A Bit of Assistance Please

[Unknown_User_11]

so here is the thing.
my elder brother is bisexual.
and ever since he came out last year everyone keeps asking me if i am gay or bi myself. and then there are others who just say im gay for the hell of it.
i am a teenager way to busy and confused to work out my sexuality and im over trying to defend myself from shit and am not gonna defend myself cuz i dont go around hookin up and sleepin with everybody else my age.

my question is, if my bro is bi does that mean i am?

also got any good lines for tellin ppl to fuck off wen they ask if ur gay?

[Gumleaf]

the sexuality of someone else has nothing to do with your sexuality. just because he is bi doesn't mean you will be the same. there is no reason for you or anyone else to defend your sexuality or their opinion of your sexuality. if they are so concerned about your sexuality its probably because they are insecure about their own.

ps i notice your from nsw. i'm from sydney, where are you from?

[Archduke Robert of France]

The secuality of another person, even if you are related to them, doesn't determine your own sexuality. For that, you'd have to ask yourself that question. as for the people who tease you, just ignore them. Tell them that they're being narrow minded and immature and you'll talk to them when they grow up and develop a mental capacity greater than a peanut.

[byee]

Well, you're on the receiving end of everyone's shock at your brother.'s admission. It has nothing to do with you. I would tell them point blank that you are different than your brother, and that you would appreciate them keeping that in mind, regardless of how shocked they might be about him. Then, personally, I'd have a little chat with your bro and let him know how difficult it is for you, and ask for his assistance here in clarifying for your relatives that this issue isn't about you, or them, but him.

[redcar]

Sexuality is something thats very complicated and at the moment there is no way of saying that if your brother is bisexual that you will be gay or straight.

But to people constantly asking you about your sexuality, I think the softly softly approach just doesn't work. Nice and simple, tell them to fuck off. When people see that you don't talk about it, they will realise not to bring it up. And to stop them bringing it up you have to be agressive.

[Serenity]

Yep I agree with all of the above- your sexuality has nothing whatsoever to do with your brother's, and tell the jerks who think so that they're dumb for thinking so. You are your own person, and who your brother is has nothing to do with you.

[Unknown_User_11]

thank u everyone
it sure does surprise me but make me feel better that not everyone is so narrowminded about thinkin im gonna be the same as my brother

[Crazysam]

so here is the thing.
my elder brother is bisexual.
and ever since he came out last year everyone keeps asking me if i am gay or bi myself. and then there are others who just say im gay for the hell of it.
i am a teenager way to busy and confused to work out my sexuality and im over trying to defend myself from shit and am not gonna defend myself cuz i dont go around hookin up and sleepin with everybody else my age.

my question is, if my bro is bi does that mean i am?

also got any good lines for tellin ppl to fuck off wen they ask if ur gay?

just because your brother is gay it doesn't mean you are so don't worry if anyone says it is just tell them its bullshit. what ever happens don't blame your brother for this its not his fault...

[LateForTheSky]

No just because he is dosnt mean u are. If u want to tell someone to fuck off in a clever way I usualy like to say.
Fuck off or Ur nose will be a different colour from the rest of ur face. Alternativly u could say "I'll beat u into so many shades of purple u will resemble a dulux colour chart. There my favourites