Caught little bro having sex, should I tell my parents?

[Derp123]

Before I start I know it's my first post been browsing VT for a year now and decided to join, when I saw my lil bro. Now, I need to know if I should tell my parents, my brother didn't see me but I saw him. He is only 12 1/2, I could see a condom box on his dresser, so I know he was protected, I just don't know if I should tell my Mom or Talk to him about it or what? Could you guys please help me out?

[senior.2013]

No. Its his personal life. He clearly knew what was going on. Its his personal sex life, so I would just leave it. Dont even talk to him unless he asks you. It could get awkward if you confront him.

[fitzman16]

I think you should tell them. Just so they can talk to him about it and tell him risks and dangers (aids, stds, and possibly impregnation...he's only 12 so igs unlikely but you never know.) Plus he's only 12 so he rly doesn't need to donig that young. Not to mention its illegal cuz the age of concent in the us is a minium of 16

[Nick23]

dont tell your parents but definitly talk with him and explain

[FunGuy-]

I wouldn't

[Foamy]

Hold up. You're not telling us if it's actually sex he's having. Just because e got a box of condoms doesn't mean he's having sex with someone. He could be using them to j/o for all we care.

[JimmyIsNowAMan]

talk to him first but out of concern not in anger or anything like that.

[Dake]

well talk to him first scare him to give you money :D but don't tell to your parents cuz his is your brother

[Derp123]

Hold up. You're not telling us if it's actually sex he's having. Just because e got a box of condoms doesn't mean he's having sex with someone. He could be using them to j/o for all we care.

He wasn't using them to J/O, There was a girl underneath him, so. To clear things up I walked on him having intercourse but he or the girl didn't notice, I stood there for 10 seconds thinking what to do so I just ran out.

[mto5111]

No don't he knows what safe sex is so leave the kid alone

[RunnerForLife]

If I were you I would talk to him as his supportive older brother. Let him be the one to tell your parents.

[caliz55]

if he was having sex, talk to him about it and ask him if he wants to talk about it and tell him that you are always open to questions and you just want him to be safe...

[OregonStateDude]

Yeah, I would talk to him about it. I don't want to sound like a douche, but 12 1/2 is kinda young to be having full on sex with a girl.

[Salvi]

no dont tell your parents, this is something that you as the older brother has to talk to him about since you caught him

[Kevblaze]

Talk to him about that kind of stuff personally but don't scared him with stuff

[Stryker125]

Talk to him about it.

[Jakee1226]

Dont tell your parents.. but maybe you should talk to him about it?

[Houtz96]

Hold up. You're not telling us if it's actually sex he's having. Just because e got a box of condoms doesn't mean he's having sex with someone. He could be using them to j/o for all we care.

I think you misunderstood. He said he caught him having sex, and said he saw the condoms while he was doing it.


Back to original post. I think you should. Depending on where you live, it is illegal, and he should know that. Also, 12 sounds a bit young to know all the emotional and physical consequences sex can have. So to keep your brother on the safe side(not so much with your parents), tell them. BUT, explain to them that they should not yell or scream at your brother, but a firm punishment and scolding will do it enough, tell them to get him scared about all that could happen, it'd be more effective than screaming down his throat about how this is not okay.

The more people push you away from stuff, the more it makes you want to do it.

[AsianAnime]

I think you misunderstood. He said he caught him having sex, and said he saw the condoms while he was doing it.


Back to original post. I think you should. Depending on where you live, it is illegal, and he should know that. Also, 12 sounds a bit young to know all the emotional and physical consequences sex can have. So to keep your brother on the safe side(not so much with your parents), tell them. BUT, explain to them that they should not yell or scream at your brother, but a firm punishment and scolding will do it enough, tell them to get him scared about all that could happen, it'd be more effective than screaming down his throat about how this is not okay.

The more people push you away from stuff, the more it makes you want to do it.
First of all, you can have sex at any age if you are protected I believe. Anyways don't turn him in! He's protected that's all that matters. Imagine what it's going to be like your brother is going to hate you forever. Don't turn him in.

[Houtz96]

First of all, you can have sex at any age if you are protected I believe. Anyways don't turn him in! He's protected that's all that matters. Imagine what it's going to be like your brother is going to hate you forever. Don't turn him in.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America

Nope. There is laws against it.

[ExhibitG]

definitely talk to him about it. and depending on his reaction, possibly your parents. for instance if he's like shut up I'm going to do what I want, perhaps that would be a good time to inform the parents.

[Binatang]

Don't tell your parents, it'll completely ruin your relationship with your brother and other bad things'll happen. You might wanna talk to your brother, a lil bro tlk dun hurt

[LikeAJay]

Start of by asking him do you know what it is. Then ask him if he ver did it. If he says no tell him he saw it. I'm not trying to bbe a dick or anything but 12 is to young. You should wait till 16. But that is him.Speak to him tell him all the problems you can have. But say your just developing. JUST. SPEAK. TO. HIM.

[HunterSteele]

I don't know how close you are to your brother, but it might be a lot more comfortable for him if you talked about it to him instead. Don't be confrontational, maybe assure him that if he ever needs any help he can ask you. That is if you feel the need to say anything at all. If he's using condoms, it sounds like he already knows what he's doing.

