Coming out as a couple in school

[TigerBoy]

I came out in school at 14 to the astonishment and shock of pretty much no one, and that was definately one of my least stupid ideas.

My boyfriend just in the last few weeks came out to his friends (who are very cool) and we (us two, his brother and our friends) think we shouldn't have to hide it so that we can be ourselves in school (without breaking public affection rules). Which starts next week. EEEEEEP.

Basically we just want to be treated the same as any other couple, but its a bit scarey because although there are quite a few out boys, I think we'd be the only couple, and also he's two years below me (15/17) and I can't be there all the time.

Yes so I'm excited/scared and wondered if anyones already out as a gay couple at school and has any advice? We're in south-east England.

[prob1996]

My ex bf and I came out to our friends over last summer and started school last yr as a "couple". We kinda kept it discreet since we go to a catholic school :S but at lunch outside we would sit on each other's lap or sit close. everynow and then hold hands under the table. give each other looks :) our friends knew wht was up and we were just a little cautious.

My advice is just be cool about it. Don't go over board w/ PDA's and stuff but take it little by little till ur both really comfortable with it being so open.

Good luck!!!

[TigerBoy]

OK apart from the fact i got the start date wrong (i thought it was just teachers and new kids but no lol) my first day back went fine, although we did hug and kiss a bit it was only when other people were with girlfriends (like saying bye before end of break or over lunch). The main thing is worrying about my boyfriend just coming out tbh, which so far he's not had any probs with (i'm hoping he's telling me everything but he has good friends who i've told have got to tell me any bad stuff if he doesn't).

So thanks for the support Parker it helped calm my nerves.

[dontfiguremeout]

Although I'm not gay, why are you nervous to be with your dude? Honestly you guys should be treated the same like any other bf/gf couple there is! And maybe because of you two, you can influence the ones that are already out into getting a bf, and being an openly couple on campus.

[TigerBoy]

Although I'm not gay, why are you nervous to be with your dude? Honestly you guys should be treated the same like any other bf/gf couple there is! And maybe because of you two, you can influence the ones that are already out into getting a bf, and being an openly couple on campus.

Nervous in case it made people want to hassle us because its two guys it on, which you don't usually see. I thought we were the only couple but there's some guys the year below me who are a couple I heard, so we might look them up to support each other. So yeah it should be good if we can get more couples coming out for sure. So far its been really positive actually, with a very few (hurtful but easily ignored) exceptions.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well that's good! I know at my campus, everyone accepts each other! Like last year there was a wall where the lesbians where (they now graduated), and don't know where the gays are, but our school is a very accepting school, and that's what I love about it! Like last year freshman year in locker rooms I was scared I was going to get judged getting dressed for dance, but no one cared at all! Even the teachers support everyone! But yeah, be supportive to the other couples!