How does it start?

[sisu]

How does cutting start. Problems in the family and bullying are probably reasons. But if you have cut yourself how did it begin.

About a year and a half ago i was once damn near to cut myself because of being bullied at school and i was depressed like hell, but i finally told a teacher and havent been bullied ever since and my life has also gotten better after that.:)

[BrittneyB]

Ohh I'm glad that your teacher helped you :) But not everyone is lucky enough to have someone they can go to/ feel comfortable going to, which could be why they cut. Basically, from a psychological p.o.v,, cutting is supposed to be to make up for a lack of proper coping method. Not that I want to generalize people...

Anyway, cutting started when I had a really low point in my life. I felt like worthless and unloved; this was not because of one specific thing. A cousin of mine had been a cutter and told me that it made her feel better. I tried it in hopes that I would feel better, too, and I did. Not in a good way though, it gave me a sense of control.

sorry for the long answer :/

[SilentCutter]

It started for me when i was 12 and my dad got shot and went to prison and I felt it was my fault. After that different reasons started to surface.
im happy you found someone to help you:)

[thaynjr17]

I was getting down because I had a lot of stress on me at the time. But I have a few friends who cut before and I'd always yell st them. But my dad was away for work for a long time and I has to take care of almost everything since my mom works nights as a nurse so u got really thinned out over a lot of different things physically And I was probably the definition of an emotional train wreck at the time my siblings never listened they always argued and talked back and I couldn't really handle them. Then on top of it all I had to sit back and watch the girl I love get hurt by her, thankfully, now ex. She knew I liked her and all but put if off. So I kinda fell in love with my other friend but had to end that relationship because I thought I was over this other girl but I was just lying to myself. Everyone knew what was going on but couldn't do anything so I just couldn't take it any more and cut. They weren't deep enough to leave permanent scars they were just ment to hurt for a king time. They eventually went away. Your lucky that you had someone there for you to help you. Most don't. I strongly believe that you look at all the positive things you have and no matter how small they may be let that keep you from going back to cutting. I hope this helps I'm sorry if it doesn't.

[workingatperfect]

There were quite a few factors. I was in a verbally abusive relationship. My relationship with my dad was practically non existent, which I started to hate myself for. My anxiety started up. I was still pretty depressed from my grandmother dying. I was having problems in school (not bullying.) I grew up a bit too fast, got involved in things that I shouldn't have been exposed to. The first time I actually did it, I had just seen my brother get robbed at gun point during a drug deal, which affected me in a very strange way.

[Burn007]

People cut when they are stressed a lot.Cuting the skin releases something that lowers the depression in a way....Its hard to explain.....The pain is not really thing that makes u feel better its that thing(sorry i forgot how its called :p) So yeah its kinda as a drug since people that start cutting cant stop rather easy....

So yeah DONT DO THAT!

[sisu]

I am very lucky indeed. I hope it gets better for you all.

Also. Now that i think about it, he practically saved mefrom self harm:)

Please don't double post, use the edit button instead~Silver Assassin

[Noxail]

My self-harm started a while back while my life was basically falling apart. I was in an emotionaly abusive relationship, my father hit his peak of physical abuse, I was living on my own, eating noodles in a cup for every meal, I was the long time care-taker of my great aunt before she passed away, I refused to go to school, my grades where horrible, I was anti-social, I got into the world of paid fighting, ended up watching someone get killed in a non-tapout fight, my Panic Disorder surfaced, my Depression made a grand spanking comeback, I suffered from an eating disorder, and eventually, I just gave up. My bestfriend had cut once. Just once, to see what it was like, and I decided I'd try it too. I've been Self-Harming for three years tomorrow. :rolleyes: Worst mistake of my life, aside from choking down over thirty painkillers last night, in a failed suicide attempt. *sigh* My life is just peachy, non? ~holli

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

i started cutting because my life is at the point where i feel i need to and i couldnt hold back on it any longer

[December]

I started cutting like 6 years ago or so, I can't exactly remember. I guess before that I was just sort an emotional train wreck, and then I was under a lot of stress at that time with school and family problems and it was really overwhelming on top of everything else that just kept adding up. I won't go into specifics because it would be awfully long. Anyways, I was in a relationship with someone who was abused by his dad and had talked about doing it, so I thought maybe it would make me feel better too. It did for awhile and the longest I have stopped for since then is almost a year, and I can't begin to describe how much I wish I never started. So there were a lot of reasons I started, and now I just keep finding more reasons to continue. As unhealthy as that may be.

Its great someone was able to help you. I wish someone had done that for me in the beginning all those years ago. Good luck to you, and hang in there :) .

[RedViper]

Just being depressed and not having a better way to cope with it.

