How Should We Do This?

[Biscuithead13]

Ok so there's a guy who I initially met online on a teen site but he lives in Nashville, Tn and so do I. We've been talking and we like each other BUT there's some things we need to sort out. We haven't seen each other in person yet since we've only been talking for a month, but we want to meet at the mall near my school (and his school is like 5 miles north of mine) and get to know each other. Here's the thing though, I just got out of a relationship and I'm not quite ready for a new one at the moment, I want to get to know him, and I've told him that and he agrees. One more problem, I dont want either of us trying to hide the relationship, because my last two ended badly because of that very reason. I'm out to both parents, and my mom who i live with has seen me with a boyfriend in the past. He is out to his mom, but not his dad. His dad would be the one taking him to the mall, and he's told his dad he is "going to hang with friends." I'm thinking if he gets away with it the first time great, but I wouldnt want him to hide it from his mom. The biggest thing might be that because we dont go to the same school, yet live in the same city, both our parents would inquire about how we met.....what would I say? I'm afraid if I'm honest and say online then I'll never get to see him. I was thinking of saying we met through a friend. Thoughts on these 3 problems???

[OregonStateDude]

I think it would be easy enough to hide it from his dad. There's plenty of reasons for two guys to hang out together, without making it a gay thing. And since you say you want to get to know him better, it's not like he's going to be an "instant boyfriend".

As to how you met him, yeah, I'd go with the friend thing.

Damn, if gay dating is this complicated, I'm glad I'm going to wait until I'm a sophomore, LoL.

[Zarakly]

Hey one thing that you could do is that you had some friends that happened to be his friends and you met that way. Or you could say you met at some school event or something. The girl that I like idk which town she lives in, but we met at a fundraising event for the same class so yeah...

[RCT109]

chris;
this is tough
with the thing about his dad just pass it off as you were going to chill at the mall and meet up with more friend
the whole how you meet was thew a mutual friend who attended both schools

[Aidan]

Ok so there's a guy who I initially met online on a teen site but he lives in Nashville, Tn and so do I. We've been talking and we like each other BUT there's some things we need to sort out. We haven't seen each other in person yet since we've only been talking for a month, but we want to meet at the mall near my school (and his school is like 5 miles north of mine) and get to know each other. Here's the thing though, I just got out of a relationship and I'm not quite ready for a new one at the moment, I want to get to know him, and I've told him that and he agrees. One more problem, I dont want either of us trying to hide the relationship, because my last two ended badly because of that very reason. I'm out to both parents, and my mom who i live with has seen me with a boyfriend in the past. He is out to his mom, but not his dad. His dad would be the one taking him to the mall, and he's told his dad he is "going to hang with friends." I'm thinking if he gets away with it the first time great, but I wouldnt want him to hide it from his mom. The biggest thing might be that because we dont go to the same school, yet live in the same city, both our parents would inquire about how we met.....what would I say? I'm afraid if I'm honest and say online then I'll never get to see him. I was thinking of saying we met through a friend. Thoughts on these 3 problems???


I wish you well here a new start and yes its great to get to know people first.
I think you should say that to him in person - its great to chat online but i think its so much differant when you meet.
Its ok to say you me thru freinds - but I really dont know that at this stage you can have him alter his relationship with his DAD - like you say you dont want him to hide the relationship and you are wanting a guy you have never met to come out to his DAD.

The other thing is - how often can you meet - can he get a bus or train to you
cos if this depends on his DAD driving him then its going to be hard.


but -- ITs great you both now have a chance to get together

I wish you well.

[chiisaiaoiryu]

You could always say that you were both shopping at the same store at the same time, like a clothing store, when one of you asked the other for help. It's not too strange for people to become friends like that, so it should be a very believable story.

[Foamy]

Prob1: just take it slow, and just get to know him first.
#2: if you don't wanna hide it then don't. If he does he can.
3: "we were in the same store and we have similar tastes"
"we met thru another friend"