What can I do?

[unsaidwords]

Hello. I came here to ask advice on a friend of mine... She has a really low self-esteem and thinks that she's fat and disgusting. Yesterday she told me that she has been trying to purge, but hasn't been able to. Furthermore, told me that, and I quote: "I'm almost there, and I will not stop until I do it. It works, believe me". She also said that she deserves to do it, since she feels like she doesn't deserve to eat. I don't know what else to tell her to make her stop wanting to do that. I don't want her to go down that road... However she doesn't allow me to help her, keeps on pushing me away. I don't know what to do... I don't her to develop an eating disorder, knowing that there was something I could have done to prevent it. She's not fat, she's not disgusting. She just thinks she is. She doesn't deserve to feel so miserable!!
Any advices? :(

[Mystique]

Try encouraging her to get healthy rather than lose weight. Suggest you both start working out together to encourage each other. Go for runs together in the morning and then have a healthy juice for breakfast. If you can both afford to join a gym, join one. It's always more fun working out with a friend. People think the only way to feel better about yourself is to lose weight but even if you are just actively trying to make yourself healthier it can be a massive confident boost. Or maybe even both of you could save up and go to a hair salon together for a make over to give both of you a confidence boost. Me and my ex used to put on our nicest clothes and go to expensive dress shops and try the designer stuff on to make ourselves feel better! Even just little things to make her laugh and smile can help

Show her that there are ways to feel better about yourself instead of resorting to such drastic measures as developing an eating disorder. I have been hospitalised three times with mine, as they try and heal me of it. It always starts out as "I'll just lose a little bit" or "Once or twice wont hurt" but then recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
Try and show her that health is more important than weight.

[cooleyds]

I have no experience in this myself but I have lots of friends that say stuff like that (accept the purge bit). The best thing to do is probably to take there mind off it and stop them from thinking about it. I personally think when you over think anything it can't do much good. 2 of my friends go gym that could be a good start. However if you go try to have fun and take your friends mind off it. Also anything your friend does is not your fault, if someone does something most the time people can't easily stop it.

[unsaidwords]

If she starts to purge she will find it alot harder to stop, As soon as i did it i went downhill, fast and now i can't stop. I'm afraid i don't know what to say because i don't even know how to help myself
That's what I'm afraid of... I "see" her in my self-harming (but trade the hurting myself for purging), and I don't want that to happen to her. I don't want her to struggle to stop something she could've prevented from the beginning
It's okay, and thank you for your advice

Try encouraging her to get healthy rather than lose weight. Suggest you both start working out together to encourage each other. Go for runs together in the morning and then have a healthy juice for breakfast. If you can both afford to join a gym, join one. It's always more fun working out with a friend. People think the only way to feel better about yourself is to lose weight but even if you are just actively trying to make yourself healthier it can be a massive confident boost. Or maybe even both of you could save up and go to a hair salon together for a make over to give both of you a confidence boost. Me and my ex used to put on our nicest clothes and go to expensive dress shops and try the designer stuff on to make ourselves feel better! Even just little things to make her laugh and smile can help

Show her that there are ways to feel better about yourself instead of resorting to such drastic measures as developing an eating disorder. I have been hospitalised three times with mine, as they try and heal me of it. It always starts out as "I'll just lose a little bit" or "Once or twice wont hurt" but then recovery is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
Try and show her that health is more important than weight.

Thank you for the advice, I'll try. She just feels like eating healthy and exercising doesn't help her to loose weight, she just sees fat fat fat every time she looks in the mirror. I try my best to help her feel better about herself but she refuses any sort of help.

I have no experience in this myself but I have lots of friends that say stuff like that (accept the purge bit). The best thing to do is probably to take there mind off it and stop them from thinking about it. I personally think when you over think anything it can't do much good. 2 of my friends go gym that could be a good start. However if you go try to have fun and take your friends mind off it. Also anything your friend does is not your fault, if someone does something most the time people can't easily stop it.

Thank you, i'll keep on trying to have fun, to make her stop thinking about it - though I can't be with her 24/7 and she keeps a lot to herself which is a bad thing.
Maybe you're right, it's not my fault (it's whoever made her feel like she needed to be stick thin to be beautiful, which she/nor nobody needs - in my opinion)