Advice regarding Girls...

[ItalianRacer]

Kind of long, so my bad.

Anyway, so I have never really been with a girl too intensely, but recently, I am starting to get more in shape and turn life around for the better so I hope soon that will change. But that is whatever.

Main issue I have is for some reason I have a mental block which prohibits me from even getting interested in a girl. The fact she is not a virgin bothers me and not exactly sure why, because realistically 99% of girls are not, so unless I want the 1%, I have to learn to live with it no ? Yes. But it preoccupies me...like always.

And I also, when I see a girl that is attractive or whatever, fixate on her. Not stalking or anything crazy, just a fantasy but it lasts maybe a week or two then I forgot. I guess I rue missed chances ? Boh. Not sure. Worse if she is with another guy, then it is the aforementioned problem plus this one so it sucks.

Is that even normal ? Any advice for getting over it because I have to hurdle it to live life. I know that.

Grazie.

[DerBear]

I think you shall find more relevant answers here

:arrow: Relationships and Dating

[FreeFall]

It's not wrong but you need to work on yourself before you fully commit yourself to a relationship. Also the fantasize thing, nothing wrong with it.

If you only want to date a virgin that's fine, your statistics are skewed, but that not the point. The point is that it's not your place to feel angry/upset/sad at a girl for not being a virgin. It's not much your business and it's her call what to do with it. You don't know the circumstances of her not being a non virgin either, unless you do then I apologize.
If she really loved the guy, then she did what most people do, have sex to show the highest possible act of love. If she regrets losing it, why kick her when she's already down? Just because she gave it to another or lost it before you came along doesn't make her a bad person, virginity does not define a person.

Kudos to you for changing your life around but unless you want a virgin only type of life, you'll need to do some soul searching. Good luck!

[Taryn98]

Sounds a little like you're afraid to get hurt so you're looking for a reason not to get involved.