We just broke up..now what?

[torry]

So..
yeah.
My first relationship is over. Its for the best really, but I'm still on and off depressed. I have to see him at school tomorrow...well I guess I can just try to avoid him..ugh. How can I start to heal? Like, first step? And also, I know I need time for myself, but I'm also really excited to meet a new guy. How do I put myself "back on the market"? Thanks guys.

[CourtingErmine]

I haven't recovered from my past relationship yet, and that was close to 8 months ago. She has lied to me constantly in why she broke up with me. And I still really like her, possibly even love her. So you're not alone, I'm in the same boat, along with many others.

[TigerBoy]

If it didn't mean anything to you it wouldn't hurt. It sucks, but it proves your feelings were real and you have a lot of love in you to give someone.

You are mourning what you have lost, thats normal. If you go around sad, you'll probably not attract anyone, so when you are ready for that, you will have to move on. Do things you enjoy, hang with people you like, just normal stuff. Hopefully school will keep you busy enough to keep your mind of it and you'll feel like trying again.

[Coolguy10890]

It sucks to lose someone, but don't worry about it. Let it go away on its time, while ur recovering don't think about dating anyone else yet. Just forget about it, calm down and wait

[justinglives]

Guess what.
It happens to us boys too.
One girl still has my heart even though she lied and cheated.
And I don't c her, but I still love her.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Sorry you broke up:(
Just remember you'll find someone better:yes:

[dontfiguremeout]

So..
yeah.
My first relationship is over. Its for the best really, but I'm still on and off depressed. I have to see him at school tomorrow...well I guess I can just try to avoid him..ugh. How can I start to heal? Like, first step? And also, I know I need time for myself, but I'm also really excited to meet a new guy. How do I put myself "back on the market"? Thanks guys.

Sorry it's your first breakup! Yeah umm it's gonna be hard for you! All you really need to do is think about the positives, and really not try to think about him! Umm I wouldn't advoid him at school. I did that last year for an ex, and that was just a big mistake ever! I felt like I couldn't go on with my life, without making things clear, and so we know we are on the right page again as friends. So just be friendly to him. And umm I would wait till you get a new guy! I mean you just broke up with your boyfriend and your depressed, but now you wanna go get a new guy? That's just something guys don't like (at least I now!). Just wait for a month or two. Then just be yourself, and open up to more guys.

[torry]

Its been really on and off with everything lately. Sometimes I feel like I want to get back together, other times I really don't. Its so confusing :( I just want to stop feeling like theres lead in my chest

[CourtingErmine]

Its been really on and off with everything lately. Sometimes I feel like I want to get back together, other times I really don't. Its so confusing :( I just want to stop feeling like theres lead in my chest

I feel ya. I'm the same exact way.

[horizonlooker]

If it didn't mean anything to you it wouldn't hurt. It sucks, but it proves your feelings were real and you have a lot of love in you to give someone.

You are mourning what you have lost, thats normal. If you go around sad, you'll probably not attract anyone, so when you are ready for that, you will have to move on. Do things you enjoy, hang with people you like, just normal stuff. Hopefully school will keep you busy enough to keep your mind of it and you'll feel like trying again.

^ that pretty much sums it up. But I'm in the same boat as you. I just got out of a 2 year relationship, and it hurt. But I'm getting over it. I'm already "on the market". I'm crushing, and I'm not hiding it (well, from him at least).