So, I'm gay.

[companioncube]

I don't know if I'm doing this right, or if I'm even allowed to post this, but, I'm gay man!

For years I have always been attracted to guys, and I always brushed it off.. until I came here. this website really helped me in realizing that, holy shit, there are a lot of people like me. There are kids my age and in the same situations and it felt so comforting to know that. Though online, it makes me feel so much better to just talk with someone and let out anything that I can't here in real life. I have been lurking around in the teen sexuality even before I made this account and after viewing a lot of posts, I've come to terms with it.

I was debating whether or not to post this, but I kinda felt I almost had to, just for the sake of letting the feelings and thoughts that have been growing for the past few years. And Aldo that many people would just say, its a phase, and maybe it is, but man, I'm not sure if a phase lasts about 6 years. Some of my friends at school are like this, and they just said that you know.

I'm kind of making this to not only let it out, but to say thank you. I know nobody cares and you guys did nothing, but just being here really helped the past few weeks. I probably read the stickies here by ImCoolBeans all through like 10+ times. I want to think this website's existence and helping me come to terms with myself.

I'm sorry for posting this for you guys probably don't care and this will get buried, but thanks anyways! For the next couple of months I'm probably going to be living in a hole and thinking of coming out.. I DUN KNOW.

Thanks! :)

[TigerBoy]

Better change the sig then bud :)

I'm sure lots of people care - its a big thing for you, so I'll just say "I care" even though I never met you, I know what it means.

Congrats on coming to peace with yourself, its like a weight off your mind I bet.

Oh, and don't worry about the whole 'gay' thing anyway. I have a theory that the only people who want everyone labelled are the ones with secrets to hide.

[companioncube]

Congrats on coming to peace with yourself, its like a weight off your mind I bet.

It really is! Especially being able to just say it, even online!
Thank you Tiger boy! :D

[Danny_boi 16]

It super that your proud and own it! :)

[ECSTASY]

congratulations on finding yourself and what you are mate ;)

[Stijne]

I may be gay too, I don't.. urgh, I'm kinda afraid to come out I think. I might be bi-sexual, anyway. :c I envy you though, man! 'Tis a great thing to come out!

[companioncube]

I may be gay too, I don't.. urgh, I'm kinda afraid to come out I think. I might be bi-sexual, anyway. :c I envy you though, man! 'Tis a great thing to come out!

It was confusing for me for a while. Just give it time :)
Thank you!

[AppealToReason]

Congratulations on finding yourself. I hope the people in your life will accept you as readily as we did once you make the decision to come out to them.
So, as an official gay now, enjoy your life and be comfortable with yourself. Mentally, it should be easier for you from here on out.
Happy you have come to terms with the truth. Time to party. :P

[Stryker125]

Congrats on accepting yourself, or finding yourself...never knew the right word for it...but you know what I mean :P anyway, congrats!

[rockymountainway]

VT is such a great place to really be able to express who you are. I know it's changed my life a little bit, too. Congratulations and good luck from here on out!

[companioncube]

Thank you everyone!

I LOVE YOU ALL

[prob1996]

VT is such a great place to really be able to express who you are. I know it's changed my life a little bit, too. Congratulations and good luck from here on out!

^^^As much I get fustrated and bored with this site from time to time, it is very true. This site has helped me alot and I'm glad to hear it has helped others just as much. ^^^



Congrats on accepting urself. I recently came out last yr to my friends and it is amazing when u can just say it out loud and be ok with it! Don't worry about the rest, you accept urself and that is most important part.
It's a huge step and not easy. So be very proud of urself!!

[ImCoolBeans]

Congratulations on coming to terms with your sexuality and accepting yourself :) It's a hard thing to do and isn't always easy to understand.

You mentioned coming out in your post. It isn't something you need to rush into or do if you aren't totally comfortable with it. It's totally your choice. Take your time and feel your way around when you choose to do so. For future reference if you'd like, I wrote this thread (click me) (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627) all about coming out. It has some key things to keep in mind and has tips in it that you may find helpful. It's also filled with peoples' personal stories about coming out; who they told, how long they waited and how they went about actually doing it. It could be of use to you :)

Good luck with everything, if you ever need any advice or somebody to talk to we'll all always be here willing to help, don't be afraid to post a thread or contact anyone.

[companioncube]

Congratulations on coming to terms with your sexuality and accepting yourself :) It's a hard thing to do and isn't always easy to understand.

