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[Incompris]

So, I have been Self Harm free for about 17 days now, but my mom saw my lower arms and the few cuts there, I managed to play it off but she wants to see my upper arm (I dont know why she does) and there is no way I can play it off. What should I do?? Show her and tell her, make up a story why she doesnt need to see my arm, or just ignore all of her questions? Sorry I am just trying to figure out what to do.

[lou lou]

tell her its best if she knows

[workingatperfect]

I think just being honest would be best, especially if you are trying to stop. My mom saw some on my side once and I was able to play it off, since most of the scars were faded and she hasn't noticed there were that many, but it came back to bite me in the ass a couple weeks later. I ended up telling the truth and it made quitting a hell of a lot easier. If you're really that uneasy about it, you could try ignoring her questions to see if she just lets it go, but if she doesn't let it go, don't lie about it. It will make things worse in the long run.

Good luck and if you need anything, feel free to pm me :)

[Incompris]

Thanks for the help :)
The reason I am a little bit nervous about telling her is that she was the reason I cut.

[workingatperfect]

Yeah, that's kinda tricky, but she doesn't have to know that. If she asks why you did it, just tell her it's personal, hopefully she'll let it go. But, you may want to consider that if you tell her how you feel and what she does that makes you cut, it might make things better. But trust, me I know how hard that would be to tell her... I hope everything works out for you :)

[candabear17]

I'd say just tell her. You don't have to tell her why you did it. If you don't tell her now, she'll find out in the future and she'll know you lied to her.

[roxybaby]

I think you should let her look if she keeps on asking you. I agree with the other's, that if you are trying to stop then having her know about it will help, then you might have someone to turn to if you ever need help fighting off an urge. And if she was the reason you did it, well then she doesn't have to know that. You could make up an excuse, or as the others said, just tell her it was something personal that you are not willing to talk about to her.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

When my parents found out... I can't describe it, it was horrible (although I wasn't the one to tell them, my ex and my so called best friend told them) but they wanted to see the scars etc and I showed them my wrist (it wasn't nearly as bad then as it is now) but it made really uncomfortable... But they weren't sure how to deal with it... My dad knows roughly how to deal with it - at work, but not at home and it shook them up a bit.. They did try to help but in the end I ended up worse for it.

It did stop me cutting for a bit because of the guilt and I'd said I'd stop but once I gave in to the urge I felt even worse for doing and did more and got into that cycle.

My point is that as much as your mum might want to help you, in the end it might not actually help you... IF that makes any sense.

At the end of the day it's down to you as to what you do... Think about your relationship with and would you tell her if you wanted to, or are you doing because you feel like you have to? You could just say, "I'm not ready to talk about it" kind of thing and leave it at that for now until you get yourself a plan together of what you want to do and how you're going to do it. I do however suggest you tell her yourself rather than someone else beating you to it (that's assuming there's anyone that actually knows) but in the end it's always best for it to come straight from you.

I hope this helps... Not quite sure if I've actually made a point or just rambling, it's quite late and I'm tired lol. If you want you can always PM me or something, I'm always happy to try and help.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do though, and I hope it goes well for you :)