Overprotective Brothers

[SmexiLexie510]

I have two older brothers- 17 and 18- that are really overprotective of me. They have like 11 brothers compared to 3 sisters so I understand that they will be protective, and 'big brother nature' etc, but they seem to be more overprotective with me than my triplet sister.

They suss out all my friends and boys and if I ever have any trouble from anyone they're on the case, if they don't like a boy I'm with they'll try their hardest to break us up or drive the boy away, if a teacher tells me off or something and they see it they'll come up and start having a go at the teacher, defending me in all sorts of situations, mostly when I don't need it, to the point of being ridiculous. I am grateful that I have two older brothers that are there for me but it has kind of crossed the line now.

I don't want to push them away or whatever but I can't deal with them insisting to go to all the party's I do 'just in case' and it makes me mad that they don't do the same for my sister. They just take it overboard with me and I don't know how to deal with it when I feel like they're invading my privacy. I know their hearts are in the right places and that I am lucky to have them there, but it gets hard to cope with sometimes when they take it to extremes.

Anyone have any experience of dealing with overprotective siblings and what did you do? What should I do?

[Nathan Numberless]

I wish I had overprotective siblings, or at least one that I don't always want to stab.

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family love its the strongest

[FreeFall]

Omfg over-protective brothers. HATE them.
I dated a guy with two older brothers, just. like. yours. The bro I was dating was the youngest, somewhat sickly, and sheltered. Every freakin date we went on they came with, I NEVER sat next to him once in the entire relationship one of the older bros was ALWAYS in between us, they were the ones that droves us around, and THEY decided what movies we'd see, if they didn't didn't like what I was wearing they'd say "lil bro time to go" and send me home. I'm a modest dresser, the shortest thing I ever wore dating him were freakin bermuda shorts.

I broke up with him because he wouldn't stand up for me or himself. He didn't have the spine or balls to stand to his brothers and say 'back the hell off we're dating, not you so go somewhere. I'm capable of handling myself, stop smothering me.' Instead I got that crappy wimp out "Buuuut their my faaaaaaaamily" yea and family doesn't get the right to be up your ass like that. If he sneezed, his bros were all over that like flies on dog poop. I was freakin pissed that entire month omg. That's what they were, flies on poop. Puh.

Tell them they're smothering you. You have no breathing room with them being helicopter bros and you're a big girl. Tell them they're over stepping their boundaries as family, as brothers and as people. You don't have to be mean, you deserve some space.

And as for them trying to break you up with a guy. Shut that down. Shut that down, now. That's not right. Your brothers have no business, not right, no even a tiny hair's worth of being involved in your love life at all. They don't get to pick who you date, they don't get a say in who you like or love or go naked with. What happens when you want to marry a guy they don't like? They'll ruin your wedding, or whatever it is you decide to do. If they really truly care about you like they seem to be, smothering you, then they'd sit down and shut up and be happy you're happy.

[companioncube]

I wish I had overprotective siblings, or at least one that I don't always want to stab.

Now that's true brotherly love right there.

[dontfiguremeout]

All I can say is ask them if they can die down a little on the protective part. Tell them that you love them so much, but you would like to have your own private life too sometimes. They should understand what you said, and will back off a little.

[Jess]

All I can say is ask them if they can die down a little on the protective part. Tell them that you love them so much, but you would like to have your own private life too sometimes. They should understand what you said, and will back off a little.

this sums up my thoughts perfectly. just ask them this, that sometimes you need a bit of privacy, and yeah they should understand you and back off :)

[RaineBow]

I wish I had over protective older brothers.

Actually, I just wish I had an older brother..

[venicemayer]

Well, I understand clearly your brothers for being so protective but don't get them wrong as they are trying to protect their precious sister. As you know, our generation is very hard to understand that is why our elders would keep their eye on us to ensure that everything around us are all well. Just be thankful to them because one day you will realize their worth.


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