You mentioned coming out in your post. It isn't something you need to rush into or do if you aren't totally comfortable with it. It's totally your choice. Take your time and feel your way around when you choose to do so. For future reference if you'd like, I wrote this thread (click me) (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627) all about coming out. It has some key things to keep in mind and has tips in it that you may find helpful. It's also filled with peoples' personal stories about coming out; who they told, how long they waited and how they went about actually doing it. It could be of use to you :)

Good luck with everything, if you ever need any advice or somebody to talk to we'll all always be here willing to help, don't be afraid to post a thread or contact anyone.

I've read the one so many times. Im just nervous and anxious. I shouldn't be rushing butbim just excited to have everything lifted off and be able to just express myself and stuff.

Thank you and your posts for helping me ImCoolBeans!:D

[StoppingTime]

While it is exciting to actually come out and have all of the stress lifted, it is best, as Mike and the others said, to wait. You'll feel much more comfortable when you know you are 100% percent ready. Don't ever apologize for making threads like this, you have every right to, and, above that, you deserve to. People do care about your wellbeing here; that's what is so amazing about this site. You deserve to let other people know, and this place is a great one to start at.
We are always here if you ever need to contact anyone about anything, so don't hesitate to ask. :)
Good luck!

[OregonStateDude]

Congrats David, life is so much easier when you can accept yourself. That's interesting that you knew at the young age of 7 years old; when I was 7 I don't even think I knew what sex was or what being gay was all about. I wasn't 100% sure I was gay until I was almost 13.

And yeah, there's no hurry to come out to anyone in real life, just take your time. I've only told one person, my best friend. And let me tell you, it was a struggle to work up the courage. Luckily for me, he's very open minded and doesn't even care.

I plan to tell my mom before the year is up, but again, I need to work up the courage and find the right way to tell her.

[SosbanFach]

Well done for coming to terms with your sexuality. It isn't easy, getting past the "I can't be gay; it's always somebody else" stage of thinking, which I know I certainly went through. As far as coming out, as others have said, don't rush the process. Perhaps wait a bit, until you've completely come to terms with it, and you feel that your peers specifically will be mature enough to take the news. Finally, though this may not be overly relevant, and is another repetition of what has already been said, don't feel that over-simplistic labels of your sexuality define and therefore confine you in any way. It's fine to be proud of your sexuality, but you shouldn't let it sideline all the other factors which make up who you are. Good luck! :)

[Lucky_socks]

Congratulations David. You've found your true self much earlier than I did :D. I'm 15 now and over the past few months I've slowly come to realize my true sexuality. I've been doing stuff over the past few years that should have been a giveaway, but it's taken me a while to realize. Everything from the type of nudes I'm attracted to, to the fact that I'm not that "manly" of a guy (I have mostly female friends and I don't like sports), to the fact that I've generally not been interested in girls.

For whatever reason it's taken me a long time to realize. I slowly started thinking that I might be bisexual. And eventually I realized that I was indeed fully gay. I do have some (minor) attractions for the other sex, but I've finally realized that I'm simply destined to be gay, for the most part.

Congrats on you realizing it, and I hope both of us will have luck when we decide to come out :D.

This place does seem like a very welcoming place. I regret not sticking around here when I first signed up. But I plan to be a lot more active now.

[nice]

Congratulations David

[ExhibitG]

congrats! and i love how you are so comfortable with admitting that to yourself at only 13. i'm 18 and i still can't figure out my sexuality out in a way that i feel confident about.

make sure you don't rush into coming out, but most importantly just do what makes you happy. it's your life. :)

[SuperSuraj]

Congrats and welcome to the club :P

You'll be getting your welcome package in the mail in 3-5 business days, it will provide you with everything you need to be a successful gay man: Hairspray, V-necks, posters of One Direction, etc... Haha kidding, but seriously, congrats, it's a big step in your life. Don't come out until you're ready, not everyone's coming out story is picture perfect and your safety has to come first.

So yeah, congrats! You've entered a very prestigious club :P

[companioncube]

Thank you all of you people! YOU GUYS ARE AWESOMMEE

[Thanatos]

Definitely congratulations on being able to accept who you are. I struggled with my Bisexuality for a while before finally coming to terms with it. This community is definitely an awesome place, if you ever need anything or someone to talk to, I'm always open.

[Abyssal Echo]

Congrats David I was 13 when I came out too.