Talking to your dad about masturbation

[branman2000]

I really want to talk to my dad about masturbation. Ive been feeling guilty and for some reason, i dont think he does it, or ever has. Is that weird to think my dad has never masturbated?
He is really strict and grew up as a really amazing athlete, so i feel like being around that many guys, that he would have heard a lot of stuff worse than masturbation.
Our family is also very religious and no one in my family really makes mistakes like watching porn or masturbating.
What im really wanting to talk about with him is if i should feel guilty, or if he ever did it. But im that he will be really disappointed in me, if he does not approve. I know that most guys do it, but just because something is popular, doesnt mean its right. so ya... how should i bring this up? does anybody else feel the same way as me? and who has already talked about it with your dad?

[KristaLee]

My dad and Iive together (mom left a few years ago) and we are very close. He has always told me that I could talk to him about anything at anytime an don't be worred about being embarassed. I forget how it came up but one night I just asked him if it was something everyone did. He said most people do but some will be too shy or scared to say they do or maybe were brought up to think it's wrong. I asked him if he did and he said yes. He told me that it's just a natural way of learning your body and it feels good too so why not enjoy it. It's weird to say but I got up for the bathroom one night and when I walked by his room the door was partly open and with the moon lite coming in i could see him doing it. I watched for a few minutes an it was so weird to know he was doing that but at the same time it made me instantly wet. I wanted to stay and watch but I tip toed back to my bed instead and got myself off in like 30 seconds

[sdude]

That's a tough space...religion tends to frown on sex for pleasure, but if he is a man, he has done it...and probably still does when nature calls...we all get horny, it's total nature...the guilt thing is hard to get over...I had an older bro that lied to my face that "only queers jack off" till I found him jerkin to porn on the comp....

[deeda95]

that is a tough place to be, i was there once, but finally brought it up and was shocked at how he responded even found out that he did it. If you wanna bring it up sometime but afraid of what he'd say or think then get alone with him sometime and say something like hey one of my friends mentioned jerking off or something like that and you can get his thoughts on it without coming out and telling him you do it

[TigerBoy]

Our family is also very religious and no one in my family really makes mistakes like watching porn or masturbating.

Looking at porn and masturbating is great fun. I think its sad that you've been told they are mistakes.


What im really wanting to talk about with him is if i should feel guilty, or if he ever did it. But im that he will be really disappointed in me, if he does not approve.
Well you know what answer you are going to get. If your parents have raised you with their religion, you're just going to get more of the same. Guilt is one of the major symptoms of religion. This sort of conflict is why many people change religions, in order to find something more accepting of them as a human being.


I know that most guys do it, but just because something is popular, doesnt mean its right.
Lots of people are religious - just because its popular, doesn't mean its right either.

[Digital]

same here pale,
exactly same story.

[StoppingTime]

Stop bumping old threads, Michael. :locked: