Friendzoned and Asking them out help!

[BrassMonkey]

Ok, I have had so many posts about stuff leading to this, but I really need your help! Ok, Im kinda friendzoned with this one girl that I really really like, and I want to ask her out. The thing is, she went through a bad breakup with her ex, and had a hard time getting over it, and kinda still is. Its been over a month since the breakup, and I dont know if I should ask her out now or wait still. She already had guy friends ask her out, but that was days after the breakup and she was a little upset about that, but now she has people at school asking her out and flirt with her (She was homeschooled last year, but now back in public school). She kinda seemed excited I guess you would say, but I dont really know. So I dont want to wait too late, but I also dont want to be too early. Any advice would be very much Appreciated!

[VEight]

Try to be there for her even if you can't date her. But it is worth a shot to ask her out. Don't wait too long. Good luck.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmm, well how bout you ask her out for a date! And keep going on dates, till you both feel like you wanna be together. But now a date can mean you guys getting to know each other more, and not like date dates that you probably want. (Do that later bud!) But don't freak her out! Last thing I want my best friend doing is trying to flirt with me, which will make uncomfortable! So good luck bud!

[BrassMonkey]

Homecoming is coming up, and I want to ask her to homecoming. I just now thought of that, I really hope she would go with me.

[monkey2]

good luck

[Taryn98]

Timing is very important. Since you two are friends that's a good start. You should wait and ask when you two are togerher and she's having a great time and laughing, smiling and in a good mood. If you guys hang out and enjoy each other's company and she seems really relaxed that particular day, do it then. If she's happy, she'll be much more inclined to say yes.
Just make sure you do it in person, not over text or the phone.

[Aidan]

Ok, I have had so many posts about stuff leading to this, but I really need your help! Ok, Im kinda friendzoned with this one girl that I really really like, and I want to ask her out. The thing is, she went through a bad breakup with her ex, and had a hard time getting over it, and kinda still is. Its been over a month since the breakup, and I dont know if I should ask her out now or wait still. She already had guy friends ask her out, but that was days after the breakup and she was a little upset about that, but now she has people at school asking her out and flirt with her (She was homeschooled last year, but now back in public school). She kinda seemed excited I guess you would say, but I dont really know. So I dont want to wait too late, but I also dont want to be too early. Any advice would be very much Appreciated!


Wow what a careing guy you are---

Maybe the best you can do is not so much ask her out

but ask / or suggest like " If you fancy going out or a movee whatever we could go together" hope this helps

[BrassMonkey]

Well, I just asked her out to homecoming. She seemed like she was up for it, but theres one problem. The homecoming dance might be around the same time of her birthday. We dont exactly know yet when the dance is, I think its in September because thats what everyone is saying, and thats when her birthday is. So, I think she is up for it though.

[ashdyn]

What are the chances of it being exactly on her birthday? lol

Now is not the time to slack. You gotta start planning something so ridiculously romantic to get her to stop looking at you like her cute best friend that's caring and there for her - to the hot best friend that's really romantic and a good guy that's now amazingly dateable.

When you find out about homecoming (keep checking the school calendars) try planning a prom-posal. Which for you I guess would be a homecoming-posal. You don't have to worry about rejection cause she already said yes...this is just to put you in a whole different light. Gotta be crafty though. Get in good with her friends so they'll hook you up. You'll need them to get the deets on plans for her birthday. Plus if you make them feel involved they're more likely to cockblock other guys trying to make moves and in the aftermath they'll talk about how great you are. You just have to make sure there's no ambiguity, it has to be completely romantic so that there's no room for her to say "awh you're such a good friend!"

After she says yes and starts seeing you in the boyfriendy type of way (potentially) then you have to ball out for homecoming. Rent a tux, coordinate outfits, flowers, limo if you've got money to blow.

I'm not saying you have to spend tons to buy her affection, you can't. But what you might lack in monetary terms you can make up for with sappiness, originality, and pure boldness.

PM me if you need ideas. I'm a professional at getting people to date lol

[BrassMonkey]

*Sigh* Well this is turning out horribly. After I asked her out, she didnt really talk to me much. A few days later she tells me that she feels a little awkward. So, I told her we need to talk friend to friend, and get some things said and straightened out. I asked her when, and she said Soon two times. Well, days go by and we talk very little. Anytime I ask her when she wants to talk, its like she begins to ignore me. I was hoping this wouldnt happen, but it did anyways. I dont know what else to do or say because i dont know how she feels and what she wants to do since we havent talked yet. I dont know how to feel. Sometimes I begin to fell like giving up, but I really dont want to. Sometimes I begin to feel angry about this situation, but then I dont want to say anything else to make her upset. Ughhh, this completely did what I didnt want to happen.