Please help....

[Shane.B]

I am gay and only my mom (thinks I'm bi) and some friends know. Can someone tell me how to come out to my grandparents, uncles, aunts and little cousins? I'm 14, cousins are 7,6,5,3,and another due in Dec.
Can u also say your coming out story?

[lou lou]

Well maybe you should wait to tell your cousins but what I did was I just told them they Said they would love me nomater what so just tell them. They will love you all the same as before you told them

I wish you the best of luck.

~Lauren

[RCT109]

lauren's right just tell then they will still see u the same

at first they might watch what they say around u but it will ware away

as for ur cousins not yet they wont know what ur talking about

[Shane.B]

Well my grandparents are complete Homophobes, one of my uncles and aunts I think are homophobic, and the other set are accepting but would never probitly let me stay the night or babysit my lil cousins again.... I'm sorry for makin this complicated....

[Guillermo]

Well my grandparents are complete Homophobes, one of my uncles and aunts I think are homophobic, and the other set are accepting but would never probitly let me stay the night or babysit my lil cousins again.... I'm sorry for makin this complicated....

It'd be better to come out to your accepting aunt and uncle first because then you'll a little support group right there. It'd probably be best to not tell your little cousins yet because they probably dont really understand the concept of "being gay" right now.Then, when you get the confidence, you should tell your other aunt and uncle and your grandparents too. The coming out process can be long and difficult with many hardships. Not everyone will accept you, most likely, but don't let that deter you from showing them who you really are. And don't think that you have to rush it and tell everyone at once. I recommend staying close to your friends and family that really love and accept you; they can be your greatest allies if things go wrong.

[Shane.B]

I want to tell them since it has been a few years now... But I don't want to get kicked out of the house (mom and I live with my grandparents) and I want to be able to see my lil cousins still :( I hat this...

[Aidan]

I am gay and only my mom (thinks I'm bi) and some friends know. Can someone tell me how to come out to my grandparents, uncles, aunts and little cousins? I'm 14, cousins are 7,6,5,3,and another due in Dec.
Can u also say your coming out story?

Maybe you can get help with this - maybe your mum could if you wanted her to

or you could write a letter or send a card. maybe just a thought.

Then again do you have to tell them as such -



whatever helps whatever works,

I hope you do ok.

[root]

I am gay and only my mom (thinks I'm bi) and some friends know. Can someone tell me how to come out to my grandparents, uncles, aunts and little cousins? I'm 14, cousins are 7,6,5,3,and another due in Dec.
Can u also say your coming out story?

lol, I never got why people had to tell people that they're gay. Can't you just show it?

[DerBear]

You could try reading this thread, it has coming out tips and has other peoples stories below it. Coming Out Tips; Share Your Story! (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627) this should help.

However, really only you will know when the time has come and when the right moment is. Also think long and hard about if this is really what you want to do, because once it is said it can't be taken back. You have to be 110% ready and expect both positive and negative reactions as when coming out, even to family, it can be hard.

[Wonder.]

Is there any reason why you have to come out now? It seems like it would be easier to just not say anything. I would just wait until I moved out to tell the rest of the family. Unless someone knows and is using it as blackmail, just don't worry about doing it as soon as you can.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

I don't see a point in coming out until you're 100% definite and ready.

[gespenst]

if they really love you they wont care

[Drew5]

Might as well wait until you're 100 % and dating someone and at that point, you won't really have to tell anyone, it'll be pretty obvious or if they don't get it, they'll ask. Plus a lot of old people won't get it or would rather ignore it instead of talk abt it.

[War-Is-Real]

Only tell those who aren't homophobic.
As for cousins, wait till they are eight. Then they don't feel obligated to tell everyone.

[JimmyIsNowAMan]

I think coming out seems necessary for older people who have been acting straight when they know they're really gay. I think for teens our age, we just act the way we are and let others figure it out for themselves. No need to put it on blast...just be who you are. They'll figure it out.

[Shane.B]

lol, I never got why people had to tell people that they're gay. Can't you just show it?

Just so you know there are masculin gays ok! I am one of them so don't dis us!