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MemoriesLost
August 4th, 2012, 06:23 PM
I haven't been cutting in several months. My mom knew I did and always yelled at me for it, even now, when I've fought it for so long. I haven't really been getting urges again until lately. She's slowly breaking my heart. Every time I'm doing my nails with a file, preparing food, or making jewelry with wire, she won't leave me alone. She doesn't quietly bring me aside, either. She just speaks in her regularly loud voice "ARE YOU CUTTING YOURSELF?!" I hate it. Every time she does this she'll go talk with random people about it on the internet or outside. That has been giving me urges again. I already felt depression looming ever since the move, but it's just getting worse. What can I do? If I ask her to stop, she'll get suspicious and never let me have a life. If I tell her how I feel, the same will happen. I just don't want to start again, but I'm feeling really close to it.

jtk339
August 4th, 2012, 06:47 PM
She proberbly only did it to embarise you so you would stop.
Just tell her that you havent done it for ages and maybe she wil get off your back a bit :)
And well done Keep it up !!

MemoriesLost
August 5th, 2012, 09:07 AM
It seems silly to think that would stop me. It makes people judge me and that makes me want to do it more. I tried telling her and right now she's busy going through my stuff and taking anything that could possibly cause harm -___- She's driving me mental.

XxNINJAxX
August 5th, 2012, 09:29 AM
Yeah, I know how you feel. My parents found I cut and I haven't sone it for two months now and they call me names like Mr Cutter and when I am in my room they yell out if I'm cutting and if I storm of my mum would yell out "yeah go to your room and cut your arms up" so yeah

StoppingTime
August 5th, 2012, 01:27 PM
Don't let what she says take you down. You know that you aren't cutting anymore; and you haven't for months. of course, she should understand this as well, but sometimes, that just won't happen. She probably thinks it is helping you, even though it is really doing the exact opposite. Even though it may be hard, there is only one way you could attempt to stop this before it gets out of control.
You have to talk to her about it. Just tell her that you haven't self harmed for months, and every time she says something like that, it gives you an urge to. There's no guarantee this will work, and it really all depends on how she sees things. She may listen, or she may be stubborn about it, and continue. If she does, then all you can do is do your best to tune her out. Don't take what she says to heart, because you know that what you are doing is working. And in the end, you aren't doing this for anyone but yourself. You shouldn't be stopping for anyone but yourself; not to please anyone, or make them feel better, but to please yourself and make yourself feel better.