My younger brother found out that i'm gay help!! :(

[schilgen96]

So basically I was on holiday and he guessed my password and opened my facebook. There i was talking with a boy about my sexuality on messages an telling him like everything. My brother read it and asked me when i came back who's bobby( that boy) He gave me the creeps :( I tried to ask me clearly to tell me what he read but he didn't. He said just a like notification. Today it went worse and i'm sure that he knows. I asked him something about cars , and he said "you should have known that , that's for real men" or "i will tell everyone about my brothers disease" or "your'e a fag (i said no) , how sure do you are?" and "we will watch together actual porn" . He is smiling to me all the time dirty and annoys me. I tried to talk to him but he dosent sit with me. He just wants me to give him my collective ferrari hand watch to shut his mouth , but i'm sure that he won't. He has something now to threaten me to do things and blackmail me :'( What should i do guys? He is just 13 and really immature...

[Irishboy15]

You could delete the messages and then it would just be your word against his, you might at say he's lying etc. Or you could deny that it was you who sent the messages, pretend it was a big misunderstanding. Keep us updated. And sorry I couldnt help more :(

[wish_master_TWA]

Don't let him get to you man. I'd change my password and delete that message. Like Irishboy15 said, it'd be your word against his, and who will everyone believe, you or a immature 13 year old? I'm bisexual and I'm damn proud of it! Even if your friends find out, you're true friends will except you no matter what man! :) JUST. DON'T. LET. HIM. BOTHER. YOU!

[Harley Quinn]

The thing with this is, if he knows it gets to you it is something that he can use against you. Even if it does bother you what he's doing, just ignore it and pretend that you don't care. He'll soon get bored because he isn't getting the reaction he wants. If you give him that, it shows that it's a weakness. It's like with bullies, same principle applies to situations like these.

[Brice]

Delete the messages, change the password to your facebook, and lure him into a private area. Stand in the way of the exit and ask him what he knows. If he's willing to share, tell him to stop. Negotiate with him or something. Or you could pretend to know something about him that will get him into trouble. Or if you don't want to do all that dramatic stuff, delete the messages and change your password and then follow these other peoples advice. Because they're right.

[foreveralone]

just come out of the closet damnit!

[Liam-O]

Delete them messages. Change your facebook password and computer password. Tell your parents our gay and then his blackmailing will not work.

[dontfiguremeout]

I think the reason he is acting this way because he feels alone. If you guys are close, or were before, and you didn't tell him you were gay, then that would ruin the closeness of the relationship! Close brothers mean they tell each other everything, and then for you to deny your secret even though he knows! That just breaks the bond! And so then he will feel extremely upset, and angry, and so then for him to express it to you, he is saying all that stuff! Just have a brother talk, and tell him sorry for denying your secret, instead of saying you are straight up when he found out. But then also say you are gay, even though you both know it, but it's best if he hears it out of your words. And just talk to him saying it's okay, and also ask him nicely not to blackmail you or anything or even say you are gay to the rest of the family till you are ready to say it. Most likely this will work if you do something he wants you to do, or always wanted you to do, since you do owe him something big after trying to deny it. Although I don't have a brother, and always wanted one, I would feel the same that your little brother is feeling, because I would be hurt if I had a close relationship with my older brother and he kept hiding something away from me. Point is, talk to your brother and tell him your sorry, and also make it up to him for whatcha did, and make this a lessoned learned! Good luck bro!

[schilgen96]

Thanks heaps for your answers :) Im not ready to tell my parrents yet though :( I tried to talk to him today and he is laughing. But i think that he dosent really care. On the one hand he dosent want to hear "that its mot a choice" from my side but he also dosent speak of it anymore or ask things. I tried to explain to him how things really are and he only said "what now? Are you trying to convince me that its normal?" I didnt know what to answer and i just stoped. I told him that if he dosent want to listen , at least he must stop geting in my life. I deleted the messages and changed the password. I just hope that he wont carry on blackmailing me to give him my things...:(

[dontfiguremeout]

Thanks heaps for your answers :) Im not ready to tell my parrents yet though :( I tried to talk to him today and he is laughing. But i think that he dosent really care. On the one hand he dosent want to hear "that its mot a choice" from my side but he also dosent speak of it anymore or ask things. I tried to explain to him how things really are and he only said "what now? Are you trying to convince me that its normal?" I didnt know what to answer and i just stoped. I told him that if he dosent want to listen , at least he must stop geting in my life. I deleted the messages and changed the password. I just hope that he wont carry on blackmailing me to give him my things...:(

Well tell your parents and others when your ready! And about not caring part, I think he does care, it's just hard to see that his older brother is gay. And so he want's to show that, but because being lonely as I said in my earlier comment, he is trying to make a big scene to you to get attention from you. And well he is kinda right, it's not going to be normal anymore. So tell him he's right, but tell him that you don't want this to get in the way of your relationship! If you have any questions bud, you can pm me if you wanna! I know I am straight, and I got no brothers, but when it comes to family problems like this, I take from what I learned from my family problems and help others!

[Irishboy15]

Just remember its your word against his, and I mean your 16, while he's an immature 13 year old!!! Just don't give him the satisfaction. Play it cool

[Aidan]

So basically I was on holiday and he guessed my password and opened my facebook. There i was talking with a boy about my sexuality on messages an telling him like everything. My brother read it and asked me when i came back who's bobby( that boy) He gave me the creeps :( I tried to ask me clearly to tell me what he read but he didn't. He said just a like notification. Today it went worse and i'm sure that he knows. I asked him something about cars , and he said "you should have known that , that's for real men" or "i will tell everyone about my brothers disease" or "your'e a fag (i said no) , how sure do you are?" and "we will watch together actual porn" . He is smiling to me all the time dirty and annoys me. I tried to talk to him but he dosent sit with me. He just wants me to give him my collective ferrari hand watch to shut his mouth , but i'm sure that he won't. He has something now to threaten me to do things and blackmail me :'( What should i do guys? He is just 13 and really immature...




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