Social problems advice helpful

[apathy]

I've never been good with girls. Well, in terms of dating. I am nice to all
. I always looked fr a good relationship, and I can't decide if this is because of a personal need for someone, If it's some kind of weird ideal or something that have or if I'm just an arrogant fuck.

This girl came last year from France and she was perfect in every way. We were in french and I helped her with calc all the time. We did this project for French together, and for the rest of the year we did everything together. Loved being with her and doing things. Eating food whatever. She didn't have a phone at the time and I make decent cash fixing phones do I made her a really nice all white 3GS for Xmas. It even got straight physical but no sex

I've been a registered puss for some time now, and I didn't decide to ask her out until summer. She went to Mexico to "learn" Spanish. Before she left we went on a walk and she basically told me she wanted to be friends. I was like ok but didn't really sink in.
I tried callin her in Mexico , but it never worked.
Then she comes back her profile pic with me is replaced with some Mexican dude.
I was like let's go eat. She told me she still wanted to be friends.... Oh I have a boyfriend. I was obviously very dissaointed. Turns out she'd known this guy in Mexico before but never became b/gf because he was in Mexico. Also turns out she like coordinated the visit to Mexico with his family. She basically told me that I was perfect but she always saw me as a friend, earns for a bit as a bf.
I was like ok... I mean she's having a "long distance relationship " with some guy in Mexico. I even got her a new iPhone. I don't think she was using me because she tried to pay me for them.

I don't want to sound like a prick, like I'm entitled to having this girl.
I do feel
A bit led on.
We still hang out but it's not like it used to be.
I told her how I feel about her and all that shit.
Is there hope she will ever like me, should I just ignore her and go back to feeling sorry for myself?
Could it be a personal flaw? Was I too generous? Maybe too cynical and not a romantic? Maybe it's some subconscious need for attention or people's pity?
Any help I can't decide whether I should just tell myself "fuck it"

Or try to win her heart ? And how to do so

[ashdyn]

It's not you at all. From what you said, I think this girl is totally missing out on a great guy. I think I would feel a little led on too if I was in your shoes, but in her defense she did sort of DTR before she left (would have made it easier on you if she didn't wait so damn long). Back to you though...I think the only mistake you made was not telling her about how you feel and what you wanted sooner. Everything else you did though was great.

About getting her back/waiting for her...long distance relationships tend to be very strenuous and if you really pushed the issue she would probably come back to you just for the "physical companionship" if nothing else, but you don't seem like a douche bag to me and personally I think you're too good for her. If she couldn't realize how great you were in all that time you spent together then she's stupid or blind or something lol. I mean this guy from Mexico better be a fucking model or filthy rich or something, she even said you were perfect. I think you should let her go and find someone better for yourself. If you want, you can try to stay friends with her...but I would be feeling pretty bitter if I was you. When you find another girl, be yourself. You're obviously a great guy with the ability to get a girl. Just don't wait so long to make it official next time.

[JayTea]

I sorry to hear man, I know exactly how you feel. Just like Ashdyn said, I do not believe it is you and I would say that you are too good for her.

In all honesty, I would go out there and get someone better. I know you can do it, good luck!