I need opinions from both guys and girls

[CTToTTD]

hi um soo.. i have been dating a girl for about 6 months now and we will be in the 11th grade after summer ends. So i knew that her step dad went to prison like a month ago but i had no idea why. I found out about a week ago that he had been rapping my girlfriend since the 7th grade… almost every day. After finding this out of course i wanted to be there for her and i tried to help her out with everything she asked for my help with… but now when she talks to me or text me i feel like she is the most annoying person ever…. and i don't think i like her anymore.. i hope its not because i now know about what happened to her but i think it might be why. please help and am i a bad person for letting it make me feel this way? :(


*guess i should have put this in the dating section sorry*

[Burn007]

There is no bad persons if u ask me.....only bad choices....How old r u?I live in serbia :P So yeah diffrent school methode(no 11th class only 8,and 4 more in High School)
Everything has to stop once....and many times there is a reason for it good or bad it is a reason.....I cant help you much more,i dont live ur life but try to realize what u really want with that girl....If u chose to end it you can still be there for her when she needs u(say that actually ;) )

[LIAM.M]

You're not a bad person at all. You were there for her and comforted her that's all you could do. It'll be best to tell her so you can both talk it through and come to a solution. I wouldn't tell her that it might've been because of what happened to her though. But it will hurt her less confronting her rather than letting it go on longer than it needs to.

[NoviZivot]

mm you are in a very especial situation.. I suggest u should talk to her about it. However, when u do so I don't think it wouldb be a good idea to say that she has become an annoying person. Choose your words carefully ;)

[DerBear]

I think this would be better suited in Relationships and Dating :arrow:

[CTToTTD]

There is no bad persons if u ask me.....only bad choices....How old r u?I live in serbia :P So yeah diffrent school methode(no 11th class only 8,and 4 more in High School)
Everything has to stop once....and many times there is a reason for it good or bad it is a reason.....I cant help you much more,i dont live ur life but try to realize what u really want with that girl....If u chose to end it you can still be there for her when she needs u(say that actually ;) )

im 15 and 11th grade is 3rd year in high school

[FreeFall]

You're just drained. You were there for her, that doesn't make you bad. We're all human.
Sit down and talk it out.
Be sensitive, and be understanding of her. That's a horrible situation for anyone to have to go through and it can really mess a person up. She lacked security and protection for so long and it was all stolen by someone supposed to love her and be a second father. If she gets angry, let her be angry, just listen to her and speak when you can. Remain calm and honest.
If your feelings don't return then let her go so someone that'll be able to pick her up and help her out, can come along in her life and do so.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Try 2 show compassion and b there 4 her, and ur not a bad person at all

[Immortal Love]

This doesn't make you bad at all! I've had a similar problem with my Boyfriend, who is a Senior this year, while I am a Junior. We're both 17, and he can be a bit annoying at times, or what you call 'Clingy'. Always wants to talk, and be around you, so on, so forth.

What I did to solve my problems was I sat him down and had a calm and rational talk with him, telling him how I needed "Me" time, and that I still loved and cared for him, I wasn't planning on breaking up, or cheating, but that I needed some space. It worked for him, but us Females may be a bit more touchy on the matter.

I'd talk with her about wanting some space, and strongly express that you do care for her, and your not cheating. Just let things slide down slowly. After what she's been though, I can relate to her actually, very much so I was in her position as well, she's bound to be a bit touchy and want to be around you a lot, most likely for comforting reasons.

Just be calm, cool, and rational with her and things should be alright.
Best of luck!

[CTToTTD]

Thanks all of you i will try a few of your suggestions... But its not so much clingy anymore she just always texts and calls me but doesnt hang out... Which is good for me lol but i still care for her and she has been suicidal in the past and that is what i want to avoid. So ill try the space thing first.