Ever have your best friend turn into a dick?

[phenol]

I had an awesome best friend for almost 2 years, which was great because it's hard for me to make friends at all. Anyway he moved at the beginning of last year, and for a few months we stayed in constant contact via SMS (texting). But really ever since about a week after he moved, the rate was slowing down. Like at first we probably would talk all day, at least when he had time. A week later we'd talk once or twice a day. Another couple weeks later, only once every other day. Few more weeks, once a week. Then by about the middle of the year he just started completely ignoring my texts as well as any other communication.

To say the least, from facebook and twitter it appears he's turned into a complete douchebag. It hurts to say that because if you knew him before he moved you would have never thought that this could have happened. It was probably the last thing I'd ever expect him to do. To be fair though the city he moved to is known to many as just about the douchiest city in my state; filled with arrogant pricks with their heads so far up their asses that they created a paradox by coming back out of their mouths. I guess this is why I never accepted him moving. I know if he had moved some place nicer, this wouldn't have happened.

I've constantly tried to move on from the day I realized this about a year ago, but it's hard of course for anyone. However, it's even worse for me because he's been the only real friend I've ever had. Everyone else that would say they were my "friend" would blow me off in a second for a free skittle or some shit. It's always been that way. I finally actually make nice with someone and then find out within a couple weeks that they're not actually my friend and just trying to make me not feel bad about having no friends.

Just me complaining about something I'll never have back though. How about you? Anyone ever have a best friend turn into a total dick and "fall in with the wrong crowd" so to say? (I guess douchey is better than stoner... not by much)

[Loreley]

I had a best friend. We had a very good relationship, and I thought that we will be good friends forever. But unfortunately, this year she changed her character a lot. I tried to speak with her about that many times, but after that, she did the same things. So, I saw that we can't be friends anymore. I told her about the things I didn't like in our relationship and I started to avoid her. We are classmates, but now we have just a typical relationship.
This year, I will go to high school. I hope that I will find a friend there. It hurts but I know that I'll meet a lot of people like her in my life.
So, don't give up and keep trying.:)

[Music4Lyfe]

I had a best friend for maybe 8 years who all the sudden dropped me and took up new friends and bad habits that I wasn't ever gonna get into. And now we don't talk to each other. It's hard to lose a friend like that and it pretty much screwed me up with trust issues. I don't know if I can call anyone my best friend besides my cousin who is like a brother to me. I mean me and my ex friend did everything together and then he just forgot about me. It hurts

[lou lou]

Well my best friend was a awesome person. We dated a few times and after we broke up we were still friends. But the last time before we broke up he started hitting me and being a dick. I did not know what was wrong with him. Turns out he was cheating on me.

So maybe your friend found the wrong group to hang out with. And has found a few assholes for new friends.

I'm sorry :( but it happens to every one once in your life.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

i had a really close friend for about 4 years, but after i came out to him as trans he ignored me and he told people about my goals to get hrt and srs in the future. some of the kids he told i dont like because they arent trust worthy.

i had another for while but i dont know how i saw him as a friend. he never cared about anyone but himself, me in particular. he didnt listen when i tried to talk to him. he told my gf that she that should have said no because im an idiot.

[phenol]

Well my best friend was a awesome person. We dated a few times and after we broke up we were still friends. But the last time before we broke up he started hitting me and being a dick. I did not know what was wrong with him. Turns out he was cheating on me.

So maybe your friend found the wrong group to hang out with. And has found a few assholes for new friends.

I'm sorry :( but it happens to every one once in your life.

I'm happy that at least my friend isn't like a hits girls and gets hammered for fun type of people. Just the kind of dick you expect from someone that has a little bit too much money (he doesn't so idk what's going on, but yeah.) like where they think they can get any girl just because they're attractive or ignore their less popular (me) friends for no apparent reason.

[level_up]

Yup I kind of know how you feel. I haven't really had a friend just start being mean to me like that, but I've drifted apart from several besties and it's a really painful thing to go through. Tbh though, most of the times this has happened it's at least been partially my fault...because I was either judging them too harshly, not being forgiving enough, or sometimes just not even spending enough time with them or something like that.

