing happens to me a few months in. I've never figured out what I've done wrong, although I speculate it's because I have pretty much zero personality because I'm so afraid of saying or doing something that'll make them dislike me.

If you found one friend you'll surely find more. Six years isn't such a bad turnover rate.

[Allanon]

sorry

[runnerz]

im sorry dude. im goin thru something similar right now. it's an awful feeling.

[QueenOfTheOutcasts]

He sounds like a jerk :c
It's gonna be hard, but I think you should just try to let go.... He's taking advantage of you and it's not cool. You deserve better.

[dusman77]

Sorry, but it's over. If he doesn't want to be your friend anymore, you gotta move on. Sorry.

[Dawn01]

Something very similar happened to me, the only difference is that the guy was my almost lover D:


But really, seems that you did nothing wrong! I'm sorry, but I think this guy weren't your true friend :/ It happens, some people are just mean. You can try confronting him, but maybe the best thing to do is just move on.

[Light Warrior 7]

He's not really your friend of he really did that. Best friends never leave each other no matter what happens. Even if they're far away, they still try their best to keep up with the lost time (even through texts). Since he's been avoiding you, it maybe over. What I think is best for you to do is go to his house, and talk to him personally, ask why he's doing this to you and what's wrong. I mean, if you really have been together for over 6 years, I don't see why it's possible for him to just leave you like that... If he had a reason, I hope you can explain it and clear all those things. GOOD LUCK dude!!!

[Matt_2012]

I know how you feel its suck! Sorry to hear that dude, you should move on.. You didn't do anything wrong he's just a jerk.

Can chat to me if you ever want someone to talk too :)

[Texas warrior]

I was in a simeler place not to long ago, I think he was just friends with you because it was convenient. It really sucks when it happens, and thats all I really know how to say.

[dudley_doright]

Having a special friend a few years younger means it’s more about his needs than yours. It IS wonderful, no matter what kind of relationship it is. Sounds like you were pushing him lately to ease your own pain. Not good. Readjust your expectations just a bit, give him space to grow, be understanding and supportive. He’s not gone unless you push him away. My opinion.

[Mikedamaniak]

That guy who sent the message is the dick not your friend. Trust me people will impulsively take shit like that out of people seriously. Once your friend gets his head back you won't have too much trouble making him regret it. If u already have lots of friends this might not be worth it though.