I'm going to die

[Jimmy Page]

There is no good and gentle way to say this....
I have been diagnosed with HIV
I got it from a random guy I was stupid and slutty enough to have sex with some time ago(and for that I deserve it)
I'm scared,I've known for a week or so,but for some complicated reasons I'm the only one informed,my parents don't know yet....
I don't want to die,but there's a voice in my head telling me I should just die,not tell my parents and refuse treatment
This is probably a huge bunch of "I don't really.need to know this",but I want to tell because vt are a big part of my life,and I want to relieve the pressure I've had on me....
Sorry for taking up your time

[The Chameleon]

I'm really sorry for you.

[lou lou]

well your not taking up my time I have time for everyone and I am sooo very sorry.

[West Coast Sheriff]

You need to tell someone like your parents or a doctor. Many people get HIV and live, as long as you get medicated and don't let it turn to aids you should be fine. You are very appreciated here and I want you to know you should be alive.
Please get help,

[Tucker13]

I'm sorry. But maybe you should tell your parents

[root]

That really sucks...
I'm sorry

[Mob Boss]

I know I've already told you this, but your parents need to know. They would want to know. I have no doubt you're scared, and can't imagine what you're feeling right now, but telling your parents and seeking treatment will do you worlds of good. And like Francisco said, there have been amazing medical advancements, and new treatments are being discovered everyday for ailments. You've got to give yourself a chance, and live the life you deserve.

[OrKing]

I'm sorry man, but B's right, you're going to need to tell you're parents. It's gonna take some balls but you gotta do it, I'm here for you bro, and so are the Orc's. You're gonna need to be strong about this thing mate, yet another reason to tell you're folks, they'll definitely help get you through this. You have loads to live yet mate, be strong man, we're here for you.

[Guillermo]

It's imperative that you get help in this situation. Without some sort of treatment it, you'll eventually get very sick (within about 10 years usually) and be vulnerable to AIDs. HIV patients have lived on for many, many years if they received treatments. So just think; is it better for you to tell your parents so you can get treatment or lose precious time in the future that you could have used to be the person you always dreamed to be just because you didn't get the treatment you needed. But it's ultimately your descision on what to do. I'd recommend looking up information about HIV online. Maybe this could get you a better understanding of this information. But again, I recommend that you get help very soon because if you don't do it, then when will you do it? When it's too late?

[Listed MIA]

I'm really sorry to hear this. But firstly, you absolutely do not deserve it. No one does. And secondly, you are not taking up people's time. I hope you feel a bit better reading people's replies here.

Maybe you can have a doctor or someone like that tell your parents? Or help you tell them. I can imagine how it would be a crazy hard thing to do. I don't think you have to do it alone though. Good luck.

[Foamy]

Ian, tell your parents and try medical care. We all have the time to be here, and you don't waste any of it. You gotta be strong ad live the life you deserve to have. We're all here for ya. :)

[justinglives]

That so sucks!

[Breakeven]

:hug: im sorry hun

[Jimmy Page]

So....
I told me mum,she took it pretty well I think,she's still crying quite a bit,but she didn't get mad,getting mad at me and punish me would just make the situation ever shittier for me

[Kirsi]

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. It's not your fault you know.. you only did what many teenagers do and that guy should have known better. It makes me sick that there are people out there that would do something like this to other people. I don't know a whole lot about HIV but I have heard that it doesn't work too fast... I can tell you my grandpa had cancer for 14 years before he died even though they told him at first he only had about a year. He had to go through treatment but he stayed positive and enjoyed life as much as possible and because of that look how long he was around. He didn't suffer much until his last year and I think he did pretty good. I don't think you should give up you should make the best of the time you have left because you deserve it. you never know how long you have and you may be here for a very long time still so don't give up okay? I'm always here for you if you ever want to talk and again I am really so sorry.

[Jimmy Page]

Wow,that made my day darling,thank you
And the guy that gave it to me didn't know at all,he found out not long ago himself...I feel bad for him,poor lad

[Kirsi]

Ah I see well I hope the best for him as well then. Glad I could "make your day".

[Gigablue]

You need to get treatment as soon as possible. Without treatment, HIV usually progresses to AIDS within a decade. With treatment, this can be delayed by decades or indefinitely. You also decrease the chance of passing HIV on to anyone else. With proper treatment, you can live a nearly normal life and not have significantly decreased quality of life or lifespan.

HIV treatment today is very good. The treatment can suppress the replication of the virus and stop it from causing significant damage. This is much more significant when you get treatment shortly after exposure.

You need to tell your doctor and get treatment as soon as possible. Depending on your age and where you live, the doctor might not need to tell your parents, and probably won't if you say you don't want them to know. You should still tell your parents, they care about you and can offer you support.

[Liam-O]

I am sorry dude and this is really saddening. You should tell you parents and get treated. No one deserves to die for making a mistake dude.

[Empty Spaces]

I am so sorry Ian :( I can't even imagine how you feel, it's hard but stay strong and positive, you have our support.

[Gandalf]

Ian, you have all of us here for moral support.

It's good to hear that you told your mum and I'm just going to reiterate on what I said before:

do some research into HIV/aids and treatment, then go and talk to your doctor.
The quicker this is acted on the better chance you have of a almost normal life.


