canadaski
August 31st, 2012, 08:56 PM
This might be a little long so I'll give any readers a thanks prior to finishing it.
I've got a "good" friend that I went camping with at the end of july and it was a great, fun trip. I was seeing him 3-4 times a week to hang out before the trip. I am really sexually and emotionally attracted to him (we're both guys). Anyway, we've seen each other once since we got back from the trip on the 23rd of july. The one occasion we saw each other he seemed kind of awkward and/or really tired. I decided to leave our friendship at a standstill until he contact me because it felt like I was always making the effort. He never texted me or contacted me at all in the past month until 3 days ago.
His texts in green
Mine in black
What's going on?
Not much, how're you doing?
Good, did you go to registration?
I went yesterday but it was the wrong day so I'm going back today to get my schedule.
What's your schedule like?
I've got "blank," "blank," and "blank" first semester. Not sure if I'll change any though. What do you have?
There was no response or other message after that. It's unlikely he missed it as I always see him texting people. He has definitely been busy moving houses and working, but I don't think anyone is so busy they can't contact a friend to see how they're doing. I pretty much drew the conclusion he didn't give a shit about our friendship, but I can't understand why he would contact me if that's true.
Could he have found out I'm in love with him and not want anything to do with me? I do things to him like compliment his looks, and hug him and rest my head on his shoulder while sitting beside him on the couch and he doesn't show any signs of discomfort.
It seems like he is scared of being around me now or something, though why would he go to a movie with me and ask me to dinner afterwards?
Why does he never ask me to do anything?
Always, he says "maybe" we'll do this or that on saturday or sunday. I say, okay call me and he doesn't even acknowledge that I said anything. I end up waiting around for him and he doesn't call.
He asked a couple weeks ago, "do you want to go golfing together next week?" I said sure and when the time came, he never followed through to call me.
When he told me his courses, they were different than mine and when school started two of his courses were the same as mine. He either changed them or he told me the wrong thing initially.
He asked me to lunch yesterday and we went, he was talking about his course. I said I should have taken it, he said "I really wish you were in my class."
I hate using facebook in examples but I'll use one now. Whenever I post something that I think he'd find interesting on his wall, there is no comment or like at all. He also rarely shares anything with me on facebook anymore. This is weird as a few people post little family guy skits and the like and he comments and "likes" nearly all of them. He used to pay pretty close attention to what I posted and like nearly everything I posted and post quite frequently on my wall.
I watched this video a while a go and wished he could see it as he's guilty of nearly everything in here except for the relationship part or abusive part.
http://www.youtube.com/embed/5lxYTFndPNQ
Is there any way I can get him to feel the points in this video without being bitchy or seeming douchey?
If he were anybody else, I would have given up a long time ago. The problem is that he's a really nice person, just a really shitty best friend.
When you say you think he's interested in me, are you joking or being serious? Some things make me wonder, but I can't make a conclusion. How could I be more sure?
What does this mean? How can I make him realize what a shitty friend he is without losing him?
I asked him out for a birthday gathering with my family and family friends. We did talk and have many laughs, but like he often does, he was checking his phone and texting for the whole thing.
I've got a "good" friend that I went camping with at the end of july and it was a great, fun trip. I was seeing him 3-4 times a week to hang out before the trip. I am really sexually and emotionally attracted to him (we're both guys). Anyway, we've seen each other once since we got back from the trip on the 23rd of july. The one occasion we saw each other he seemed kind of awkward and/or really tired. I decided to leave our friendship at a standstill until he contact me because it felt like I was always making the effort. He never texted me or contacted me at all in the past month until 3 days ago.
His texts in green
Mine in black
What's going on?
Not much, how're you doing?
Good, did you go to registration?
I went yesterday but it was the wrong day so I'm going back today to get my schedule.
What's your schedule like?
I've got "blank," "blank," and "blank" first semester. Not sure if I'll change any though. What do you have?
There was no response or other message after that. It's unlikely he missed it as I always see him texting people. He has definitely been busy moving houses and working, but I don't think anyone is so busy they can't contact a friend to see how they're doing. I pretty much drew the conclusion he didn't give a shit about our friendship, but I can't understand why he would contact me if that's true.
Could he have found out I'm in love with him and not want anything to do with me? I do things to him like compliment his looks, and hug him and rest my head on his shoulder while sitting beside him on the couch and he doesn't show any signs of discomfort.
It seems like he is scared of being around me now or something, though why would he go to a movie with me and ask me to dinner afterwards?
Why does he never ask me to do anything?
Always, he says "maybe" we'll do this or that on saturday or sunday. I say, okay call me and he doesn't even acknowledge that I said anything. I end up waiting around for him and he doesn't call.
He asked a couple weeks ago, "do you want to go golfing together next week?" I said sure and when the time came, he never followed through to call me.
When he told me his courses, they were different than mine and when school started two of his courses were the same as mine. He either changed them or he told me the wrong thing initially.
He asked me to lunch yesterday and we went, he was talking about his course. I said I should have taken it, he said "I really wish you were in my class."
I hate using facebook in examples but I'll use one now. Whenever I post something that I think he'd find interesting on his wall, there is no comment or like at all. He also rarely shares anything with me on facebook anymore. This is weird as a few people post little family guy skits and the like and he comments and "likes" nearly all of them. He used to pay pretty close attention to what I posted and like nearly everything I posted and post quite frequently on my wall.
I watched this video a while a go and wished he could see it as he's guilty of nearly everything in here except for the relationship part or abusive part.
http://www.youtube.com/embed/5lxYTFndPNQ
Is there any way I can get him to feel the points in this video without being bitchy or seeming douchey?
If he were anybody else, I would have given up a long time ago. The problem is that he's a really nice person, just a really shitty best friend.
When you say you think he's interested in me, are you joking or being serious? Some things make me wonder, but I can't make a conclusion. How could I be more sure?
What does this mean? How can I make him realize what a shitty friend he is without losing him?
I asked him out for a birthday gathering with my family and family friends. We did talk and have many laughs, but like he often does, he was checking his phone and texting for the whole thing.