[FullyAlive]

I don't think you can really just assume family problems and being bullied are reasons behind self harm. I have neither never been bullied and I have a stable family home.

I was/am suffering from depression my doctor placed a guess I'd probably been suffering since January 2010, after having symptoms since I was about 12 although it wasn't diagnosed until summer 2011.

For me I started on an impulse just a morbid curiosity, I'd never really heard of self harm and didn't really give it a label until the October when I was confronted.

[Noirtier]

For me I started on an impulse just a morbid curiosity

Um, yeah, kinda this for me. I was going through a really rough time, and didn't know how to cope with how I was feeling. I knew people did it, and I just kinda thought "What the hell, it can't make anything worse, can it?" Obviously that's not the way to think, but you're not exactly in the right mindset when that happens... But that's how it started with me. :/

[Nellerin]

People cut when they are stressed a lot.Cuting the skin releases something that lowers the depression in a way....Its hard to explain.....The pain is not really thing that makes u feel better its that thing(sorry i forgot how its called :p) So yeah its kinda as a drug since people that start cutting cant stop rather easy....

So yeah DONT DO THAT!

It doesn't necessarily lower stress or depression. Cutting yourself signals your body to release endorphins which cause a "high" to begin. This will in turn distract a person from feelings of depression but those will return when cutting stops. It is like someone taking Heroin and feeling amazing but returning to a horrible life when they stop shooting up.

People begin cutting since it is a primal instinct that we as humans had early in our evolution. It is an instinct that is normally never brought out but like many other things can begin to show itself when the brain is pushed too far.

[XxNINJAxX]

Congratulations on not being bullied after but I was unlucky because I've been bullied from year two up untill now (year 7) I've told teachers but after a while I get bullied again. Last year my best friend died and I get a lot of pressure from my family so that's what lead me to cutting.

[XxAssasiNxX]

Telling the teacher didn't do shit for me. I was angry and super depressed but I finally expressed all that anger at the bully and he hasn't talked to me since or even looked at me. He was laughing when I was screaming at him but he got the picture. XxNINJAxX you would remember quite clearly of that day -.- but Im glad the teachers actually did stuff. Everyone gets the urge to cut including me but I didn't and I'm better now :)

[Love.Hate]

It began when i was being bullied, and was suffering with my emotions big time (turned out i had depression, and PTSD) .. also family stuff. But everyone is different.

[tearsxdontxfall2014]

My cutting started when I was 10. I didn't really know how to deal with certain things in my life like my past abuse. I was sitting in class one day and I always had a pocket knife with me(it was a rough neighborhood and everyone carried them) I guess I had left it open when I put it in my pocket and it stabbed my leg and it started bleeding. I went to the bathroom and just loved the sight of it (that doesn't make sense but for a 10 year old I guess it does) so I did it more and more and it made me feel relief and was how I coped with things. It got worse after I was raped. anyways, that's how my cutting started

[Strawberrie]

It started almost 6 years ago. There was a lot of strain in my home life, but that was because I couldn't focus in school and I was doing poorly because of it. I couldn't focus because I was depressed, plain and simple. There was no real reason for it at the time. But the depression caused me to lose focus, which caused me to get in trouble at home, which caused my parents to fight with eachother, which caused them to fight with me and severely punish me instead of trying to understand me. This stress and my inability to help myself caused me to start cutting. And I never truly learned how to cope after that.

[Bluerhino666]

My dad broke his back when was 27, now hes forty one, but he became addictided to pain pills. All kinds and has not ever tried to stop, so when he is almost out or out he yells at every one starts fights just terrorizes his family and even when hes not out of pills he is always a fucking dickhead to every one. By the way he goes through at least 20 pills a week. So I started cutting as a way to hurt myself instead of others.

[Desuetude]

So many reasons. Bullying, emotional abuse, needing a way to control emotions, taking out the emotions on myself instead of hurting others and as a form of punishment. Really it started after exhausting all other methods of control, I had no where else to turn so that's where I got to.

[Juggalo_4-2-0]

it started for me at the age of 12 when my bst friend called me and said she was sorry but had to do it and she said i love you and hung up and fell off the face of the earth for 4 mounts because she went to highland at the age of 14 and i thought it was my fault because i couldnt stop her.. after that things went bad and yaa..

[FallenAngel158]

I started in the summer before freshman year. I was really stressed out about starting high school and my brother not being there ( he passed away). That was my trigger to start. Since then I have been diagnosed with PTSD, Panic Attacks and Anxiety Disorder. So when Im really stressed I self harm a lot. I call them my episodes, cause thats what they are. I self harm a lot over about a 2 week period then Im usually good for 2 months or until I get really stressed again.