After assuming I was straight all my life, I've come to realise I might be bisexual?

[Triceratops]

This year I've been very confused about my sexuality. All this time I've sworn to myself that I'm straight and never even questioned it, but lately I've grown to like girls. I find women far more attractive than men and I feel more at ease and comfortable in my own skin when I'm around people the same gender as myself.

I feel like I can relate to girls so much more and I feel that I would probably have a way better relationship with a girl than a guy. I don't know if that's down to me doubting guys because every single guy I have ever gotten to know has either let me down, taken me for granted or has actually gone and hurt me badly. Whenever I like a guy, they never ever like me back. Not a single one of them has, and this has damaged my confidence with guys so fucking much. I always feel paranoid and uncomfortable around guys, and I feel a lot of pressure to be a certain way and I'm always petrified of what they must think of me. I think guys in general don't like people like me, and certainly find me annoying or just not good enough at all. Whereas with girls I can easily be myself and tell them anything in confidence and feel as if I'm not being judged as harshly I feel guys are judging me. I have mental health problems and a lot of emotional issues and in my experience girls are willing to listen to my problems, give advice and comfort me but with guys they have no idea what to do with me and will just say to someone else "she's an emotional wreck" or accuse me of being a "psycho" or "manic depressive" which really pissed me off because these are such insensitive and ignorant things to say about someone with mental health problems and tough past experiences (won't go into detail). Then on the other hand I think it could be my fault why I don't get on with guys, because I have this fixed opinion of them and base everything on what I've experienced before and I just keep my guard up. Btw don't think I'm generalising all males and females, I am just talking about my experience with males and females if you get my drift.

I still am attracted to guys and would go into a relationship with a guy but my question to you is...how exactly do you know you're bisexual? I don't know whether I should class myself as bisexual because I've only just become attracted to girls. I'm new to all this and have no idea about anything.

Thanks for reading all this btw, if anyone could help me out I would be so thankful.

[RCT109]

Marcie,
I was the same way about a month ago. The only difference is that I've never been with anyone before. The way I came to "Label" my self as bisexual was quite simple now that I think about it. I had a feeling that guys were attractive, but I didn't know if it was me or what. Then about two months later a friend of mine, who is bi himself, said "I could see you as bi." That night I thought about it tremendously and finally came to it about a week or so later.

To answer you.

I don't believe that you need to label yourself. The reason is that you have had a hard time with guys and you are more comfortable with girls. Also, not all guys are the same and neither are girls. But if you must label yourself, I would say you are bi-CURIOUS. Unless you have had a relationship with a girl and you liked it and felt different in it.

But I hope I helped and please feel free to PM me any time you want and we can talk

Shawn :)

[Triceratops]

Marcie,
I was the same way about a month ago. The only difference is that I've never been with anyone before. The way I came to "Label" my self as bisexual was quite simple now that I think about it. I had a feeling that guys were attractive, but I didn't know if it was me or what. Then about two months later a friend of mine, who is bi himself, said "I could see you as bi." That night I thought about it tremendously and finally came to it about a week or so later.

To answer you.

I don't believe that you need to label yourself. The reason is that you have had a hard time with guys and you are more comfortable with girls. Also, not all guys are the same and neither are girls. But if you must label yourself, I would say you are bi-CURIOUS. Unless you have had a relationship with a girl and you liked it and felt different in it.

But I hope I helped and please feel free to PM me any time you want and we can talk

Shawn :)

Hmm yeah I think bi-curious could be a good way of putting it, since I've never actually been with a girl. Then again I feel certain that I am more attracted to girls than I am boys. Thanks for your reply btw.

[RCT109]

Hmm yeah I think bi-curious could be a good way of putting it, since I've never actually been with a girl. Then again I feel certain that I am more attracted to girls than I am boys. Thanks for your reply btw.

no problem
if you need anything im here to help so feel free

[Nathan Numberless]

A bunch of douchebags ruined your general opinion of guys ... not everybody's the same though. There are kind understanding guys out there... somewhere... a telescope and ionic detection equipment should help :rolleyes:

[Mathew0606]

Labels labels, labels
Don't identify yourself. Explore it can't hurt and to yell with what other people think of you

[Discomposure]

I felt like this about a 2 years ago.

What I can't understand is why do we let ourselves get so confused and have that need to label ourselves as gay straight or bi?
All my life I have had daft boyfriends (never a proper relationship), found males attractive and never questioned my sexuality.
When I started college I grew pretty close to a girl who had a boyfriend at the time. We got closer and feelings started to come, ones i'd never felt before and eventually I accepted they weren't the usual feelings you have for a 'friend'. Blah blah blah... to cut a long story short I thought I was straight, and now i've been in a relationship with this girl for just over a year and a half.
All relationships have their ups and downs but I can honestly say it's the happiest i've been ever.
Do you feel paranoid around even your male friends? If so maybe thats your personality and not your sexuality?
Being with a girl isn't perfect though either! Mind games are awful sometimes!
However, I don't think you can class yourself as a certian sexuality because you fall for who you fall for don't you. If you have feelings for someone that you can't control then you can't really control your sexuality... unless it's family then i'd say control that haha!
Anyway what I'm trying to say is don't be confused etc. You'd have to see what you prefer, being with a male or female but you won't know until you have been with both if that makes sense.
If you find yourself more attracted to girls, then try it, nobody can tell you what you are or aren't, only yourself once you've experienced both.

Ignore me if that's useless!
Amy