I don't go out. I have no friends. Help me?

[beebs]

I wasn't sure where this belongs, move it if there's some place better.

Basically where I live, it's the summer holidays, they last 6 weeks and I am 3 weeks in.*

So far I have left my house 5 times. 5 times. Ive wasted over 2 weeks, doing nothing.*

I'm sick of it. I want to get out. And do stuff. But it's really, really hard. I have 4 friends. That's it. And none of them are friends with each other. So its very very difficult to go out when I have practically no friends.

1 lives a long way away. And has a lot more friends than I do, and is always with them.

1 is on holiday for the rest of the holidays.

1 is always with other people I don't know. I hate meeting new people.

And the other is really popular with her friends, who are older and I don't know.

I just feel like the spare part. *

I never ask my few friends to meet with me or do something because I feel like I'm bothering them. I hate it. That's probs partly the problem.*

But I just don't know what to do. If I say to anyone I want to go out more. They say just go out with your mates, but it's not that easy, I can't just call up someone and say come meet me, Lthey'll ever be busy or live far away.*

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've been thinking about why I don't have many friends. And thats because most people I know hate me. A large majority of them have told me to kill myself in one way or another. Ive concluded that I must just be a nasty, boring, annoying piece of shit. And that's why everyone hates me.

I'm sorry, this is sort of half rant and half asking for help...

Thanks in advance to anyone who replies:)

[Stronger]

If you feel like your going to get rejected then plan a head of time, so you know there can't be any excuses unless of an emergency or something. If you asking to hang out, that's not bothering, its what all people do, but even though it may not be your most favorite thing in the world but maybe try asking one of your friends to brain another friend along to try and meet and get to know, not a whole group but keep it to 3-4. I hope this helped you in anyway, but you know that saying, "we all gotta do somethings we don't like sometimes", this might be one of those cases. ;)

[conny]

well if your friends are like that, go make some new ones, no i don't have millions of friends and i would hate to (aha too much fussing and everyone saying come here go there :P) I just still with two groups of friends, my class mates, and none class mates

if you only have 4 friends, i suggest you try talking to people in your class a few of them might just befriend you

or add a few people you sometimes converse with on Facebook (none creeper style) and get chatting, when you go back a convo and real befriending may start (not definite but i have done it a few times)

oh and try going to clubs, people are bound to like you if your involved with something of the same sort, i have quite a few by going to a basketball team.

James

[ImCoolBeans]

If you feel like your going to get rejected then plan a head of time, so you know there can't be any excuses unless of an emergency or something. If you asking to hang out, that's not bothering, its what all people do, but even though it may not be your most favorite thing in the world but maybe try asking one of your friends to brain another friend along to try and meet and get to know, not a whole group but keep it to 3-4. I hope this helped you in anyway, but you know that saying, "we all gotta do somethings we don't like sometimes", this might be one of those cases. ;)

I agree with Brandon. Sometimes if you want something you need to go outside of the comfort zone a little bit - if you don't ask for it, you'll never get what you want. Try planning ahead of time like brandon said. Meeting new people is also never a bad thing :)

[runnerz]

I can get like that too. I really want more friends, but when it comes down to meeting new people, sometimes I feel like I just don't want to go through the hastle. Other times I'm eager to meet new people though.

So i guess you just have to weigh the options. You seem to have alibis (true or not) for all of your current friends, so your options are to try to contact them, don't contact them and stay in, or meet new people.

It's hard I know, especially since I live in a small town where I couldn't get to my friends (especially before I could drive). Maybe think of some way to get together with your friends and their friends in a way in which you'll be there, but not maybe interacting so much. Go to the movies. That way, there's less of the stigma about meeting a new person (since you're not talking through the movie), but enough of an event to maybe make a friend

[DerBear]

If you feel like your going to get rejected then plan a head of time, so you know there can't be any excuses unless of an emergency or something. If you asking to hang out, that's not bothering, its what all people do, but even though it may not be your most favorite thing in the world but maybe try asking one of your friends to brain another friend along to try and meet and get to know, not a whole group but keep it to 3-4. I hope this helped you in anyway, but you know that saying, "we all gotta do somethings we don't like sometimes", this might be one of those cases. ;)

I would also have to agree with Brandon on this one. You need to move out your comfort zone a lot more and attempt to meet new people.

You could also try reading this guide (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=25633), I have always found it to be informative.

As the old saying goes, Nothing ventured, nothing gained.