when does experimentation become more than just curiosity?

[ExhibitG]

i think we should have a debate like this on here. i see far too often in the teen sexuality and puberty sections about being curious and wanting to experiment, but i think we should have a more clear definition of the difference between being bicurious and flat out bisexual.

a lot of times someone will post something like "oh i really want to do anal with my best friend i think hes really hot" and then everyone replies saying "oh don't worry you are just curious!" lol forgive me, but being the bisexual that i am, (previously bicurious/in denial) i don't think someone with a mere curiosity would have such a huge attraction to the same sex and go as far as full-on anal sex with the person. or if you are constantly swapping hj/bj together, aren't you way past curiosity? the curiosity is over because you already experienced it and know what it's like. now it's just a sexual attraction, plain and simple.

people tend to use the label "curious" so they can stay in denial of the possibility that they could be bisexual. i know -- i did it for about three years. to me, curiosity should just mean having the urge to try something with the same sex maybe once or twice. if it continues after that, it's only because you've enjoyed the experience, right?

any thoughts on this? tell me if you think i'm totally right or an ignorant jerk lol, but i think the topic is worth discussing.

[OregonStateDude]

I think it's kind of a grey area. I mean, the word "bisexual" can apply to so many different things.

Here's my situation, I'm gay and my best friend is straight (99% anyways). We jerk each other off and sometimes I give him a blow job. He refuses to give me a BJ, 'cuz he thinks it's wrong for a straight guy to do this (which is fine by me). Also he has no emotional attraction to me or any other boys.

So I would never classify him as bisexual. Yes, I'm sure he's past the point of being curious; we've been fooling around for almost a year now. But it doesn't mean anything; he's just a horny dude, LoL!

I guess every situation is different, it probably depends on the guy and how much he really enjoys touching another guy. Does he like it a lot or is he just being nice and helping a buddy out.

[Harley Quinn]

I think that you go past the stage of curiosity when you know in yourself that you can have a relationship with the same sex. That and when you know it isn't just a 'phase' because lets face it, many people experiment and never turn out bisexual or gay, it was just to experiment. Anything after that stage, I can assume that the person in question now knows that they aren't curious and in fact, like the same sex and wish to pursue it further. Many people deny being bi and stick to curious because it's a lot easier to deal with, but then later on they'll probably come out.

[prettyinink]

I think you're totally right on that. I think that if you like the experience and want more than you are bisexual. I'm pretty sure if you didn't like it, than you would stop. That just makes sense, and therefore your just straight. Or in the case where you're gay and didn't like the experience with the opposite sex.

[FallUnder]

I believe, like PeterAlexander said, if a Straight ( bi-curious) guy can get emotionally attatched to both a girl and a guy after experimenting then they have crossed that Bisexual line. On the other hand, if that same guy is just getting off with another guy (hj bj), then in my opinion the guy is just fooling around.

[SkeptiqL]

I agree with most of Peters post but Kryptonite couldn't have put it better. That's essentially what I would've said.

[Aidan]

i think we should have a debate like this on here. i see far too often in the teen sexuality and puberty sections about being curious and wanting to experiment, but i think we should have a more clear definition of the difference between being bicurious and flat out bisexual.

a lot of times someone will post something like "oh i really want to do anal with my best friend i think hes really hot" and then everyone replies saying "oh don't worry you are just curious!" lol forgive me, but being the bisexual that i am, (previously bicurious/in denial) i don't think someone with a mere curiosity would have such a huge attraction to the same sex and go as far as full-on anal sex with the person. or if you are constantly swapping hj/bj together, aren't you way past curiosity? the curiosity is over because you already experienced it and know what it's like. now it's just a sexual attraction, plain and simple.

people tend to use the label "curious" so they can stay in denial of the possibility that they could be bisexual. i know -- i did it for about three years. to me, curiosity should just mean having the urge to try something with the same sex maybe once or twice. if it continues after that, it's only because you've enjoyed the experience, right?

any thoughts on this? tell me if you think i'm totally right or an ignorant jerk lol, but i think the topic is worth discussing.


"it;s just sexual attraction,plain and simple"

I thhink in that one line you have shown that you assume a sexual attraction as opposed to the I guess more usual of - horny looking for a thrill release of hormones jerk bj with freinds.

[I] think peopel should be free to

1) not label or be labeled and and

2) label themselves as they are comfortable doing so.


Whatever thier age or stage of puberty or sexuality.

Many will have a great need for that period of denial as the progress along the way of sorting it out = with themselves.


Just my opinion


Aidan

13 getting circumsised and I have slight / first degree Hypospadias

[Short Circuit]

I think the line between being straight and curious is as fine as the line between bi and gay. We all have our own interpretation of what curious means, but to me, if you can "rise to the occasion" then there must be an attraction there in the first place!

[Biscuithead13]

i think we should have a debate like this on here. i see far too often in the teen sexuality and puberty sections about being curious and wanting to experiment, but i think we should have a more clear definition of the difference between being bicurious and flat out bisexual.

a lot of times someone will post something like "oh i really want to do anal with my best friend i think hes really hot" and then everyone replies saying "oh don't worry you are just curious!" lol forgive me, but being the bisexual that i am, (previously bicurious/in denial) i don't think someone with a mere curiosity would have such a huge attraction to the same sex and go as far as full-on anal sex with the person. or if you are constantly swapping hj/bj together, aren't you way past curiosity? the curiosity is over because you already experienced it and know what it's like. now it's just a sexual attraction, plain and simple.

people tend to use the label "curious" so they can stay in denial of the possibility that they could be bisexual. i know -- i did it for about three years. to me, curiosity should just mean having the urge to try something with the same sex maybe once or twice. if it continues after that, it's only because you've enjoyed the experience, right?

any thoughts on this? tell me if you think i'm totally right or an ignorant jerk lol, but i think the topic is worth discussing.

I really enjoyed reading this because I thought of myself and how I feel......I've been bicurious for years, and honestly sexuality is about who you would date not who your physically attracted too. Otherwise, I'd be bisexual, but I identify as gay because I'm only interested in dating guys. I experimented with guys many times, and honestly I did it because [I]I was[I] curious, but it turned out, I just had much more satisfying experiences with guys. I had a girlfriend, and I actually enjoyed the relationship, but intimacy with a girl just didnt give me the satisfaction intmacy with a guy does. Enjoying experiences with guys just means it was enjoyable, but sexuality to me is about intimacy and who it would be with.