Plus he's only 12 so he rly doesn't need to donig that young.
I don't think you can ever say someone doesn't need to be having sex just because of their age. It's not like food-- no one actually needs to have sex to physically survive. It's something that people just do.

a firm punishment and scolding will do it
A punishment for having sex? That's like punishing someone for being left handed. Punishments are for when someone has done something wrong, not for something that people do naturally.

[LikeAJay]

I don't think you can ever say someone doesn't need to be having sex just because of their age. It's not like food-- no one actually needs to have sex to physically survive. It's something that people just do.

Im preety sure that like two young. I just stating that i dont agree with it.

[HunterSteele]

Im preety sure that like two young. I just stating that i dont agree with it.
Again, I didn't mean that he might not be too young, I just meant it doesn't make sense to say someone doesn't "need" to have sex yet.

[ConorM]

dont tell your parents you wouldn't like it if he told them things about you

[Evancosta]

No don't

[ashdyn]

If you feel like you really need to get something out then talk to him about it. Get whatever it is you need to off your chest.

You know he's smart enough to wrap up, though I'm impressed he can fill out an adult condom at 12 lol mine was super small/thin at 12.

No need to tell the rentals bro. If anything I'd be asking you little brother for tips lol whatta pimp

[bright]

I think you should talk to him about it but not tell your parents!

[irishguy123]

talk to him, he is only 12 and should not be making decisions about having sex when he is so young and give him guidance

[Michigan48111]

I agree with most of the others to talk to your younger brother but don't tell your parents.

[Wrapper]

What are you so worried about that you think you need to involve your parents? You said he used a condom, which is a show of responsibility... So what are you worried about?

Don't tell your parents.

[AndCuriousGuy16]

First of all, at least he was safe and knew to use a condom. But one thing for sure is that you NEED to talk to him about what sex is, and the consequences. Since you are is big bro, you should at least bring it up in private and just explain everything to him. If he doesn't care or doesn't want to listen then that is his own fault. And not to be a noob or anything but 12 1/2 is really young to have sex. Good luck!

[lawdoi]

i don't think u should

[Philleeep]

I don't think you should say anything but if you think you should say something then only talk to him because, be in his position, what if your parents came up to you and started talking to know. He'd instantly have no trust in you as a brother

[justin123]

Just talk with him

[liljack13]

I think you should at least have a chat to him, if not tell your parents

[Cam_master]

Your job as a big brother is not to rat hm out. But rather to be his friend. So I'm basically going to tell you What everybody else is. Talk to him like a friend tell him to make sure to use condoms yadayada you know the drill. Good luck

[Sean4U]

I am adding my comments cause I have twin brothers a bit older than yours....I would NEVER tell my parents, but I would talk them as a big brother and tell them to be careful, as yours was....and that you will be there for any questions that he may have...as for the legal part, yea on the books it is, but unless the girl was 3 or more years older than it was adolescent experimentation ... and from what I've seen on here most of us have broken the law anytime we did anything with another human being...laws are meant to protect children from predators thinking that kids aren't old enough to make a decision on sex with someone...obviously any of us that have masturbated or more even with a friend then would be breaking the law.....

[drummerboi987]

Go him! lol let him enjoy it!!

[garrettu]

Don't tell them it's his life

[cerney]

i mean...i wouldnt advise it. let him do his own shit and you can do yours

[Tom Stone]

If I were you I would talk to him as his supportive older brother. Let him be the one to tell your parents.

I agree with this 100%.

[jtk339]

Talk to him about it and ask him why he had condoms and if he talk about stds and stuff then you know he knows about safe sex because the girl could of given him then and he just put it on not knowing and find out how old the girl was?!?! She could of been taking advantage of him.

[PleasureMe7777]

Would u want him doing that to you?

[Bkcompace]

Dude dont! I got raped by a 10 yr old girl in my neighborhood when I was 4! My sisters did not tell my parents but they did give me the talk. My parents never found out and I'm glad I was introduced to this stuff by my siblings becuz with parents it is very wired and turns sex off for most people.

[branman2000]

Ya, I would talk to him about it and just explain somethings... But don't attack him about it, just be cool about it and let him know that if he ever has questions just to ask you... I'm a younger brother of 2 sisters, so I never really had that, but I wish I did, so ya... Just support him in his decisions and let him know he can talk to you about it

[LikeAJay]

Again, I didn't mean that he might not be too young, I just meant it doesn't make sense to say someone doesn't "need" to have sex yet.

ok just is weird for 12 year old to have sex. You can have sex when you want but just isnt the right thing to do at 12

[UnknownBoi98]

Definitely Talk Too Him About It ; But It Would Be Rude to Tell Your Parents . . .Especially To Your brother.

[Houtz96]

A punishment for having sex? That's like punishing someone for being left handed. Punishments are for when someone has done something wrong, not for something that people do naturally.

I don't think you understand what a law is. There IS age on consent laws.

[Dyl.l.]

Just act like nothing happened

[frankrocky]

I think you should talk to your brother and if he is open then offer any advice that would be helpful.

[zach_15]

Don't tell ur parents but u should talk to him

[Antagonist]

No. That's his business. He obviously knew what he was doing.

[jordan0117]

Depending on the state the age of consent is 16-18... At least in Iowa, it is 16 check this website to find the age of consent in your state.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America#

709.4 ~ The age of consent in Iowa is 16, with a close in age exemption for those aged 14 and 15, who may engage in sexual acts with partners less than 4 years older.

[biboy16]

tell your parents, he is way to young to be doing something like that without knowing anything about it.

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