Idk when the last time you talked with your friend was, but I would just push him out of my mind and try focusing on myself and making new friends. I know you say it's hard for you, and it's hard for me too and for lots of other people, but you just have to keep trying. If it happened once then it will happen other times :p You have to be patient, confident, and most of all you have to take the initiative and not just wait around for people to come to you.

it's been a year I guess since you realized your friendship with this guy was done, but trust me he hasn't forgotten about you. I bet if you sent him a message randomly after giving him some space, and just let bygones be bygones, he would talk to you again, even if your relationship isn't as s trong as it was. I'm not saying that's the right thing to do, only you can decide that, but for the time being just stop fixating on the past and live in the present so you can make new friends and have new experiences. That's what your old bestie is doing.

[root]

I had an awesome best friend for almost 2 years, which was great because it's hard for me to make friends at all. Anyway he moved at the beginning of last year, and for a few months we stayed in constant contact via SMS (texting). But really ever since about a week after he moved, the rate was slowing down. Like at first we probably would talk all day, at least when he had time. A week later we'd talk once or twice a day. Another couple weeks later, only once every other day. Few more weeks, once a week. Then by about the middle of the year he just started completely ignoring my texts as well as any other communication.

To say the least, from facebook and twitter it appears he's turned into a complete douchebag. It hurts to say that because if you knew him before he moved you would have never thought that this could have happened. It was probably the last thing I'd ever expect him to do. To be fair though the city he moved to is known to many as just about the douchiest city in my state; filled with arrogant pricks with their heads so far up their asses that they created a paradox by coming back out of their mouths. I guess this is why I never accepted him moving. I know if he had moved some place nicer, this wouldn't have happened.

I've constantly tried to move on from the day I realized this about a year ago, but it's hard of course for anyone. However, it's even worse for me because he's been the only real friend I've ever had. Everyone else that would say they were my "friend" would blow me off in a second for a free skittle or some shit. It's always been that way. I finally actually make nice with someone and then find out within a couple weeks that they're not actually my friend and just trying to make me not feel bad about having no friends.

Just me complaining about something I'll never have back though. How about you? Anyone ever have a best friend turn into a total dick and "fall in with the wrong crowd" so to say? (I guess douchey is better than stoner... not by much)

Bro, do me a favor and don't use red next time. My eye sight is shit and can't focus on funny colors.

Moving on, a lot of people are two-faced. I think that if you knew me in real life, you'd probably seriously hate me since I've been told that I'm a major bitch. He probably felt that he had to live up to the standards of his new town and fit in. No one is actually a douchebag at heart. Normally they fake it and shit because faking and playing characters is way easier than being yourself. I know this first-person.

I kinda know how you feel. I have friends but they're not really friends. None of them really like me at all. I don't think I ever had a close friend like that.

[Zarakly]

Actually I have had this happen to me twice...
Once in 4th grade me and one of my other friends best friend(we called us the 3 amigos) any well my best friend out of the group moved to another town. The first couple of months were fine we talked on the phone and hung out once in awhile, but then we stopped talking. They eventually moved back in like 7th grade but it was completely different.
And now my best friend that I met in 5th grade seems to not really enjoy my company or something. During 7th grade we were just fine, we hung out every week, played LEGOs and xbox, helped with his chores and it was just good all around, but then our school closed and we had to go to another one in 8th grade. THats where everyone changed. He started to hang out with these other people more, not with me anymore. I rarely went to his house, maybe like once every 2 months. Now as a freshmen in HS, he rarely has me over, I ask if he wants to go play airsoft he just says idk. And its not like he is in trouble or anything becasue he invites other people over all the time.
I'm not even sure if I really was their friend, it jsut seems as though I annoy them or something. At least I had made a new friend and many more soon...

[phenol]

Bro, do me a favor and don't use red next time. My eye sight is shit and can't focus on funny colors.

