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[Sonic Boom]

I've never been good at making friends and so I'm a very lonely person. After being diagnosed with depression and anxiety and taking the medication, I felt a lot better. My parents and I hoped this would awaken my dormant social skills and escape the depression cycle. I also read the guide to making friends posted in this section.

Now I've tried everything in this guide already; been myself (it doesn't work for me); been polite and kind (though I'm usually like this anyway in real life); meeting a lot of people; tried to be more humorous (I've even tested some lines on here to see if they will work); been part of clubs/societies; visited psychologists; psychiatrists; the list goes on. Yet I remain friendless.

My question is- must I just accept the fact that I'm not good with making friends and talking to people? Should I live with the cards I have been dealt and not complain? Or is there something else I can do that I have not tried yet?

One of my greatest fears is not dying alone...but living alone.

Thanks so much in advance (sorry about the long sob-story).

[Mortal Coil]

Hey, I don't have a great track record with friends myself, so don't take my advice too seriously. However, here's what I think.

A friend is a commitment, and that means that you have to hang out with them. This means, invite them to go to a movie or something. Spend time with them outside of school. Let them get to know you a little better. Most importantly, keep your head high (but don't turn your nose up.)

Best of luck :D

[Sonic Boom]

A friend is a commitment, and that means that you have to hang out with them. This means, invite them to go to a movie or something. Spend time with them outside of school. Let them get to know you a little better. Most importantly, keep your head high (but don't turn your nose up.)


Thanks Alex.

Unfortunately, I do invite people out to do things/hang out etc already. But I almost never get invited back. And when I do get invited back, I feel very left-out as I still find it difficult to connect with people and /or engage in appealing and entertaining conversation. This tends to annoy both parties, and so I don't get invited again :(

[War-Is-Real]

[hate to be this person] Oh god, another kid on drugs that will ultimatly end in his suicide.
My 3 step life improvement plan:
1: Drop the drugs
2: Be optimistic
3: Don't give a shit about what the general public thinks about you.

[Mortal Coil]

Hey, I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't have any advice except this (which can be taken as lightly as you wish:)

If you find it awkward to be around people, then maybe you should make a tumblr account and just spend all your time on the internet. Problem solved!

[Sonic Boom]

[hate to be this person] Oh god, another kid on drugs that will ultimatly end in his suicide.
My 3 step life improvement plan:
1: Drop the drugs
2: Be optimistic
3: Don't give a shit about what the general public thinks about you.

Thanks Other Alex :D

0. I don't plan on committing suicide because I'm scared of death.
1. Are you referring to my medication?
2. It's kind of hard when are disliked for no apparent reason -_- I'm trying though.
3. I don't. I would just like some friends.

[Empty Spaces]

I'm sorry to hear that, but do you have any brothers or sisters? Maybe they can help you with that. Like, introduce you to their friends or something. Or you can start playing sports like soccer, volleyball or basketball? i think it's a great way to meet new people :)

[Sonic Boom]

I'm sorry to hear that, but do you have any brothers or sisters? Maybe they can help you with that. Like, introduce you to their friends or something. Or you can start playing sports like soccer, volleyball or basketball? i think it's a great way to meet new people :)

Thanks for your time Jelena.

My brother does introduce me to new people. The problem is, like I have already stated, I'm disliked because I find it difficult to hold an appealing conversation. Even with people that have similar interests.

So I have no problem in meeting people at all. I just want to be liked.

[Foamy]

[hate to be this person] Oh god, another kid on drugs that will ultimatly end in his suicide.
My 3 step life improvement plan:
1: Drop the drugs
2: Be optimistic
3: Don't give a shit about what the general public thinks about you.

That doesn't seem helpful now does it?
I'm sorry to hear that, but do you have any brothers or sisters? Maybe they can help you with that. Like, introduce you to their friends or something. Or you can start playing sports like soccer, volleyball or basketball? i think it's a great way to meet new people :)

This is the best I've heard. Try doing sports In school, maybe you'll develop a camaraderie with potential teammates.

