Am I the only one?

[james wolf]

At school (all-boys) i talk to lots of people. Without sounding cocky, I hink people like me and people have said I am funny. Sounds good, right?

But it's not all that. On facebook I have nearly 400 friends but no-one ever starts a conversation with me. I'm serious, literally no-one. I don't text to friends for casual conversation, only if we're meeting up.

Speaking of which, this rarely happens. Oh how i long to hang out in town with everyone. But when I ask people whether they want to hang out they always seem to ignore me or have conflicting schedules. I have 2 best friends whom I go to the cinema with to see the latest movie but we rarely hang out in town because we are all quite lazy and gamers. Also I want to make new friends. I'm telling the truth: I have been at my school for 3 years in these 3 years I have met up with 4 people (intentionally) excluding parties. This includes my bezzies.

What am I doing wrong? When I stet a convo, the other person seems to enjoy it but I haven't gone "towning" for a year. I haven't ever invited someone to my house mainly because I don't know what to do when we get there.

Any comments? Anyone similar?

[bigfoot]

yes i am in an extremly similar situation.

[jalenobk1]

This is like me exactly haha

[Sleepy Raisin]

Right there with ya. Well.. Excluding the texting part, but my suggestion would be is of you invite people set it up around their schedule. As far as making friends that actually hang out with you i actually need to work on that myself.. Also, dont worry to much about not getting the conversations on FB i've noticed people dont really care about doing that anymore, unless, are you talking about private messages or those conversations that are directed to you but are public(whatever those are called)?

[james wolf]

Right there with ya. Well.. Excluding the texting part, but my suggestion would be is of you invite people set it up around their schedule. As far as making friends that actually hang out with you i actually need to work on that myself.. Also, dont worry to much about not getting the conversations on FB i've noticed people dont really care about doing that anymore, unless, are you talking about private messages or those conversations that are directed to you but are public(whatever those are called)?

I'm talking about chat, you know 1 on 1 conversations. And what do you actually do when you invite someone to your house, I just foresee video games. :yawn:

The weird thing, when I by chance ran into a guy from class in town, he was genuinely happy to see me (I think).

[Zarakly]

Wow that is exactly like me. I have tons of "friends" yet they never talk to me. If we meet up in town somewhere randomly then they are happy to see me. I ask if anyone wants to play airsoft and they all just ignore me or say they have something to do. I almost made a thread similar to this one. It seems as though I annoy all of my friends except for 1 who is rarely online and doesn't do airsoft or anything...

[Jonny Caselli]

I'm talking about chat, you know 1 on 1 conversations. And what do you actually do when you invite someone to your house, I just foresee video games. :yawn:

The weird thing, when I by chance ran into a guy from class in town, he was genuinely happy to see me (I think).


This is more common than you may think, no I am not patronising you I am 13

But the whole way we communicate is changing - and with it and the digital age new ways but often not better ways to interact. Gamers and all the facebook people who live in thier bedrooms - not towning as you might want.

But you do admit your lazy and you can only see one possability games.

So my suggestion is get a look around - local paper web sites whatever find something else to do and new people to do it with.

I help out 2 disabled guys of 15 and have met many new people thru that.

I do sports and again meet up with people in town or a gig with them and thier buddies.

Life is what you make it - but I know so many guys for whom now makeing new friends is hard its like many are loseing the skills even primary kids have.

The actual physicla game footie or whatever -

So you make a stand and get up and get out. It wont take long
what about learning guitar or a sports team or even invite folks over for a film night

Jonny

Hey I'll add you on this

The yellow font is to enable a vision impaired guy read it - yes someone complained and neg reped me for it. so I will explain it now.

[Sleepy Raisin]

I'm talking about chat, you know 1 on 1 conversations. And what do you actually do when you invite someone to your house, I just foresee video games. :yawn:

The weird thing, when I by chance ran into a guy from class in town, he was genuinely happy to see me (I think).

Just go out. Like i walk to places or drive to the theatre.. Orr play board games, but thats always more fun with more people..talk with ACTUAL conversation. Erm... Try just random stuffies. Like last time i had some people over i brought out some blankets and pillows and began dragging them around the house until i got tired :D Look up some ideas on Bing (NOT GOOGLE because Bing is bettr)
Also cant help ya on the running into people cuz when i see people outside of class i purposely avoid them unles theyre a friend

[Manjusri]

Pick up a sport. If you like the city try skating, scootering, longboarding, etc. To be honest i only have 4 people i hang out with as well. I don't mind though, because those people are my people. We do everything together, and we understand each other. Don't need anyone else.
Find a similar interest you have with your friends, then just go out and do it.

[Stephan]

Funny, I never knew how common this was..because I have all these friends, but I don't bother talking to them I guess..this is kind of the opposite your situation. But I guess I get to talk/post comments to random people I don't on the internet is better than not talking to anyone at all.

At any rate, everyone wants to seek others approval and attention, I've already loss that sense of wanting to be noticed, where as you have not which is good..so I guess my suggestion would be to set up a time or a day to meet, talk, chat, play video games etc, something like that. It's worked for me in the past but now..I barely know who my friends are if I have any at all, and whether or not I can trust them.

[level_up]

I have nowhere NEAR that amount of friends on FB, but out of the friends I do have, I actually seriously like and talk to only a tiny fraction of them. In school I have a couple different circles of friends and we do stuff from time to time, mainly because we live in the city and really close by each other and things to do. But I don't think you are anything abnormal, I used to be just like that and did not have that many friends I hung out with outside of school lol.

[james wolf]

I think part of the reason I rarely go out, is that I live in the countryside. It would take me over an hour to get to any friends house on foot or bike. My parents don't usually give me lifts. Luckily there is a train station a 5-minute walk away, but it is so much effort getting a ticket then getting on the train and sitting there all alone for 20 minutes... :(

[Kingfish33]

I am almost in the exact same situation.

[Thepolice5291]

The yellow font is to enable a vision impaired guy read it - yes someone complained and neg reped me for it. so I will explain it now.

That is so nice :), Wish there was more people like you
and yes, Life is what you make it, You can only help yourself

On Your note on the effort for the train, If you meet up with someone
It would be worth the effort.
Good Luck, Hope you find some good friends soon :)

(P.S) Sorry if my post sounded rude

[Alexwellace]

As you said you are lazy! Play Rugbi, smash face and be friends with the people you smashed (in the non-sexual way...) I am not messing with you but the kind of people i think you want to meet are people who are pro-active and a lot of those people are into sports, just promise me you wont play football, be a man and play Rugbi!

[Pierce]

Dude. Me. sorry i cant help but had to say its exactly my situation

[huntersteele11]

i think i agree with jonny and thats why i dont like texting because nobody talks anymore and i luv to talk. nobody does stuff with anyone anymore because its all gaming or laptops or iphones or tv and it suks. so mabe its not you and mabe its just the way it is now. i no im 13 and dont no to much but me and my best friend ivann dont get into all that stuff and we still like to goof off and just have fun with each other and we almost live outside. i like the computer ok and watch tv but i dont replace my friends with it.

[StoppingTime]

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