Age difference

[Sleepy Raisin]

So i have this friend who likes this older guy, and she says he likes her back. When she told me at first i thought it was a joke so i laughed... But she was being serious..

The thing is she's 15 and he's 21. Personally i dont think its a good idea for a sophmore in high school to date a 21 year old man.
Whats your opinion on this? :what:

[Harley Quinn]

She's underage anyways so even if they were to get together it's illegal. My opinion is that when you're that age you shouldn't be thinking of dating a 21 year old, you don't know where that shit is going to end up. While yes I have dated a few people that were 18+ when I was that age, and younger, it wasn't a good idea and I'd advise her not to. At least not until she's the legal age.

[justalovestruckteen]

What's the age of consent in your/her area? (I think age of consent is applied to dating.) I'm just trying to find out if it's legal. (although there are laws in different areas were the age difference between a minor and an adult must be less than two years or so. It's different in every area.)
My opinion on the subject is pretty much not what many people think it's good. In my opinion, if your friend is emotionally and mentally capable of being with an adult. (Like for instance, she is willing to wait till it's legal.) I don't see a problem with it. A five- six year age difference is not so bad. When she's an adult the difference can't be seen.
But this is just my personal opinion based on experience.
Though it is a little strange that the guy would be interested in her, since many adults are like, "Teens are so fickle they fall in love 200xs a day." or "They don't know what's love!" (Which half of me believes it's partly true but that's not my point.)
I would tell her to be careful and advise her against it and to wait if it's illegal. After all she doesn't want to cause him any trouble right?

[FreeFall]

The youngest age of consent in the U.S.A is 16.
15 is underage in every state.

ugh. My friend went out with a 40 year old in Junior year, so exactly 16. She loved it because he was "mature, grown-up, an adult, smarter than these stupid boys our age, and could provide for her." The idiot forgot to check if he was married and had a great surprise to see that his daughter's in our grade. But my friend is idiot.

Frankly it sets off red flags for me, something's wrong with a 21 year old if they go after high schoolers instead of their peers. That's my personal take on it. Yes high schoolers can be mature but they're high schoolers, a 21 year old is an adult and cannot truly connect to one that young. Again my personal take and opinion, I'm very well awar there are exceptions.

But this isn't your business. Sorry to say it but you should only give your opinion on it when asked what you think by her. Her romantic life is her's, there's nothing that can be done unless they engage in sexual activity before she's of consenting age.

[Kirsi]

I have a cousin who is 25 and last year when he was 24 he dated a 15 year old and moved her into his bedroom with him after only knowing her for a week and he was jobless and still lived with his parent's and he has 2 kids from a previous marriage that he doesn't look after. and everyone in my family hated it and she wasn't even a nice girl. I really disagreed with it because he was almost 10 years older than her witch wouldn't have been so bad if she weren't only 15! On top of that his younger sister told me she could hear them doing it witch is illegal. The difference between 15 and 21 is not as big of a difference but it would still be illegal for them to have sex but if they are serious about their relationship and they aren't doing anything illegal and he isn't like my idiot cousin then it's not too bad in my opinion.

[JessDaly]

Yeah hes too old for you

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Yeah other than being illegal its morally wrong and well if she has a lick of common sense... there ya go!

[workingatperfect]

It depends on her and whether or not she's mentally and emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship with someone that much older than her. When i was 15 I was seeing a guy that was 20, almost 21 and I was able to handle it because I was mature for my age. I had always hung out with my older brother and I grew up pretty fast. I was used to being around older people, so for me it wasn't weird.
If she's mature for her age, I don't see an issue with it. If she's not though, it's not a good idea. And yeah, it's illegal for them to have sex, but that hardly matters. And by the time she's 16, he'd be 22 and it would still be illegal in a lot places because of how far they are in age, but again, that's not really the main issue.

[West Coast Sheriff]

It would be breaking the law. I feel as if it is wrong, but that's just my opinion.

[Sleepy Raisin]

Yeah hes too old for you

Not me, my friend.
The youngest age of consent in the U.S.A is 16.
15 is underage in every state.

ugh. My friend went out with a 40 year old in Junior year, so exactly 16. She loved it because he was "mature, grown-up, an adult, smarter than these stupid boys our age, and could provide for her." The idiot forgot to check if he was married and had a great surprise to see that his daughter's in our grade. But my friend is idiot.

Frankly it sets off red flags for me, something's wrong with a 21 year old if they go after high schoolers instead of their peers. That's my personal take on it. Yes high schoolers can be mature but they're high schoolers, a 21 year old is an adult and cannot truly connect to one that young. Again my personal take and opinion, I'm very well awar there are exceptions.

But this isn't your business. Sorry to say it but you should only give your opinion on it when asked what you think by her. Her romantic life is her's, there's nothing that can be done unless they engage in sexual activity before she's of consenting age.

I didnt even think about the age consent..

I told her that, that her life is her's and im not gunna tell her how to live it. But she's DEFINITELY not mature enough to handle a relationship with a 21 year old guy, but i know its none of my buisness which is why i tried to stay out of it for the most part(besides the part where she asked me)

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

This is a horrible example... but for how mature alot of 15 year olds can be its basically as wrong and bad as a 13 year old dating a 18 year old... now if someone here says thats okay... look at it. 13 year old... going through puberty bout then, their first year as a teen and probably cant get a job in most places. 18 year old... legal adult, pretty mature and can really get a job anywhere college experience isnt needed. Can legally smoke in the US and many other things.... the maturity level is far in between and its just wrong again... Oh and hell if age is just a number, then jail or prison is just a room ;) 3 years age difference in my case is pushing it... 1 or 2 is normal and okay but beyond that... unless your 18+ ... not really good.

[FreeFall]

Not me, my friend.


I didnt even think about the age consent..

I told her that, that her life is her's and im not gunna tell her how to live it. But she's DEFINITELY not mature enough to handle a relationship with a 21 year old guy, but i know its none of my buisness which is why i tried to stay out of it for the most part(besides the part where she asked me)
Hm. Wonder then if the 21 year old's "mature" enough for her. (aka immature and will be a man-child for a good chunk of his life if not forever)

Oh well. What can one do? You can just be there for her, give her your opinions when asked, and respect her boundaries and "relationship" if one were to form.

[NotAvailable]

1- he's too old for her
2- she is underage

so she should end this relation , and that's only my opinion