I need Help on trying to get my GF to quit SHing :/

[Juggalo_4-2-0]

i want to help my GF to quit SSH becasue i hate seeing her hurt her self and ive tried everything but i cant help her quit...

Ive tried everything to help her but she cant last more than a week without it.. i have tried telling her to call me when she wants to SH but it never helps :/ ive tried making her laugh and all that and still nothing :/

I dont want her to get as bad as i am since she started about 6 months ago and im trying to help her stop before its to late and she ends up like i have in the past.

She made a promise to stop if i do but neather one of us can keep that promise :/

im being threated to be sent to Highland (the local rehab center) and i want to go and get help but i just cant leave her with noone to talk to :/

anyone have anyways i can help her before i get sent there? i dont know how long i have and i just really wanna help her.

[AwkwardTurtle22]

Try to just show her that you care, and that you support her. I think you know how vulnerable people can get when they are at a low. Make sure that she knows that you want to help her, listen to her when she wants to talk. I guess basically give all you can offer to help but in the end it's up to her to accept the help. I know that a bit sounds harsh but I know from experience. I hope things for out.

[PinkFloyd]

Ask her what exactly you can do to make her stop cutting. (Other than the obvious one.)

[Juggalo_4-2-0]

Try to just show her that you care, and that you support her. I think you know how vulnerable people can get when they are at a low. Make sure that she knows that you want to help her, listen to her when she wants to talk. I guess basically give all you can offer to help but in the end it's up to her to accept the help. I know that a bit sounds harsh but I know from experience. I hope things for out.

thank you for replying im going to just try all this with the rest of the stuff that has been posted here :)

I am like this with my bf... he tries everything, but i just can't stop it, it's horrible.

see i have the same problem she has and neather one of us can stop..

Ask her what exactly you can do to make her stop cutting. (Other than the obvious one.)

tried and she just wont tell me :/

[Jupiter]

You have to be patient. Just so you know it's an addiction, and honestly it takes a little more than a "bf" to help her. I'm glad you're trying to help, but you need to ask her. <3

[AwkwardTurtle22]

no problem, again, I hope things work out

[georgiamay]

You need help, and so does she. Maybe try and use yourself as an example to her? Go to the rehab centre and get help, and try as hard as you can to get better, and that means focusing on yourself. They won't stop you from talking her completely, so when you talk to her, maybe tell her that it's helping, and tell her what you've learnt there (if it helps, that is). Show her what it's like to get better, and she'll want to get better as well.

It's not fun when everyone around you is getting better and you're not, it motivates you to get help.

To be honest, there's not much you can do to help her in the long run. You don't want to hear that, but it's true. You can distract her at the time, but you can't simply cure the problems that are causing her to self harm. Maybe convince her to get help. Tell her that's it's the only way, and trust me, most of the time with mental health issues, it is the only way.

[Juggalo_4-2-0]

You have to be patient. Just so you know it's an addiction, and honestly it takes a little more than a "bf" to help her. I'm glad you're trying to help, but you need to ask her. <3

i know its an addiction because i deal with it everyday

no problem, again, I hope things work out

thank you :)

[bigfoot]

ask her to come to the rehab center with you perhaps? SH is such a tough subject with me, somedays I want to quit, others I am grateful for it.good luck with you and your girl :hug: