How do I come out?

[LxNearxHunny]

Okay, Im a 13 Year old boy and have been sexualy attracted to both genders for almost all my life. I want to come out, but i dont know how to. Its really difficult to tell my friends things like this, because im afraid ill be shunned for it and they wont talk to me anymore.

Any tips on how to come out? Preferably from someone who has already came out, in which case please say how old you were when you came out, and what you did.

I really want to get this off my chest, but im just afraid my friends wont talk to me anymore if i do. I know some people might say "Then there not your real friends", but there the only friends i have that go to my school. If there not my friends, then ill have no one to talk to at school at all.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

-Near

[Crazysam]

Ok your 13,
Your hormones are everywhere your probally just a bit curious. For all you know you might not even be gay...
I would personally hold back a couple of years and still see if you feel the same then. After all you don't want to go and have this labbel put on you if you realise your actually straight!

Oh yeah and people might not take you verry seriously at such a young age....

[LxNearxHunny]

First of all mate your only 13 for all you know you may not be gay and people probably won't take you verry seriously. Well that's my advice

True, so what should i do? Just wait untill im older and not say anything?

[Crazysam]

sorry i edited my message the first one was not verry usefull read it now :P

[LxNearxHunny]

Ok your 13,
Your hormones are everywhere your probally just a bit curious. For all you know you might not even be gay...
I would personally hold back a couple of years and still see if you feel the same then. After all you don't want to go and have this labbel put on you if you realise your actually straight!

Oh yeah and people might not take you verry seriously at such a young age....

Hm... That's a bit more helpful.

Well, I've only told 1 friend about it, and he didnt seem to mind. I might wait untill im 14-15 to tell anyone else.

Thanks for your advice.

[redcar]

Ok being gay or bi places a nasty load on yourself. And I know there is the need and want to tell people.

But I would certainly hold off. I think you are too young. Wait till your older. And remember that being gay is not something that people have to know because its not something that defines you as a person. Its just something thats part of you.

Being gay used to be a big deal. But its starting to change, because people are becoming more accepting. But the younger you are the bigger the deal it is. Like if I told my friends I was gay when I was 13 it would have made life difficult. But when I tell people now, I am 19 now, people dont care. Because the older you get the more of life you see and realise that being gay is ok. But when you are 13 a lot of people dont see it that way.

[Sugaree]

Ok your 13,
Your hormones are everywhere your probally just a bit curious. For all you know you might not even be gay...
I would personally hold back a couple of years and still see if you feel the same then. After all you don't want to go and have this labbel put on you if you realise your actually straight!

Oh yeah and people might not take you verry seriously at such a young age....

Yeah take what crazysam said your hormones are driving you nuts to put it that way :p! Ppl will probably not take you that seriously about coming out of how young you are. So might want to wait a while for it

[byee]

Well, eventhough I'm not gay, I'll try to help out here.

I think you should start by asking yourself exactly why it is you want to share this with others. What's your hope here, what do you expect to gain?

Sharing anything really personal is always a risk (esp. when it's something that will immediately set you apart from most people). there's always the chance (probably more than you'd like to think) that it/you won't be accepted too well. You might want to keep that in mind.

I think people share really personal things in order to not only 'get it off their chest', but also to gain acceptance and get closer with others they trust. this might not happen in your case, so maybe it would be best to come up with other ways of getting that closeness without taking such a risk.

[lxl]

Just in my opinion, but i think that 13 is little early to decide on your sexuality... you might want to wait until you are certain that you are attracted to both sex
I know it's a tough road in life, and i've been there and done that...
sorry for the short advice... im little short on time here hehe
If you need advice or help, PM me and ill help u out :)

[LateForTheSky]

I personaly think u should only tell trust worthing people and for god sake make sure u a re defently decided U dont want to have to say to ur mate who thinks ur hay oh by the way i am str8 now. But at the time dont beleive any of that its a phase shite. I know for defenate. If u dont have any doubts then 9/10 u will be gay or bi. Its never thought that someone our age who says they are str8 might not be. I think it should be the same with gays

[cyoung-wd]

Okay, Im a 13 Year old boy and have been sexualy attracted to both genders for almost all my life. I want to come out, but i dont know how to. Its really difficult to tell my friends things like this, because im afraid ill be shunned for it and they wont talk to me anymore.

Any tips on how to come out? Preferably from someone who has already came out, in which case please say how old you were when you came out, and what you did.

I really want to get this off my chest, but im just afraid my friends wont talk to me anymore if i do. I know some people might say "Then there not your real friends", but there the only friends i have that go to my school. If there not my friends, then ill have no one to talk to at school at all.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

-Near

well i came out when i was 13 (still am) (im male) i i only told one friend. however i didn't tell it to her face. i done it through msn, i asked her if she minded gay people, she said no and then i told her. and after tht i've told another 3 people

[jakejohn]

if i were you, i would wait until you're 100% sure that you're bisexual
it might just be your hormones so just wait and see...

[Atonement]

okay, I am kind of the same problem, I think that I am still a little all over the place, so I am going to wait before I make the biggest mistake of my life.