Attraction to cousin

[defqonner]

The situation is:
Someone has only seen there cousin (1st cousin) once in there life.
At the time, they were 17 and there cousin was 28.
The 17 year old is a boy and the 28 year old is a girl.
The 17 year old has only seen the 28 year old once because they live in different countries.
They've seen eachother for the first time because of a wedding.
the 17 year old finds its awkward and hard to talk to her because she is really pretty and only ever seen her once. The 17 year old doesn't seem them as a cousin or family more as a stranger.
I was watching an episdoe of house were this boy fell in love with his sister and it was the first time they had ever met. Even though they were related they still were in love with eachother. but because they hadn't seen eachother ever it was like they were strangers. So it got me thinking.
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Is it normal to have feelings for a family member because you have only met them once in your life. Seeing them more as a stranger rather than family.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Is it normal... Youd have to get alot of opinions. I love my family members and everything... example my niece is whos 13 and im 16... But I love her and think shes cute but not in the same way as my girlfriend. I love my niece as family and me and her are like siblings so I love her and think of her as a sister too and shes cute cause shes my niece haha.

[wildabeast]

yes and no there this thing i read that hapens to family when they dont see each other in a long period of time i forgot whats its called hmmm let me see if i can remember

[Harley Quinn]

I personally don't think it's normal, but everyone has their own opinion. Even though you've only met them once, it's still a family member and it's morally wrong in my opinion. I'm not saying that you can't love someone in your family, rather I'm saying that you shouldn't act on it in any way shape or form. It's like if you had sex with your dad - it's the same principle and to be honest, it's all a bit weird even if they aren't immediate family. Not to mention the 11 year age gap.

[Aidan]

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Is it normal to have feelings for a family member because you have only met them once in your life. Seeing them more as a stranger rather than family
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Yes its normal and works both ways -

As in your example a feeling of love and when a child and birth parent or sibbling meet after a prolonged period apart. Often they have no feeling of connection - or maybe one does not.

But I guess the guy at 17 is like normal teen boy and then meets a 28 year old girl and they have time together and at least something in common to chat about. Weddings of course are a celebration of love, the young guy is maybe just feeling that and you know hormones and all.

Family and inter family relationships have differant norms and expectations in differant cultures.

[anyone50]

Right or wrong in most states cousin-loving is considered incest up to 3rd cousins in some areas. Can you have feeling for someone in your family and i would say yes as long as you keep them in the right place and not act on them in a physical way. what your feeling or should i say your friend or whatever dosen't matter it's just sexual attraction between 2 stangers that happen to be related and not what i would call love which takes time to happen. Think with your big head and not your little one and i'm sure you will make the right choice

[defqonner]

I think this kid has feelings for his cousin because he can't get past the fact that there cousins. Im sure after a week together at the wedding he won't anymore.
ye house did it.. if family members haven't seen eachother for a while, like a long time. They become atttracted to em.
anyways thanks

[Lock]

the attraction will be there no doubt especially if you are age mates eg 16,17 or 19 since you never met the person before or met only once or for a short period .

[West Coast Sheriff]

It's kinda normal but you are still 2 close 2 do anything. I've seen lots of people have crushes on 3rd or 4th cousins but honestly 1st is 2 close 2 take it further.
:cool:

[defqonner]

no no no!!! the 17 year old would never ever ever act upon it.
one she is like 11 years his senior..2 ITS HIS COUSIN!!! haha.

[justinglives]

Absolutely .......
Espec. If he didn't know and she is hot.

[kuperman11]

Is it normal to have feelings for a family member because you have only met them once in your life. Seeing them more as a stranger rather than family.

i think it would be normal.

i have a cousin a couple years older than me that lives across the country so i don't see her that often and i think she is hot but i wouldn't want to get with her

[defqonner]

i have a cousin a couple years older than me that lives across the country so i don't see her that often and i think she is hot but i wouldn't want to get with her

Now someone understands.
I'll be sure to tell him its normal, but not to try and do anything otherwise he'll fuck up the entire family lol

[Nullandvoid]

Right or wrong in most states cousin-loving is considered incest up to 3rd cousins in some areas. Can you have feeling for someone in your family and i would say yes as long as you keep them in the right place and not act on them in a physical way. what your feeling or should i say your friend or whatever dosen't matter it's just sexual attraction between 2 stangers that happen to be related and not what i would call love which takes time to happen. Think with your big head and not your little one and i'm sure you will make the right choice

Exactly! The first time I met my cousin I was 13 and he was 14 and really cute and where we were all staying there wasn't really any other young people so we hung out a lot for days and he was charming so sure it was easy to develop a crush - especially they way he would flirt and always check me out at the beach... and everywhere else I suppose- but you don't act on it, it's going to be nothing but trouble and not go anywhere even if it's legal where you live, modern western society is against the concept
Enjoy the view and company but just keep it friends

[Nolf]

I think people are taking this a little out of hand, the real question here is if the guy is messed up for being attracted to someone hes somewhat related to. And from my perspective the answer is no. Obviously it gets into a grey area where a lot of opinions are tossed around if we start talking about anything more than thinking the cousin looks nice, but considering that she has about as much influence on your family life as a friend of a firend or random party guest would, youre not screwed up for being attrated to her. Just keep it at that level of passing fancy

[honeybear]

you can't control how you feel about someone...only how you act on it

[azorne]

Feelings are uncontrollable, but actions are not.

[jokermaster101]

well its ok, its normal. idk how you feel, but i am attracted to my cousin, she is 2 years younger than me. she hugs really hard. she doesnt know and she has a boyfriend.

[defqonner]

But the difference between all you people is....
My friend has only met his cousin ONCE in his life.
Doesn't really see her as a cousin more of a stranger