Moving on, a lot of people are two-faced. I think that if you knew me in real life, you'd probably seriously hate me since I've been told that I'm a major bitch. He probably felt that he had to live up to the standards of his new town and fit in. No one is actually a douchebag at heart. Normally they fake it and shit because faking and playing characters is way easier than being yourself. I know this first-person.

I kinda know how you feel. I have friends but they're not really friends. None of them really like me at all. I don't think I ever had a close friend like that.

I made it better. Hopefully.

[Clum]

I was friends with this guy chris, from about five years old till i was maybe thirteen? We went to an all boys school so the thought of females was, at a younger age horrible (sorry ladies , cooties and such ;) ) , but towards pre-teen quite exciting haha. Anyway, at about 12 , our last year at this all boy school. Chris had become friends with alot of girls outside of school and naturally invited me out with them, as i was his best friend at the time. I was pretty shy so i hardly spoke a word to them, i never got invited out again after that and to my surprise Chris started to actually hate me (weird i know) , im 15 now and i became friends with him again late last year due to being friends with all his friends (girls/boys) our relationship is no where near as close as it used to be but i guess its good we're friends again.

What im trying to say is, i guess its normal for your best friend to turn against you eventually.. im really not sure haha

[root]

Lesson of the Day: don't make friends

[HunterSteele]

I've never had a best friend, but had lots of people who I was close to becoming friends with just stop talking to me. I know I'm not that popular and not the first person you'd choose to be friends with, but it's not like they just realized that overnight. So if you don't like me, why bother being nice to me in the first place?

Lesson of the Day: don't make friends
I don't know if you're serious or not, but after a while I have realized it hurts more having friends leave you for no reason than it does never having any at all.

Bro, do me a favor and don't use red next time. My eye sight is shit and can't focus on funny colors.
How bout never override the default text color unless you're highlighting a word or line? The orange isn't any better.

[Harry Smith]

This whole article really strikes a chord with me. I know exactly how you feel, I had a best mate who lived just around the corner from me. We would meet up virtually every other day and just hang out. I fucking loved him but I suppose that was the problem. He just stopped talking to me one day, I found a new group and friends. Yeah I'm happy but I still wish that he wasn't such a dick about it.

[LiamC]

Of my two best friends, one of them is just the loveliest person I know, she will always listen to me or help me, and expect nothing in return. And she's the one person in the world who understands me most about being gay, since she is bi herself.

The other can switch from one of the nicest guys I know to a big headed, selfish, cocky, jealous guy the next. Like he'll be talking to me, and he'll moan to me for like an hour about the smallest thing and I'm expected to listen but if I have a problem and want to talk to him, he'll pick and choose whether he can be bothered or whether I'll just get 'lol poor you! Anyway... *changes the subject*'. And he gets so jealous of my other friends (he's not very sociable so has a lot less friends than I do, because I'm quite extroverted), for example the other day I was with him and a couple of our friends but I saw one of my other friends standing on her own not far away and she was visibly really upset, so I obviously did the thing any friend would do and went over, gave her a hug and talked for a bit, when she went off to her other friends and I went backto him he was like 'oh well fine, just leave me and come crawling back'. And he gets quite jealous over my boyfriend, because I've stopped conversations with my friend to call him, but if I've been with my friend for hours in school and not talked to my boyfriend all day then I am naturally going to go for my boyfriend... Also (last thing), he can get reeaaaalllyyy cocky. If he makes one person laugh slightly, he'll go on about all day and if he does one slightly rebelious thing (like literally just miss out a question on the sheet or not take his jacket off), he'll go on as if he punched a teacher or something. He says he's jealous of me because I 'always make people laugh', I understand he might not find socialising as easy as I do, and he doesn't make people laugh as much as me but there's really no need to be a twat about it when you do? :/

This is quite rare he's like this, but it's horrible when he is.

[Wrestler0821]

It's happened to me before. no fun

[Steve Jobs]

I feel ya dude. I used to have two really great friends. Pretty much the moment I introduced them to each other and they started doing things without me, they fell into the same bad company. One of them moved countries, but even then I've lost contact with both of them and I completely relate when I look at what they post on Facebook.
I don't know what to say dude. Tide of the season I guess :(