Best best wishes,
~Ben

[azorne]

Well, I'm sorry too, but here's a tip. Contact either the Duke University School of Medicine or the NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital. Both of them will be able to guide you. You're young, so a bone marrow transplant is actually a possibility.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Youre a good guy, Ian and you dont need this to happen to you!

[Loreley]

I'm really very sorry.:(
You did very well you told this to your parents, they must know about this.
And don't say that you deserve this. Anyone has the privilege to live.
Also, there are very good doctors who can guide and help you. Don't give up.:)

[Fractured Silhouette]

Oh god Ian, I only just noticed this thread. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

Keep fighting man, you'll get through this.

Keep rocking. \m/

[LoLer]

Be stron we are all here for you...in moments like this we are here for you!

[Cognizant]

I'm really sorry Ian.

Keep strong, fighter. :)

[NotAvailable]

I'm sorry Ian to know that....
I'm sure that no one can imagine your feelings and what going around your mind, but u need to stay strong and never give up.

i wish if i can help

[Rayquaza]

I'm glad you found the courage to tell your parents, and it's been diagnosed early, meaning you will be just fine. I was told by a local GUM clinic that visited out school that, on average, people diagnosed with HIV live for another 80 years, which is amazing. Keep fighting and stay strong.

[AppealToReason]

Considering the advancements in finding a cure for HIV, I highly doubt you'll die from it any time soon if you get help as soon as possible. This isn't the 70's/80's anymore, so HIV is not a death sentence. I'm not saying your life will be easy, but I don't think your future is as grim as your OP believes.

[wild1]

Ian + medication = Long happy life. Plus there will be a cure for AIDS at some point.

[Mortal Coil]

Ian :( I can't believe this. I'm so sorry. It's cliche, but I really am. Try to get yourself on some anti-RV drugs so that you can live longer. This... I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I don't know what to say.

[Neverender]

You might die, but given today's medicine you won't die any time soon. You've still got years left before that happens.


I have Mantle-Cell Lymphoma. I WILL die within 2-4 years. Keep in mind you're still in a better position than a lot of people.

[wildabeast]

You know jesus's arms are always open. miracles can happen. just go in to a church and pray. even if ur not a christian u can go in no one will judge. no matter who u are.
and if u dont belive in god . just remember this we all need somthing to beleive in
Hope things get better

[Cicero]

I am so sorry to hear. Get medical treatment, and your parents must know. No matter what. Just know, miracles happen everyday, if you dont believe in miracles. Then just know there have been so many advances in medical research. who knows, maybe they have caught it in time.

[Thunderstorm]

There are plenty of people with HIV/AIDS that have been a huge succes in their lifetimes. Ryan White was one fo those people. Don't think it's the end of the world. You cna liv your whole life virtually without symptoms of HIV. You'll still have medication, but you cna live your whole life. Do it for us at VT.

[dmb1996]

you should tell your parents because many people surrive with hiv with medication

[runnerz]

Ian, i dont know u, but look at all the people reaching out to support you! u gotta get treatment andstay alive for as long as possible! that way, they'll be time for better and better cures ti be developed!

[Noxail]

Honey, no one deserves this. You are not slutty, or stupid, you made a mistake. And like so many people have said, get help. I'm positive your mum will get you treated, and that you will get to live your life as you want. Having HIV is not your death sentence and you have so many people supporting you. I don't think We've ever spoken, but I've seen you around a few times, and I really hate to hear this. :hug: Just stay strong, and please, please, don't hesitate to PM me for any reason. I wish you the best. ~Holli

[Levy]

Well, that's unfortunate. I won't sugarcoat it. Sleeping without protection with anyone nowadays, even if you know them, is definitely not a smart move. You made a mistake now you have to man up and face it, HIV does develop into aids which is deadly and incurable. We all die though, eventually, and maybe not because of aids. It's no reason to give up though, if you get help you can live a long lovely life with HIV, plenty of people do it. Don't be a coward and give up, fight it. If you die, at least go down swinging your fists. Modern medicine can make an HIV life quite tolerable, I'll have you know. Well, that's my 2 cents anyway. Good luck.

[Mystique]

As someone with HIV, I'm going to be totally honest and say it is going to be hard. The medicine has horrible side effects and people judge you as soon as they find out you have it. However, the medicine does work and as long as you can deal with a couple of side effects, they do give you more strength and energy. And they prolong how long it will take before it develops into AIDs.
There are even cases now where people haven't had it develop into AIDs at all depending on what strain you have :)
Feel free to message me if you need to talk

[disassociation2016]

I've met someone who had HIV. You can live a reasonably normal life. Please for the love of god don't spread it around. The guy who did this to you is a fucking scum bag. Honestly they're are people who get a kick out of infecting others. Please just don't.

[AppealToReason]

. The guy who did this to you is a fucking scum bag. Honestly they're are people who get a kick out of infecting others. Please just don't.

Ian said somewhere on the first page that the guy didn't know he had it either.

[Blader98]

Don't let those stupid voices get in your way. You deserve tO live

[LiamC]

Oh my god I'm so sorry to hear that :( It's going to be hard but everyone will get you through it I'm sure and treatment etc. is much better these days :)