Don't get invited to anything anymore?

[Kerser]

Well, to start off- I go to an all boys high school, 16, grade 10 and don't really have many friends out of school.

I just need to build my friendships with a lot of people.

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My relationship with everyone in my grade is good I guess, I'm friends with most of my grade excluding some of the annoying people that no one really likes either.

From grade 7 (Start of high school in Australia) to grade 9 I hung out [At lunch times] with these people, that I have strong friendships with to this day, they invite me to things but in all honesty they're pretty lame- no disrespect. So I moved groups I guess at the end of grade 9 to a larger group [This group includes multiple social groups but they all hang out in the same area now] I talk to some of them and fairly good friends with them, but I don't get invited to parties and other things... I don't know why.

There are some of them I don't talk to much and they have been having parties recently but haven't been invited to 1. Should I somehow invite myself or bring it up, or get someone to ask for me?

Also, there is this guy who I sit, talk too and listen music with every science lesson - we also used to hang out a bit, but he invited some people to a rugby game (Oversaw his texts and fb messages) but NOT me? I even brought it up jokingly saying "oi i'm coming yeh?" , he then replied stuttering a few words then changing subject.

Like, some of the people that I used to be decently close too - our friendships have deteriorated I guess
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Earlier this year I used to be really outgoing, I couldn't stand being at home and always had to go out just messaging everyone on FB, WHERE AS lately I don't really mind staying home and lazy. (I'm now concerned and want to be social again) Every single day there was no school or holiday earlier this year - I was out with people, and it seemed as if people actually had interest in me. Now - months later - It's as if very few people have interest in me and just see me as that 'somewhat cool tolerable friendly guy'.

WHY IS THIS?
HOW DO I GET INVITED TO THINGS?
HOW DO I GET PEOPLE TO THINK MORE OF ME, AND HAVE INTEREST IN ME?
HOW DO I DEVELOP THESE FRIENDSHIPS?

I want to talk to people but I don't know what to talk about, and if I just come up with a shit subject I'll sound desperate. :what:

[nice]

Maybe bc u changed groups from people you have known for a while to a new one barely knowing anyone they might think you are fake or not a very loyal friend. Idk how to get you invited to things but if you want people to notice you more try hanging with them at lunch or just ask them to hang out yourself. To develop the friendships just try to get to know everyone better maybe throw a party yourself and invite them all

[Kerser]

Maybe bc u changed groups from people you have known for a while to a new one barely knowing anyone they might think you are fake or not a very loyal friend.

I do know them, and I doubt they think that. I try to, and WANT to be a loyal friend that people can talk too. I just don't know how to tell people that they can talk to me about anything because THAT ITSELF would be a way to develop friendships and be closer with people.

[nice]

Try telling them stuff about you and maybe they will tell you about themselves

[Nathan Numberless]

If those friends don't treat you like friends, then they don't respect you, and you shouldn't be talking to them.

[Kerser]

If those friends don't treat you like friends, then they don't respect you, and you shouldn't be talking to them.

It's weird. They do treat me as a friend, but don't invite me to anything so I'm guessing I need to build on the friendships BUT I don't know how.

[nice]

Have a big group of friends together and play truth or dare

[dontfiguremeout]

WHY IS THIS?
HOW DO I GET INVITED TO THINGS?
HOW DO I GET PEOPLE TO THINK MORE OF ME, AND HAVE INTEREST IN ME?
HOW DO I DEVELOP THESE FRIENDSHIPS?

I want to talk to people but I don't know what to talk about, and if I just come up with a shit subject I'll sound desperate. :what:

Well I have the same problem too! I find out everyone does stuff, but never invites me anymore! But what I do now is I think of something and I invite people! Pretty soon they find out I am a pretty awesome guy, I'll be invited to more things! So you just need to start thinking of doing things, and inviting other people! And when you actually invite people, it can just be one out of the many people you invited, but if you showed you are an awesome person, they will have a talk about you going around their friends, then they are wanting to hang out with you and stuff, and then once they do hang out with you, then they'll be like, well hey I know this pretty cool person we can ask to hang out with us! And if you want to develop friendships, how bout taking a look at this thread! http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=25633

[Drew5]

One way to start is by not waiting to be invited to something. In stead of waiting on them, maybe they are waiting for you to invite them to do something. And lets say it's something they wanna do, like go to a rugby match, swimming, movie etc., but they already have plans. If they have plans, they might invite you to those plans.

If they tell you they are busy a few times in a row you can ask if you should bother asking them in the future or you could quietly just quit asking.