fed up of racist comments

[jamieg1996]

I’m a 15 year-old black boy, and I just changed schools in the middle of last term. In the new school, we have a tutor group, and on my first day I didn’t know anybody at all. I was a bit late because the head teacher had been explaining stuff to me, so I just sat at the first empty place, which was at a table with 3 white lads. They’re all really close friends together, and have known one another for a couple of years. I never really had any white friends at my other school. But these three... right from the first day they looked after me, and welcomed me into their group like you’d never believe. I’d missed out on a bit of school work, and they’ve all spent loads of time helping me to catch up, given me their notes to use. I was scared when I first came here, but those three have made these 6 weeks the happiest of my life. They’re the best friends I’ve ever had. We do a lot of skinship – hugging and touching, which I never did with anybody before. They’ve taken me out and shown me the town, and taken me to their homes. I’ve slept over in all three of their homes loads of times already (in case you’re wondering, no sexual activity, just skinship), and their families are fantastic. I’m going to France with one of them and his family (My turn to help them a bit. My mother’s Francophone and we use French at home, so I can interpret for them.) Except for my mother, I’ve never had anybody before who loves me, and now I feel like I’ve got 3 brothers.
The problem is that in the tutor group there’s a bunch of black kids, 3 boys and 2 girls, who never mix with anybody else. They’ve started calling me names – choc-ice (brown on the outside and white inside), batty-boy, and other things, and they keep picking on me. They say I’m betraying my people, and that black kids should stick together and not trust white kids. But they’re as thick as bricks, and I don’t want anything to do with them. One of my friends went down to London last weekend and brought me a souvenir cap, and today one of those morons came up beside me in the toilets, snatched it off my head, saying this is a white boy’s cap, and pissed in it. I’m fed up with them and don’t know what to do.

[TheGangstaSheep]

You should tell them how pathetic they are. How can one be proud of his ethnicity when he has no control of it? You should be proud of accomplishments, for example going to university. Sure, you can be proud of culture to a degree but to be proud of the colour of your skin is terribly idiotic.

[FreeFall]

My mouth dropped. Fuck that noise!

What people? I'm mixed race, black and white, heard that a lot and that type of crap will always piss me off. You ain't their people. They have no people.
They ain't even people, they animals. They're filthy, ignorant, disgusting animals.

Their "people" are idiots that want to be stuck in the dark ages of segregation, that want to have the power of holding onto the race card. I bet if a person of another race sneezes in their direction they scream bloody murder "it's because I'm black". Fuck that noise. That's why they don't have friends, they can't! They're too stupid!

Rip off their skin, rip off their tissues, rip off their hair, rip off their muscles, what do you have? What do you see? What race is that, can you even tell? Pigmentation means crap. I wonder if they've ever meant an African-American, or African-Englishman, with white pigmentation. I have. Bet they can't even process that.

I can't advise you how I'd like, I attacked anyone who ever was racist to me, don't do that. That gets you into bigger trouble.
So, Change your tutoring group! That's all you can do besides ignore it. You can't talk to them, you can't change their minds, you can't even explain yourself. These morons have a filter, they only want ignorance and hatred to pass their ears. If you say 'I'm black with white friends' they hear 'oh yea I hate black people with a passion let me bleach my skin' it's just no use. No use at all to try. Good luck.

[Mirage]

Don't deal with all their shit. Tell someone immediately or it will only get worse. I'm sorry you have to go through this but you need to help yourself or it will only get worse.

[jessiecox1]

You should not tolerate their behavior at all...it's disgusting and wrong and needs to stop. If your tutor group has a teacher or moderator or dean, you should talk to the teacher about what's going on before their behavior gets worse, and maybe that will take care of it. Until you have the chance to do tell a teacher, just ignore them and stay away from them...they're not worth your time and they should know better.

[trter10]

I would definitely talk to an administrator. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you because my school is extremely diverse but I'm sorry you're going through this :/

[JDubs]

Well, im also 15 and black, but ive never had that problem, because i have a lot of black friends who people call "oreos" but the hat part totally crossed the line. Normally, id say violence is the answer, BUT NOT IN THIS CASE! You should deffinatly get help from an authoritative adult. And do not feel bad about doing it.

[Machinegun]

For me there's no diference between being white or black
And sometimes I wish I could be black,but I know it's hard

There are a lot of racist people,but they are just jealous
You have my suport..They are just stupid

[Avenida105]

Sincerly, I feel a bit sorry for those dudes in your tutoring session. I could say that they have a type of trauma, either induced by their own family or even by historical hatred. Many people of African descents that live in white countries usually feel the pain of the suffering they had to go through. Then in order to sort of have a pay back, they insult anything that is white, or ignore those who are white, when they don't realized that they are just segregating themselves from society.

I've a similar problem, but within my own family. I was born in El Salvador, and moved to the US for about 7 years now. My family nuclear part of the family, (Mom, uncle, and grandmother) we had always had a different taste in things. So we moved to Palos Verdes, in southern California. There is nearly no hispanic population there, but that has never bothered me, in fact I prefer it that way. My grandmother's brother who mainly live in the latino areas of southern california, always talk behind our backs on how "white" we are. In fact one of my cousins told me that I'm a little white boy in the inside. All of that just because I don't dress ghetto, and I don't like soccer. I don't like the music they listen to. That part of the family always see us as if we think we are better than them, just because we are doing better economically too. It's not our fault that we don't make the same mistakes they did. Basically we never see them. But the rest of the family always tell us on how much they hate us for being better of than them. Another thing we generally don't look Latino, because my grandfather was an Italian Jew. Anyway they call me a brat, they call my mother snobby, my uncle dainty, and my grand mother a wretch. And an embarrassment to all Latino who live in California.

All I can say, is that learn to forgive, and learn to forget, but don't trust anymore. Tell someone like your parents, teacher, and your friend what this people talk about and how they treat you for your decisions. Feel bad for they are ignorant that we live in a time when any people of any particular race, can be what they want, and be friend with who ever they want.

Be with who you ever want to be, never be afraid of calling your friend for back up, and most important BE YOURSELF, don't give a damn to what those people say. In the end they will fill up themselves with hate, while you are living of the good life. It's not your fault if they want to live in the colonial period.

With my really close friends we have this "race" war, its just a joke between us, we call each other, terrorist, aryan, redneck, gardener, but it's for fun and we know we can trust each other with those things.