Big decisions, I need an unbiased opinion..

[insanity]

I need help to make a real big decision. The issue is moving schools, I really want to move but I cant just move.. I really need an unbiased opinion on this...

At the moment I am a scholarship student at a private school a hour away from my home. I will do my IGCSE exams in october/november. But next year I would like to move to the local school and do NCEA (which is like New Zealands national system)


Why I would like to move:

-I spent half of last year going to school in Ireland, I had such an amazing time and managed to get through my whole being shy, I made great friends and really enjoyed the experience. After coming back to my school in nz I immediately wanted to move again. All of a sudden I became that shy unhappy girl I had just freed myself from. That sucked.

-I only have a year, maybe two, left of school. I dont feel as if I have had all the experiences I wanted at college. Like, I love the school im in, its so small and friendly and all. But I want to explore and experience a new school now, take different subjects meet new people.

-At my current school I have a couple great friends. But I dont really get along with a lot of the other people as ive always been shy and they always expect me to be shy and its stayed like this, but after Ireland Im no longer that shy girl I was, but as everyone expects it still I cant seem to change. As my current school is real small there isnt much other people in my year, I dont have the chance to meet new people, and well, almost everyone lives an hour away anyway.

-as the school is far away I cant really participate in any after school activities or sports or anything, I would like to be more involved.

-As I am a scholarship kid Ive always worked really really hard academically. I get sooo stressed out. I no longer care about my grades though as I dont want to go to university, I want to do a course in special effects make up design, academically my grades dont matter and I no longer have the motivation I used to.

-the bus trip is hard, I spent 2 hours daily on a bus, I would prefer to not do this..

-truthfully, Im unhappy at my school.


Why leaving is difficult:

-for a start, qualifications, if I have my IGCSE, but I dont have level 1, then how do I slot into the system...

-going from a small school to a large school.. what if I cant cope..

-I feel that I am no longer as shy as I used to be, but what if I am and I cant make friends

-I went through a real tough time at the start of last year, I had a real hard time dealing with depression and anxiety order an being put on meds etc.. as the school is really small and such a good school, I got alot of support, I felt all the teachers were looking out for me and like the school genuinely cared.

-I love my teachers. I am so lucky to have some real good teachers that I get along well with. especially my art and fabrics teacher, telling them I am leaving will be hard.

- Fabrics. the school is introducing an AS fabrics course next year but they need a certain amount of people to do it, everyone has assumed I will do it, so if I leave what if there is not enough people....

-A couple years ago there wasn't enough money for school even with the current scholarship, when mum and dad went to pull us out, the school said it was fine and gave us a cheaper fee. at the time I was devastated at the idea of leaving, and it was so so good of them to let us stay.


I just dont know what to do :c I need to make up my mind by friday as thats when options for next year are due.. help pleease anyone :(

[Mortal Coil]

Well, every opinion is going to be biased, since that's just human nature. Personally, I would move if I were you. It will help you gain independence from your parents and make going to Uni a lot easier.

[Aidan]

Big decisions, I need an unbiased opinion..

I think you should move schools.

You need to give yourself this opportunity, thats it nothing else - matters -

students on a fabric course - the past - reduced fees - whatever -

Reach out and have for you this opportunity.

[insanity]

Well, every opinion is going to be biased, since that's just human nature.

I meant an unbiased opinion like someone who doesn't really know me and who this decision wont effect. Because everyone in my life who I ask seems to have an opinion, like my friends dont want me to leave other friends want me to come to there school and like blah blah blah.

But thanks guys, I think I will end up moving..

[Foamy]

If you want my opinion, here it is:

Stay. Yoü say you only have a year or so left. Moving schools with that little amount of time left is horrible. If your shyness comes back it is possible tht you go through the year (or 2) knowing absolutely nobody. Also, seeing as you're at a smaller school, you'll get attention you may or may not need from teachers, friends, etc. I'd stay.

[insanity]

If you want my opinion, here it is:

Stay. Yoü say you only have a year or so left. Moving schools with that little amount of time left is horrible. If your shyness comes back it is possible tht you go through the year (or 2) knowing absolutely nobody. Also, seeing as you're at a smaller school, you'll get attention you may or may not need from teachers, friends, etc. I'd stay.

but if I did that, what if I regretted it for ever?. like you only go to college once and then its over and you cant go back..

I know what you mean, starting again will suck. but then again, im unhappy where I am at the moment.. so in theory it would only get better..

ah, that wasnt too clear. I do have some friends in the other school I am thinking of moving too, but they have tons of other friends who I dont know, and the tricky bit is trying to make friends with their friends as well to fit in a group, or else it would be really awkward. Its not like I know nobody..

Yeah the small school thing is definitly a really good thing about my current school..