I hate it all

[KatieBaby]

So I have never posted this publicly but now I feel like I need to. I was molested by my step dad for 3 years until 2 years ago. i thought i was fine and i went to therapy about it an all that. but the last few months I feel so messed up. I started cutting and Im scared of being around people much and a guy i was dating started to touch me when we were making out and he was so nice but i totally lost it on him. im back in therapy but im not getting any better. any advice?

[Thunderstorm]

It sgood that you have access to therapy, because many people wouldn't have the courage to confess this. And it's good you are telling others and not keeping this locked in side you all your life. I think that you should stay on the course of life you are on and never see your boyfriend again. Only if he won't do that to you again, but I doubt he'll change. It isn't good to re-live the past. Move towards the future. Good luck ;)

[lou lou]

I am so very sorry. :( *hug to make you feel better*

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Im so sorry, Katie! :( Therapy can really help alot, seriously, use it! And if your still with him, explain youre not okay with that... and anything else. Keep doing therapy and let it out basically. I hope you can feel better soon!

[WickedWeekend]

I'm sorry about that. Those three years must have been awful. But now it's a part of the past. Granted, you may be traumatized from the experiences, but it's not your fault. He takes the blame. And it is awesome that you are getting help for this. The therapists have more expertise in this area than us VTers. They are professionals after all.

Tell the guy (if you are still with him) that you did not feel comfortable with the touching and if you are comfortable, tell him why. If he loves you enough, he will understand.

My advice... Never feel responsible for what your dad did. You didn't molest yourself. He did. You are only able to do better than him.

Sorry if I didn't help, and you are welcome if I did. Stay strong!

[Mortal Coil]

Katie, therapy does work. It takes time, but eventually it will help you move on and lead a normal life. Until then, all you can really do is cooperate. Tough it out. Please try to find some other ways of coping aside from cutting; it's cliche but that is not a good way to deal with things.

[DudeAsInAwesome]

I am sorry for the troubles in your life. :(
Hopefully things will work out for you anyway... Wait, did you have a fallout with him? how about just forget about him and just move on?
I'm sure you'll find someone else ;)

or do you feel so down you don't hate the guts to speak to him? You should treat this as an opportunity to sort out your problems as it will probably make you feel a lot better.

It's good that you got therapy... many would be too embarressed to admit it, especially the stuff about boyfriends... which people like to keep to themselves...how brave of you! :) You have the good quality of courage :P

Smile and don't live in pain :) Life is short, so make the most of it!