boyfriend problems

[little.miss.peanut]

kay so i have a boyfriend but he lives almost an hour (driving) away from me.. i really like him but he cheated on me.. i don't just mean kissed another girl he had sex with her :$.. i forgave him but I'm starting to think it was a bad idea... he is also doing drugs, he promised he would stop then did it again anyway.. what should i do?? :(

[PoseidonX43]

park's place :arrow: Relationships and Dating

(sorry this is a late move.)

[West Coast Sheriff]

DUMP HIS ASS
U deserve better than that!
Go find a guy who you care for and will actually treat you right!

[Josie95]

I'm sorry dear but if he's cheating on you and breaking promises then I don't see any reason to stay with him. Someone who is a liar, and cheater and a druggie doesn't sound like someone I would want to waste my time with.

[Katy_G]

Well its up to you but I definitely wouldn't put up with that. If you love and think the relationship is worth fixing thats different but I think you should talk to him about how you're feeling

[Foamy]

Leave him. If he doesn't keep promises then he doesn't keep you.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well my opinion you should really break up with him. Here are the reasons why! First off he cheated on you! That means he's probably been cheating with you MANY times!!! Second of all, when someone says they'll stop taking drugs, and they really have been for a long time, they will not stop! Trust me, I know they won't, no matter how badly you like them, or how kindly they say that to you!

[May_Star]

I'm just going to put myself in your shoes for a bit. My deal breaker when it comes to relationships with people (in general) is lying...twice! Sure, everyone has their little white lies, but when it comes to something serious, I wouldn't put up with it. If my boyfriend broke his promise, then that would be counted as strike one, like say forgetting to show up at a date. Considering how grave the promise was, which in your case, is addiction to drugs, is at a higher level. Sleeping with someone else is way over the top this time. One move like that and my boyfriend is gone. Maybe it's just me, but sleeping with someone you love is ....huge.

Besides, if he did those things already, aren't you afraid that he might do something worse? Hmm. If he really loves you, he'd sort himself out. If you don't see him change, then leave him. You deserve much more. But then again, this is my take on this. What happens depends on what you think. Who knows? Maybe your love for him will conquer all. Hope things work out though!!

"Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."

[Thecodfather]

I don't think he's worth the time nor effort, so if I was you I'd leave him.

[Human]

Dump him, but sex isn't always meaningful :P

[FreeFall]

So ask yourself, why're you with him? Don't say you love him. There's more to a relationship than just love, it needs so much more to survive.

Do you trust him? Do you foresee a happy future together? Can you be open with him? Can you really forgive him, and never hang anything over his head? Can you accept him for all he is and all he's doing? Can you accept that he doesn't respect you at all? Can you accept he's broken the value of a relationship? How would you feel if he chose drugs over you? How would you feel if he got 6 women pregnant behind your back? How would you feel if he cheated in front of you? If you wanted to work things out, and he just laughed at you in your face, would you be ok with that? Do you feel safe with him? Do you feel tired with him or do you feel invigorated and empowered?
What are you hoping to get out of a relationship like this?

I urge you to get yourself checked for STDs/STIs above all else. You can't be 100% certain, with how he lies, about how many other women he's had, or how many of them were even clean.

[fallman]

Dump him. All the girls I've dated have lived 30-60 minutes away and its a pain. You'll be better off without him.