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MemoriesLost
August 12th, 2012, 05:43 PM
Alright, I was finally getting excited about a new life like this...
But it's awful.
I feel disenchanted and have been getting the strongest urges in several months. I don't know what to do. I've already chewed my lip up and scratched a hole on the back of my hand without even noticing it. When I first started cutting a few years ago, this is exactly how I acted. I really REALLY don't want to start again, but I'm causing myself pain already. I just feel emotionally miserable.
People keep saying 'Try to settle in, it will be okay,' and 'It will get better,' but these aren't helping me at all. I've tried getting my mind off of it, but I really can't. Please give me whatever advice you have to help. Thank you.

StoppingTime
August 12th, 2012, 05:50 PM
The people who say "it gets better" or "keep going" forget one important piece of information. Things won't get better on their own. You have to do that, and you can.
It sounds stupid, but just find things to distract yourself with. The best thing to do is to be with people. This way, there is no chance that you can do anything. Do you have a friend/counselor you can talk to?
If those two options aren't available right now, call a hotline. They will keep the call confidential, of course, and unless you are in immediate medical danger (which you aren't) they can't do anything but help you; nobody will be showing up to take you.
If you are able to talk to anyone here, try that. The moderators, and many of the members will talk you through this, if you want to. Just keep your mind off it, for now, until you can find a more permanent solution.

December
August 12th, 2012, 11:58 PM
I agree with what has already been said- things won't just get better on their own, and yet, you have the power to help yourself. If you have someone you trust to talk to, you should try that. And in the meantime, here is a link to page with some coping techniques you could try http://www.sisupport.org/coping_skills.htm . Not everything will work for everyone, so hopefully you will find what works for you. You just have to keep fighting the urges and also try and get at the roots of what is bothering you. Dealing with not self harming is treating the symptoms, but to truly recover you have to treat what is causing you to self harm in the first place. If you ever need to talk you can always message me or I'm sure anyone on here would also be willing to help you. Hang in there, you can do this :)