Player...help!!

[dedee]

So recently I was talking to this guy and he pretty much told me to stop playing with him if I wasnt interested. At the begining it really bothered me because come on I was just flirting with him but a few days back I realized that thats pretty much what Im doing since a guy played with me. Everytime I talk to a guy I flirt with him and I feel like Im leading him on bbut then I lose interest in them because I find them boring or way to foward. Im really disconcerted right now because I wasnt like that before. Do you guys have any idea how can I stop leading guys on..
Sometimes I dnt even like them but Im really playful and I think they are confusing it with flirting...
Also Im scared to be hurt again

[FreeFall]

Stop flirting? Catch yourself, interact with them like you do a girl. You're hurting them by thinking they've got a possible chance but you just toss them to the side. Probably continuing the vicious cycle you got sucked into yourself.

And give yourself some you time, you're going to get hurt on the battlefield of romance. There's no avoiding it, just learning how to deal and cope with it. You could just be a naturally flirty person and there's no helping that, but there is control over it. You've just got to learn to trust and open up again, and control your flirting.

[mountain01]

Why do you find them boring? I think girls have felt this way about me too.. but i didn't realise i had to be a jester, to have a relationship

[dedee]

michae1 you dont have to be a jester.. Its personal preference I like guys that tease you and are really playful. Most of this guys Ive been talking to are friends of my friends and i only agreed to talk to them because acording to my friends they are really fun but then when I meet them they are not.. So no you dont have to be a jester to have a relationship I just like guys like that.

[mountain01]

oh, maybe you should speak to guys that aren't friends of a friend then lol .. they might be different. and what forum is this post in? i made a mistake of posting in the girl one before :(

[mountain01]

ohrelationship and dating... im a newb

[dedee]

dont worry im a newbie too and yeah i think i should stop dating my friends friends hahahah damn i gotta get out of my house