Being Pressured By Mom

[conniption]

I just started my freshmen year of highschool and that's prompted my mom to pressure me to 'act more a like a young woman'. For the last couple of years everyone has been telling me that I act a lot like a guy. I've never really let it bother me but recently my mom has been trying to take away my Xbox and video games because she thinks girls aren't supposed to like that stuff. I feel like she's trying to change me because she's emberrassed of me. Any advice on what I should do?

[DerBear]

Some mothers get like that. They think all women should act "lady like" when in actual fact they have the free right to act anyway they like (while remaining inside the law). I think that you need to just have a quick and honest talk with her and explain to her that really she just needs to accept that you will always be into what is labeled by society is "boy stuff" like video games, it is usually associated by a boy.

So my advice is just simply talk to her and say that you are yourself and as you grow up you make your own choices and if she does not like the fact that you do things that are not exactly considered "lady like" then she has to deal with that as it is your life. Not hers! She will eventually realize that by telling you what to do in terms of your own life is that she will only end up pushing you away.

Chances are she will give up trying when she sees how reluctant you are. However talking to her always helps.

I wish you the best of luck :)

[TigerBoy]

Remind her that XBox is the best contraceptive known to teendom.
Call her bluff - cut your hair and tell her she has to call you Jerry.

Soz, just trying to cheer you up. Honestly, I have a friend whose mum is a nightmare. She's very 'involved with the church' and my friend is very arty and her own person. They are just totally different people so they are always fighting, and her dad is referee whenever I'm round there. Its kind of funny up to a point, but I know it hurts her a lot too because her mum just will not let up sometimes, and honestly is just totally clueless. I mean I want to slap the woman and I don't even live with her. In her case I don't think there's any changing her mum, even with her dad helping.

I don't know if that helps, but hopefully your mum is smarter and will wise up. In any case I'm with SilverAssassin, its your mums issue to deal with, not yours : she shouldn't be trying to live through you, its not fair and its not healthy.