How to make more guy friends?!

[Xtechno14x]

Hey! Well. I have NO guy friends at all.. Most of all of my friends are girls.. And some people call me Gay, and im not Gay, at all. I don't really like to play games, or sports.. But here is the problem, I cant really make guy friends.. Whenever they talk to me, and I go to talk back, I start feeling weird, and awkward.. And I start thinking about what they think of me.. Any tips on how I can make more guy friends this school year? I'm going into 9th grade..
Thanks!;)

[Foamy]

Be yourself.

[LaxFB3]

Just be yourself, talk about what you're interested in, and find common ground that you and the other guy share. Also, try to see if any of your girl friends can introduce you to their other guy friends

[nikkiewebb]

1st year of high school can be tough. Just be yourself, they will feel more comfortable around you if you do. Dont give a second thought to anybody being an ass to you. However, in highschool, guy will dig u if you hang with an attractive girl or two. Most guys are looking for an equal for a friend, so dont treat them like inferiors, but dont let them push you around. Good luck in highschool.

[Sabercat]

Hey! Well. I have NO guy friends at all.. Most of all of my friends are girls.. And some people call me Gay, and im not Gay, at all. I don't really like to play games, or sports.. But here is the problem, I cant really make guy friends.. Whenever they talk to me, and I go to talk back, I start feeling weird, and awkward.. And I start thinking about what they think of me.. Any tips on how I can make more guy friends this school year? I'm going into 9th grade..
Thanks!;)
I have the same problem... I know, let's be friends!!!

[curiousme]

I know exactly how you feel i dont have many guy friends either i have a few but i dont hangout with any of them ever except for one who ive known since we were like 5 years old but im secretly bi..no one knows though and im not in to any sports either but i play video games occasionally...

[LikeAJay]

be yourself HA.uhm i have guy friends. Im fat and im fast thoguht. I play sports. I really dont have gy friends but i talk to tem.I play soccer. I guess im good at it.

[Coolguy10890]

Hey! Well. I have NO guy friends at all.. Most of all of my friends are girls.. And some people call me Gay, and im not Gay, at all. I don't really like to play games, or sports.. But here is the problem, I cant really make guy friends.. Whenever they talk to me, and I go to talk back, I start feeling weird, and awkward.. And I start thinking about what they think of me.. Any tips on how I can make more guy friends this school year? I'm going into 9th grade..
Thanks!;)

Oh my god you sound exactly like me!!! Yea… I don't like it when ppl judge me…

Just try to be yourself.
P.S. I went to a camp and nobody judged me there. They were all nice to me.
Maybe you could go somewhere else for a bit (not move) andd make new friends!

[FullyAlive]

This may be better suited here
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[chiliguy]

I had the same problem!! I couldn't stand guys at all. My longest friendship with guys would always last 1 year. Anyway, I made some guy friends by talking to them about girls. The girl I like, giving and receiving advice and stuff... Music can also help you. Find some guys that like the same music as you and start talking! Good luck buddy ;)

[WonderTastic]

I HAVE THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM. I dont know why but I just cant seem to make guy friends or atleast not alot. I already was thoought to be gay and i came out as pan(bi) at schoool. I had guys secretly hit on me and stuff but i dont have many guy friends. Hopfuly i get some this year or a boyfriend that is mega awesome would do. LOL

[PleasureMe7777]

Good Question...

[LatinaVivit]

Ehh guy friends are overrated. Besides, you should be friends to people with whom you feel comfortable; don't try and make friends because of peer-pressure. If you feel comfortable around guys then be my guest haha.

Anyways, that's really all the advice I can give; straight guys and I don't really mesh haha

[runnerz]

I think the best thing you can do is just to be yourself and try to make friends with people based on your interests. Say you join a club, or a sports team in high school. As you can see from these responses, other guys feel the same way as you do. You're bound to make some guy friends.

In my case, interests lead me to some great friends. Even though I wasn't the "jock" type, I did play some sports and made some guy friends. My personality was different then theirs, yet they still accepted me. Being a team does that. So my advice is just to join some team, cause, or effort and see where that takes you.

You said that you get nervous as to whether guys judge you when you talk to them. That's normal. because humans always care to a certain degree what others think of them. Otherwise we'd go around picking our noses because we wouldn't care what anyone thinks. We will always care to a certain degree, the key is to view it this way. Someone you would want as your friend would accept you for who you are. Switch the pressure from you to them. When they talk to you, don't think of it as trying to be good enough to get them to like you. Think of it as, "if this person would make a good friend, he would like me for who I am."

[Allbutanillusion]

I have asked the same question before in regards to making friends and have received varied opinions/suggestions. From reading your post, you seem to struggle with self assurance/ confidence. I have to at times, and may always will. It is not easy when when you allow the fact that you are on display, being evaluated and judged. You have to learn to try to ignore the feelings/nervousness associated with being judged in the moment even though it will be ever present when meeting/dealing people and in groups situations and try to present yourself in the best possible way as you can at that time.

Also I think that it tends to be harder to make guy friends than girlfriends because the physical appearance is not in your advantage as much as it is when dealing with girls, Don't misunderstand me, it does play a role but not to the extent it does in making girlfriends (when I say girlfriends, I don't am not referring dating) I have read that during the first 3-5 seconds of meeting someone new, that person or people have already formed an opinion about you. And most of that opinion is based on your physical appearance.

I know this may seem odd, but if your issue is nervousness and speaking, maybe you could "practice" with some existing friends or some people who you are semi comfortable around. Just to get practice at starting an or carrying on random conversation.

Well, that is my opinion based on my own experiences, Even though someone who has an easy time making friends may have a different opinion, but I hope that it may help you or at least give you some insight and a new perspective.