Never Really Had A Girlfriend

[jjmcray]

No one really responded to my old post... lol So maybe I need to make it shorter...
Basically I've never really had a real girlfriend. (I'm 15 years old) I used to be shy around girls but I'm not really like that anymore (Completed step 1?). The thing is I've never really tried to ask out a girl because I guess I'm afraid of being rejected... and I don't really know how... and I just think that the girl would be expecting me to know how.

Any tips? Anyone?

Thanks

Also what do you think about asking people out online (people that you know in real life)? You think only losers/geeks/shy/insecure/etc. people do that?

[Serenity]

Firstly, it's perfectly fine to be 15 and not have a girlfriend yet. As for being rejected, that's just something that's gonna happen. Not saying there's anything wrong with you, but we all have to deal with rejection at one point or another, and generally more than once. You've just got to bite the bullet and get over your fears, like in any aspect of life. If you let fear hold you back, you'll never get far.

Asking is something everyone does differently. You know there's the, "I really like you, do you like me, too?" approach, the outright, "Hey, you wanna go out with me?" approach, and the roundabout, "Man, I really wish I had a girlfriend....you know you'd be a great girlfriend...whoever gets you will be really lucky." etc. You just have to find what works best for you, what makes you feel most comfortable. Granted, the entire process is probably going to be extremely uncomfortable, just be you.

And I've known several people who have started relationships with people they know well in real life online, and it worked out fine.

[Palm kid]

i had the same problem i was so afraid o rejection i waited 4 years to ask her out but by that time she didnt like me ANYMORE so go for it cuz u never know, and i know someone whos 21 and nvr had a gf so dont worry your fine

[mr. self destruct]

It's totally ok to be 15 and to never have a a girlfriend.
Don't be afraid of the rejection part, remember: All they can say is no. Everyone get's rejected, It's normal.
As Far as the asking someone out online thing goes, that's prefectly fine, people get asked out online everyday. I've had 2 people ask me out online before.

[jjmcray]

Yeah but see since I've never had a girlfriend I don't really know how to BE a boyfriend... And wouldn't most girls expect me to know how?

[Octo22]

Don't be a dick, be yourself, treat them nicely while not idolizing them.

All you need to know.

[Serenity]

Don't be a dick, be yourself, treat them nicely while not idolizing them.

All you need to know.

There you go. There's no set way to 'be a boyfriend.' Do what feels right. If you still want ideas, however, some basics: be there for her, spend time with her, hold her hand, call her just to say hi. COMMUNICATION IS KEY! Biggest killer of relationships- assuming rather than talking. Even over the littlest of things. Don't take anything for granted. Ever. Other than that, things should just come naturally :daisy:

[jjmcray]

Thanks so much guys for helpin me out.

[Serenity]

:daisy: That's what we're here for