[Noirtier]

Well, this certainly sounds familiar. I have been in the same boat countless times, almost all my life. I know how disheartening it can be when you continually are rejected or pushed off to the side. Don't give up, though. I am NOT a conversationalist at all--I think it's incredibly difficult. But over time, one gets a bit better at holding it, whether they realize it or not. In situations like you and I, it does take a bit of practice. But persevere through it, and you will be glad you did. There are people out there willing to be friends with you. Just look at all the people you have here! You are an awesome person and great to talk to! :) Invite people to do things, maybe see if you can get involved in some activities. Take an interest in what other people like. In the end, I know you'll find that person. It took me 17 years or so to find that person. But I think I've finally found him :) I know you will too. I wish you the best of luck!

[Sonic Boom]

Well, this certainly sounds familiar. I have been in the same boat countless times, almost all my life. I know how disheartening it can be when you continually are rejected or pushed off to the side. Don't give up, though. I am NOT a conversationalist at all--I think it's incredibly difficult. But over time, one gets a bit better at holding it, whether they realize it or not. In situations like you and I, it does take a bit of practice. But persevere through it, and you will be glad you did. There are people out there willing to be friends with you. Just look at all the people you have here! You are an awesome person and great to talk to! :) Invite people to do things, maybe see if you can get involved in some activities. Take an interest in what other people like. In the end, I know you'll find that person. It took me 17 years or so to find that person. But I think I've finally found him :) I know you will too. I wish you the best of luck!

Thanks Clint, that meant a lot :)

[Gigablue]

I've always had trouble talking to people and thus never really had friends. In the past it was far worse and in the earlier grades I almost never talked to anyone. As a result, I was usually ignored by others.

For me, the key to making friends is finding people with many common interests. Try joining clubs or sports teams at school. If you join a club that interests you, you will probably meet some people similar to you. Don't try too hard to make friends, just be yourself and try to have fun. Also, don't worry what other people think of you.

It may take a while before you find someone you can call a friend, but you will eventually find someone. Also, set reasonable goals about having friends. You don't need to be the most popular person ever, you just need one or two good friends.

[Emiil]

Don't want to be mean or anything but I don't think reading guides on how to make friends will help you get any.
I don't really know you as a person but you could try talking more to people, be friendly and try to be yourself. What do you like to do? Try to find people with the same hobbies as you. You could also try to join a sport or something. Chat with them on facebook and stuff like that.

[Sonic Boom]

Don't want to be mean or anything but I don't think reading guides on how to make friends will help you get any.
I don't really know you as a person but you could try talking more to people, be friendly and try to be yourself. What do you like to do? Try to find people with the same hobbies as you. You could also try to join a sport or something. Chat with them on facebook and stuff like that.

I've always had trouble talking to people and thus never really had friends. In the past it was far worse and in the earlier grades I almost never talked to anyone. As a result, I was usually ignored by others.

For me, the key to making friends is finding people with many common interests. Try joining clubs or sports teams at school. If you join a club that interests you, you will probably meet some people similar to you. Don't try too hard to make friends, just be yourself and try to have fun. Also, don't worry what other people think of you.

It may take a while before you find someone you can call a friend, but you will eventually find someone. Also, set reasonable goals about having friends. You don't need to be the most popular person ever, you just need one or two good friends.

That doesn't seem helpful now does it?


This is the best I've heard. Try doing sports In school, maybe you'll develop a camaraderie with potential teammates.

Thanks guys for your advice :). Unfortunately, meeting people with similar interests, joining a sports team, being myself, being kind/considerate etc. does not mean I will be automatically liked. So this has been my problem for as long as I can remember.

I suppose one would have to know me properly to tell me where I'm going wrong conversation-wise.

[Empty Spaces]

I think you just need to relax. You can't be automatically liked, it takes time because people want to get to know you first. :) And yeah, i agree, you should ask someone who knows you better, parents or anyone in your family, i think they might be able to help. I hope things will get better for you.

[Dyl.l.]

I'm Sure you will find some friends just don't push them to be your friends. You need to find someone that has the same intreats as you.:)

[TheBigUnit]

Listen here bud,
in gatherings and such(idk a place where you meet new people) introduce yourself "hey I'm ...... Nice to meet u (they'll say their name), always look confident, start talking about stuff you both might like tv shows are easy, Thts all I have to say pretty loose help ha

Ps don't smile too much, ppl will think ur head is loose,
Some ppl with anxiety disorders can be spazmatic, try to repress
And confidence, be confident u Have nothing to lose

[TheBigUnit]

....also most people are open to talk and meet new ppl so don't be shy

[xXl0sth0peXx]

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