should we hide our scars?

[Gazmo]

If, like me, you SH doyou think we should hide our scars? i mean i know people dont want to see it but sometimes i just wonder if i should give up and stop hiding. its a big part of my life, and to be honest i find it helps me. im not saying people should do it, im just saying its our decision.
I also get annoyed when people say its for attention and i think people just think that becuase the only self harmers that people see/know about are the ones that do it for attention and show it off. so becuase of them, the people who hide it get a bad name.

Sorry about that, i just needed to have a rant

[workingatperfect]

I hide my scars. The only people that have seen any of my scars are a close friend that also does it, our very close mutual friend and 3 guys that I was involved with. Oh, and my mom, unfortunately. I personally wouldn't want anyone more than that to know. It's not something that I'm proud of and would like the whole word to know, or rather my whole school. It's not that my school is judgmental about that stuff, it's just that I don't want them telling any teachers or staff or asking me why I do it or anything. It's just easier if no one knows. For me, anyway.

[FullyAlive]

Personally in my opinion I think you should cover fresh cuts as best as possible. Its uncomfortable to look at for other people and will bring unwanted attention. And after all you'd cover intentional injuries wouldn't you?

But for ones that are healing and scars then no. You shouldn't have to cover them although I did for years now I've stopped covering them up. If you're comfortable with them on show then that's perfectly fine, but also be prepared for people to ask questions because they will.

[Mortal Coil]

I cover some of my scars, though more out of habit than shyness. I don't think you should feel pressured to hide them.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

I hide them, I kinda dont want people to know... Some people know cause I told them, my friend had me do something and stupidly I turned my wrists over and she saw...

[AppealToReason]

Honestly, I do believe in hiding them for other people's sake and for our own. At least for me, showing them means I'm accepting them as part of me and that I'm proud of them. I don't want to be comfortable flaunting them. I feel that if I began showing them, then I will forgot my main purpose regarding SH: stopping, I want to be ashamed of them so I can quit, not be open about them and continue because they feel normal to me.

I'd show old scars though. Like Robert said below, it would remind me of the past, how far I've came, and hopefully prevent me from ever going back to those days.

[West Coast Sheriff]

It's best 2 hide them

[Dimitri]

I agree...if you were to ever meet me in real life you would notice I never wear my sleeve down, unless it is required oft things such as dressing in a suit or tux. I am that way because I want to remind myself of where I came from and what I was like so many years ago....I wear bracelets most days but if you look you can tell. It has been six years now...so the scares are faint but still a definet reminder to me.

[that-god-chick]

i dont hide my scars as much as i hide the fresh ones, scars i find i can just pretend it is in the past if anyone dares ask me about them, the only time i will hide them is at family get together, church\youth grup, and at work or a job interveiw. i dont see that hiding scars is as important as hiding the new ones, if the scars are faded who cares

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I always keep mine covered... Especially my wrist. No one see's that anymore, always have either bracelets on or sweatband. Even my girlfriend doesn't see them any more. Apart from that my girlfriend see's my other scars and when I go swimming, my shorts aren't long enough to cover the ones on my thighs. Some on my shoulder are always on show but they're hardly noticeable so I don't bother with them.

[Ethan1369]

I try to hide my scars too. Some of my friends know but only one really cares but she is has done SH too. The only people I am really scared of finding out is my parents because they already hate me enough and they would blow their top if they ever found this out. They did see one scar but I told a convincing lie because they day before we were doing yard work and I was the one working in the rose bushes so I said I got it from that.

[SevenHells]

I think we should keep our scars hidden; they are so personal and intimate to ourselves and also because of the stigma attached to self-harm that people could generate further pressure on themselves insensitive people started giving us hassle over it. Just my opinion anywat

[Breezyxx]

I hide my scars......only because they are on my leg.........but you shouldn't really care what others think! :)

[DerBear]

I try to hide my scars too. Some of my friends know but only one really cares but she is has done SH too. The only people I am really scared of finding out is my parents because they already hate me enough and they would blow their top if they ever found this out. They did see one scar but I told a convincing lie because they day before we were doing yard work and I was the one working in the rose bushes so I said I got it from that.

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