Broke up Ackward....

[XxLoneSurvivorxX]

so my girlfriend and i broke up going on a year ago and i did it in a bad way(text message) and i know it was wrong i even aplogized for it but this year for school we have 2 classes together and i havent spoken a word to her in a year. Even in the halls we really ignored each other. Any advice? im i screwed? is there a way to make it less ackward?:confused::what:

[Gordo]

Man up and "Kill her with kindness". Not any big convo at first, just break the ice as soon as you see her. Don't even give yourself time to think about it, just do it and make small talk: "hey what's up, how was your summer"?

Best case, she responds like anyone else. Worst case, she goes nuts on ya. If that happens, don't get mad and just say, "well, I'm sorry for what I did and I'm sorry you feel that way, but it's stupid for us have had a relationship and now work at ignoring each other and I'm not doing that anymore".

Think about that a few minutes.

1. Ya kept it light.
2. You made it so time works for you. The longer you wait, the more awkward it will be, so that's gone.
3. You stepped up and took the high road.
4. If there are other kids around, good. Now your rep is taking the high road. She can't bad mouth that. If there aren't kids around no problem, makes it easier to make first contact.

In a way, you'll be putting her on the spot to step up and at least act civil.


If she continues to ignore you, keep shifting the awkwardness towards her by treating her like she's one of you better friends. With a simple "hey" or even a nod hello. She can continue that for a while. She might even complain to her friends abt it, but if you keep being that way, her friends will take up your side when you're not around because what can she really complain about? It's not like you're trying to get yourself back in her social circle - don't try to.

After a few days or even two weeks she may make an attempt to talk to you and she might be positive or negative and just maintain the kindnees. If she asks why you're doing it, tell her - ya don't like the awkwardness and don't want to put effort into any drama or even ignoring her.

As much as ya might not like doing some of that, that's why I said "Man up" first thing. Sometimes it takes more of a man to be kind than being mean or just ignoring someone.

No matter how it goes or what she said if you do the above, you'll know you tried, she'll know you tried and if there is talk about in the school, they'll know you're trying, so no matter how she responds, you'll have some peace and help your reputation.

[FreeFall]

Why? Did you want to remain friends?

She could just not be into you.
I had an ex that wanted to be friends, I didn't. I was civil and that was it, everything else was irritating.

Personally I think you should leave her alone, unless she's given you reason otherwise, and move on.