coming out tomorrow

[purpleninjacookie]

Ok well ive decided that I need to come out to my mom...every day i feel fake because I feel like no one knows the real me....my sister came out several years back and my mom accepted her and loved her...but how would my mom act if she found out she had two gay children....I'm especially scared of how ky dad will react...because he doesn't believe in that life style and he says gays are selfish....I'm just really confused on when and how to do it....I'm so scared....please tell me what you guys think of this...I would also appreciate some support too...thanks :)

[Abyssal Echo]

My Father is no longer with us so I didn't have to deal with that but my mom didn't take it very well. I wish you all the best in your decision to come out to your parents. I know I felt so much better afterwards....now I can be me

[Mortal Coil]

All the best! This takes guts :) Chin up.

[AndCuriousGuy16]

To start things off i want to say good luck! Im glad you are able to finally be who you are and don't have to hide it. If i ever come out to my mom, i know that she will be accepting and so will her family. Since my father is gone, i don't have to deal with him/or his family but i know that if they found out i would be rejected from them even though i already am. Just remember that i bet it could be hard for your dad to accept because it is a big deal. But remember that he will always love you and hopefully support you for what ever you do in your life. Also you have VT, which the people on here including me will always support you. Good luck and i hope this post helped.

[Slashpoint001]

Or you could just do what im doing, (im actually in the exact same mess your in!!) I told my sister, and im waiting to tell my parents until I move out!! I am living a completely gay lifestyle with my friends and sister!! Just wait until you are ready!!

[jalenobk1]

I wish you the best. you're family should accept you, and your dad will come around

[norcaldude18]

Good luck man!! I hope it all works out a well as it did for your sister. I respect you so much for finally deciding to do it. Let us know how it goes.

[Perfectly Flawed]

Best of luck to you my friend.

[Foamy]

If your sister came out and your mom was fine with it, then start with her. Take your time with your father and ease him into the thought that you are gay. They should understand and love you for who you are.

[Shane.B]

I'm in the same problem, but with my grandparents. I'm waiting till my mom and I move out or until I go off to collage, but my mom found out by reading my texts as I told a friend I was gay...... So I am no the best in this situation. Sometimes I just wish my grandparents would walk in on me on a gay chat site or something so it would be so easier to do then. But good luck! All of us are here for you!!!!!

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

just do you mom for now until your ready to tell your dad.

good luck

[The Chameleon]

My advice would be to tell your sister first (if you haven't already) then tell your mom, then try to convince your dad that gays aren't selfish and then depending on his response tell him. If his response isn't positive then don't tell him and ask your mom or sister what to do or how to tell him.

[Liam-O]

I am bi and really don't care what they think and don't think they need to know. They will find out when they find out. But with you...I say go ahead. Tell your mum and ask her if you should tell your dad or ask your mum to tell your dad for you. Good luck.

[Gandalf]

Ok well ive decided that I need to come out to my mom...every day i feel fake because I feel like no one knows the real me....my sister came out several years back and my mom accepted her and loved her...but how would my mom act if she found out she had two gay children....I'm especially scared of how ky dad will react...because he doesn't believe in that life style and he says gays are selfish....I'm just really confused on when and how to do it....I'm so scared....please tell me what you guys think of this...I would also appreciate some support too...thanks :)

Good luck, have you thought how your going to approach it?
Maybe if your dad is a bit homophobic you could speak to your mum first alone...

Wish I had this sort of confidence :P

[Tucker13]

Good luck bro hope you can do it :)

[ehao0817]

good luck dude ! :)
you got this

[Blhhh8980]

Good luck to you. Stay strong <3

[Machinegun]

good luck!..do it when you feel comfortable

[Athlete15]

I think a lot of us would like to be at that point. Best of luck

[Zarakly]

Good luck. I know you'll probably feel a lot better afterwards not having to keep a huge secret like that.

[KarkatLuv]

I'm in the same boat as you. My brother's gay and I don't know what I am :P
It takes guts to do what you're doing, you're a stronger man than I am.

[Iron Man]

I always say, "Find yourself before you find someone else". You are doing the right thing, I assure you. Your parents would have to be insane to not accept you for who you are.

[Cameron14]

Good luck. Some good advice above...